Wifey and Baby Mama

Shun (00:37.114)
I'm Shawn.

Shannon (00:38.562)
Hi, and I'm Shannon.

Shun (00:40.546)
And we're the host of Wifey and Baby Mama. Happy Thursday, family, and happy Thursday, Baby Mama.

Shannon (00:46.646)
Happy Thursday.

Shun (00:49.42)
Welcome back my peeps. Welcome back to ours 11th episode. We are on the countdown to the season finale We only have four weeks left before the season ends and we head into a new year I know you guys don't understand how much we appreciate you hanging in there with us as the holiday approaches Shannon we are so lucky as unlisted holes or non celebrities Just starting out, you know that that people show up for the way, you know, they show up. It's wonderful

Shannon (01:00.674)
Wow. Yes.

Shannon (01:13.908)
Yes. Yeah.

They do, they do.

Shun (01:18.478)
and we appreciate you. We pray you've enjoyed our shift this season to include more love and relationship issues and blended families and otherwise. And tonight's topic is no different. It's mending the two. Episode 11 is titled, You Left Now What? And that will cover kind of the flip side of last week's topic from nagging to nothing where we talked about how partners.

Shannon (01:21.869)
Yeah.

Shun (01:45.43)
with the other one to meet their needs, know, help them feel loved and all those other things you shouldn't have to ask someone Shannon to do, right? But if they're really into you it comes naturally, but you know If you want to be whole and happy sometimes you make an unhealthy amount of attempts to have them treat you the way that you deserve Hoping they'll get it right until finally you just give up realizing for whatever reason they are unable or unwilling to meet your needs So you move on to what serves you well tonight?

Shannon (01:51.714)
Right, right.

huh.

Shannon (02:03.234)
Yeah, yes, yeah.

Shannon (02:12.512)
Yeah.

Shun (02:15.276)
We're going to dive into people who don't bother making those attempts or maybe they're the ones who say I'm I'm not doing all that. I'm gone, you know, and they just leave But when the new partner comes along They want to double back Shannon and you know With their demands and how things should run in the house and how you choose the you know You chose to walk out of that house, but because you have kids there You think that you can come back and lay some rules down?

Shannon (02:19.95)
Don't bother.

Mm-hmm. Yeah.

Shun (03:09.956)
Okay, so now We're gonna get into the flip side of last week's episode I was gonna I know what I'm gonna say is gonna shock some of you to the core But guess who can't relate tonight Guess who have no personal point of view Drama Queen Sean. Okay, the relationship disaster master dodge this one. Okay

Shannon, I got nothing.

But y'all know now I'm gonna get my two cents. I have 150 siblings, cousins, nieces, nephews, and a host of friends and family as a biturier say. So I'll have some intel for you, just not my own, if you can believe it.

Shannon (03:45.218)
Right. Right. Right.

Shannon (03:54.05)
Mm-hmm. Wow. Well, let's hear it. Let's hear it.

Shun (04:03.512)
Now, Shannon, I remember you saying about last week's topic that you would have to ask your siblings, you know, after a counseling session, you know, with them or whatever, what did you learn from this, you know, or whatever? And they would say, I learned not to mess with no good. And you said, so you really learned nothing at all. Well, in this case, you know, that's what I learned. I'm going to have to come back with some stuff I learned from my siblings, you know, I'm saying, and some breakups.

Shannon (04:19.192)
you

Hey.

Shun (04:30.446)
Because sometimes it's hard for us to see when we're in it, right? Well, that's the kind of input I have for you guys tonight. What I saw from the outside looking at, because again, the relationship master disaster girl is not in this one tonight. But I have experienced it with a few female family members, Shannon, but mostly with the males. I mostly have recollection of them when it comes to you left, now what? Not all, but most males in my family, especially at younger ages,

Shannon (04:34.642)
yeah.

Shun (04:59.78)
famous for walking out, not one to man up, you know, or step up and stop running, you know, the streets, basically to raise their families and they just leave the girl and the kids and go live their best life, baby. Okay. Have visiting, you know, have supporting, not giving money, not showing, doctors appointments, you know, just being irresponsible and what happens eventually those females stop crying. They bossed up.

Shannon (05:03.33)
Yeah.

Shannon (05:11.212)
Right.

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

Yeah. Yeah.

Shannon (05:25.516)
Right. Yep.

Shun (05:25.53)
Which is always my advice baby, even when I was younger I would tell them girls girl by you better leave them You better move on stop all that crying to go do what you got to do You know, and that's that's just what we should tell each other's women sitting there moping around ain't gonna change a thing You know, but anyways, they eventually got it together and honey they go They wouldn't found them a new man a new stepdad father figure whatever Wearing the matching pajamas, you know at Christmas sitting at church with her all the stuff that was begging the other dude to do right

Shannon (05:31.648)
you

Shannon (05:40.718)
Yeah.

Shannon (05:50.862)
you

Mm-hmm, mm-hmm, mm-hmm.

Shun (05:54.906)
The whole nine yards. Now here they come back hating. Don't have that ninja around my kids. He better not be at the house after nine o'clock. He better not cut my son here. Whatever. And the females, the same thing. Don't have that such-and-such touching my baby here, feeding my child, know, whatever. But listen, when you leave Shannon, all those rules, they leave with you, baby.

Shannon (05:59.766)
Right. Yeah. Yeah.

Shannon (06:15.628)
Right.

Shannon (06:20.77)
That's right. That's right. And Sean, I know you've seen too where they left and they were taking care of somebody else's kids. So the impact that that has on their children, we still deal with this today in my marriage with my husband, his grown children still have an issue with him leave. Well, I mean, they got divorced. wasn't.

Shun (06:32.59)
DURR-O

Mm-hmm. absolutely.

Shun (06:44.346)
Mm-hmm.

Shannon (06:49.734)
just running or anything like that. the fact that when, I think when they needed him the most, you know, because of the issue or whatever he had going on, he's like, okay, I'm, I've moved on and now I'm taking care of somebody else. But then he come back and have problems with, you know, the, new dude in the picture as well. It's like, you can't have it both ways. You know, you cannot have these other people.

Shun (07:13.05)
that's right, that's right.

Shannon (07:17.908)
or these other kids that you're quote unquote claiming as your own. Cause you know, guys that do it the same way women to do it. They're trying to get in with the new person. And so they act like they love these other people's children so much. And I'm not, I wasn't there with him. So I don't know if he really did care for this, this other woman's children, but for the most part, we see that that they really don't because they'll walk away from those kids the same way they walked away from their own. So, you know,

Shun (07:37.583)
Right.

Shannon (07:46.626)
for people to get caught up in that. And it has such an impact on your biological children. And it takes a lot of time to heal and talking through things and getting past stuff. And I've talked about this before. Once you get a certain age, if you can't get past it, don't leave it on that biological parent. I think once you're over 30,

Shun (08:14.766)
That's right.

Shannon (08:16.526)
And you're still acting like you're eight. You know, it's like you're gonna bring your own self down, you know, constantly blaming this. Yeah.

Shun (08:27.578)
We talk to my younger siblings about that all the time because our parents, all of our parents are gone, you know? And we tell them, I tell them, I can't say we, I tell them, I get it. You know, it's a hard place to be in, but at some point you have to stand on your own two feet. Yeah, we had a hard life, you know? Yeah, mom kind of was out there. Yeah, dad's wasn't around all the time, but hey, you know what? We all come from the same environment. At some point you gotta be responsible for your own actions. But I totally get that.

Shannon (08:36.035)
Yeah.

Shannon (08:44.172)
That's right.

Shannon (08:52.844)
Yeah.

Shun (08:57.582)
But I want to go back to something you said about, you know, that it was a mutual divorce, like they left, he didn't just leave, they agreed to divorce, whatever. I also want to talk about how this applies and this doesn't apply either to parents who break up sensibly, even if it isn't a divorce or higher feelings, you know, parents who break up sensibly and work out schedules, you know, and lay out the do's and don'ts like adults. I know we shouldn't have to point out the obvious, but it's in a day and age that we don't assume, right? We got to make this clear.

Shannon (09:13.998)
Hmm.

Shannon (09:25.176)
That's right.

Shun (09:25.379)
So we're not talking about if you come to a sensible agreement and you say, you know, in this agreement, we're both agreeing to separate divorce, whatever words you choose or whatever have you, however it applies. But I would like Shannon, you know, not to be out at their nine because she's only 14. I would like Frankie, you know, not to go to an all boys school because I heard a lot of bad things happen in those kinds of schools. Whatever, you know, those are just examples. If you agree to that.

Shannon (09:41.986)
Mm-hmm.

Shannon (09:49.536)
Mm-hmm. Right, right.

Shun (09:55.608)
If you agree to that mutually, I'm sorry if you agree to that mutually Shannon and then a new dude comes in trying to change that now That's when I think you make an exception. That's when I think the parent who stayed or woman Now that's when you can you can book because if we sensibly agree to this Don't let nobody new come in telling me what my child could do and I'm showing up and I'm paying my child support and I'm there and I'm present Now that's where this topic does not apply because sometimes Shannon we say this a lot

Shannon (10:05.239)
Yeah, yeah.

Shannon (10:10.668)
Right.

Shannon (10:21.323)
That's right.

Shun (10:24.13)
Sometimes it doesn't work. Sometimes things doesn't work.

Shannon (10:26.292)
It doesn't. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Yep.

Shun (10:29.602)
I love my husband with everything inside of me. have since I was 19 Regardless of the other baby daddies and other relationships of the many other in between whatever I love him and I will do anything to make this work But I can't tell you that I I can guarantee you will be married five ten twenty years from now Sometimes things just doesn't work. You know what? I mean, I pray that we are I hope that we are because again I don't have to be with the whole another one But again, if he and I sensibly sit down and this is what it is

Shannon (10:35.63)
Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

Shannon (10:40.3)
Right.

Shannon (10:47.816)
Right. Mm-hmm, mm-hmm. Yeah.

Shun (10:59.129)
That's when this does not apply. people again, we shouldn't have to point out the obvious, but Shannon and I are not professional doctors. We're not psychiatrists. We have no schooling in this. I don't want to mislead anyone. We simply simply want to give you our experiences and what we've learned growing pains. That's all we want to give you now. So if by all means, that's what we that's what we encourage here on Wife and Baby Momma. Do trial and error. Get professional help.

Shannon (11:17.262)
Yeah.

Shannon (11:26.03)
Mm-hmm.

Shun (11:28.068)
Get professional counsel. We both have you know, whatever you need to do But again our experiences is what we leave the show off of and it's simply that but if you leave out and stomp out like a child Shannon if you leave it to a grown person another grown person that's to pick up and carry on and figure out It you know, it is what it is. I will say I haven't dealt with any negativity with this situation But I'll just say this with my ex-husband. I think I've said before I recap it He left without notice Shannon because he was hurt

Shannon (11:28.736)
Yes, yes.

Shannon (11:57.484)
Yes, yeah.

Shun (11:58.106)
He didn't sit down with me and discuss the proper way we'd rear the girls or split responsibilities or schooling tuition Because he thought if he just left me high and dry I fold you know, but baby I'm built for it tough, honey So I kept right on rocking, know, it hurt but it had to be done You know, read the book I cry in the shower, baby I put my cape on I come out my s on my chest I figure it out But when he realized how he it was messed up the way that he left, you know

Shannon (12:12.782)
Yeah, yeah, yeah. That's right, that's right.

Shun (12:26.712)
He did come back and say, know, his parents, what can I do to help? What do you need for a month? How can I help you? And it went smoothly from there. So, you know, we got to give people grace, you know, in pain sometimes, Shannon, we make bad decisions, but it wasn't the case. Yeah, but it wasn't the case that he just left and was like, I'm going to see how she figured. and I met somebody else. He was like, no, this ain't, this ain't going to happen. He did have one little incident, you know, when he figured out Jimmy and I were back together. He says, I was right all along. He's like, no.

Shannon (12:34.104)
Mm-hmm.

Shannon (12:38.904)
but that's the truth.

Shun (12:55.074)
Yes, I still had feelings for him, but no, wasn't, you know, involved with him in any way. You know that I lived with you. You know, I didn't see him. He said, but you went back to him. I'm like, that's just the way fate would have it. And he did say one time, well, he better not touch my door. He can touch the other two. And I said, you left my boy. He don't get to make those calls. Is she acting up with the mother kids? She going to get smoked with the mother too. Cause we believe in it. And that was, you know, quick little conversation, but girl, you have to set Jimmy on fire before he touched them kids.

Shannon (13:02.51)
All right.

Yeah.

Shannon (13:18.382)
you

Shannon (13:23.342)
yeah, boys are different. Yeah, yeah.

Shun (13:24.526)
He ain't gonna touch the little girl now Frank be having a hard way to go but he ain't gonna do nothing the yeah, Honey, but he ain't gonna do nothing to little girls, but think That's pretty much everything I had real life Do you have another real life topic because now I want to discuss a video Shannon. I saw really quick I think we should we saw it together and we discussed it. Do you have any more real life examples or? Discussions that you would like to bring on tonight's topic

Shannon (13:36.142)
Yeah.

Shannon (13:44.236)
Yeah.

Shannon (13:47.994)
we did.

I know. Yeah, let's get to the video. Well, yeah, let's get to the video or the excerpt from one of my favorite shows.

Shun (13:58.542)
the beer.

Okay, so this video is from I think it was a couple years ago. Could have been last year Y'all know it all runs together because i've been doing too much

Shannon (14:07.422)
No, was this current season. Yeah, I think it's the current season. You know, the current season of, it was split and...

Shun (14:12.056)
It was this far in the series, the video of wife and baby mama. So yeah, so it's a few months ago.

Shannon (14:20.555)
from Huntsville earlier this year I believe.

Shun (14:25.988)
Wait a minute. Let me ask you this that video was from an actual show Shannon that we're talking I did not know I just Know I just thought it was a video Are you kidding me Shannon? So it's from something you actually watch. This is like real people

Shannon (14:31.698)
yeah, yeah, yeah. you don't watch that show. I thought, no, I am not kidding you. Yes, yes, I used them the other week, I think, as one of my fictional families, but they weren't fictional, but yeah, yeah, yeah. But yeah, let's get into it.

Shun (14:49.434)
I know that you use them but-

Shun (14:56.282)
So this guy so it was a dad. Okay, so I know it's a real show because listen y'all and please forgive me I've been making movies and stuff. Y'all I don't get to watch TV. I don't get to do anything I like the Detroit one. I didn't realize so that's the Huntsville one Wow, okay, so it was a dad Discussing how he feels about the mother and properly influencing the kids because they told him like they felt some kind of way that he left him and he's like

Shannon (15:01.805)
Yeah. Right, right. Yes, that's the Huntsville one. Yeah, yeah.

Shun (15:25.59)
I think the mother's encouraging them. She's putting word in their mouth and the guy counseling the kids is like how do these kids He's like no, she doesn't have to put work kids are impressionable, you know kids can see they can feel Their mother didn't tell you to leave you chose to leave, you know, and He was like no, that's their feelings He said and that dude is a bit delusional now that part took me out and he was right see what you can't do ladies and gentlemen

Shannon (15:37.162)
Yeah.

Shannon (15:42.85)
That's right.

Shannon (15:50.709)
I know.

Shun (15:53.272)
You can't leave a situation because you feel that's what's best for you. Then expect the other parent to cushion or cover the kids feelings towards you because of your decision. That's on you. Now, Shannon, you tell me since you watch it, what's your take on it?

Shannon (16:04.61)
Mm-hmm, that's on you. Yeah. I totally agree when he was speaking. And typically for the other, guy, the smart dude in the situation, his name is escaping me right now. That's a friend. normally he's, I'm normally against everything he does on the show and everything he says on the show.

Shun (16:23.748)
That's cancer.

Shannon (16:33.9)
But he was on point, you know, letting him know, can't expect, you know, not only did he leave, he left the state, you know, he moved from Huntsville to Atlanta. He was nowhere around, nowhere near. And then once his wife, because actually they're still married and you have to watch the show to see, but they're not even divorced yet. But...

Shun (17:00.986)
That just legally separated.

Shannon (17:02.932)
Yes, exactly. And, but when she moved on and, has been dating a guy that has become a father figure to his children and is giving his kids everything he needs to wear his own daughter says, I want this guy to be my dad. And he gets mad at the wife or the ex wife or whatever she's going to be. I totally thought,

Shun (17:04.302)
Okay, okay.

Shannon (17:32.17)
you know, that was a ridiculous, you know, stance he was trying to make and, you know, for him to be called out on that and pretty much told you're an idiot. If you think you're, you're, you're a complete idiot. If you want your children to, to live with someone else that they can't turn to, they can't lean on, you want, you know,

Shun (17:45.772)
Yeah, he did say that.

Shannon (18:01.858)
this new do to ignore your kids, especially that line where he said, she comes home crying, do you want him to give her a hug? And the guy that he said, no.

Shun (18:12.322)
He said no Like what is wrong with this dude? Let me tell you something as much as Chris kind of like despised Jimmy and I get back together cuz he's like man that is kind of a bad feeling I guess like like she actually left me and went back to her ex and that is kind of messed up so I see where he's coming from on that, but he doesn't behave that way and JJ loves Jimmy's dirt off the boots as much as I do. Okay, and Chris is okay with that

Shannon (18:30.862)
Mm.

Right, right.

Shannon (18:38.806)
Yeah, yeah, right.

Shun (18:41.336)
Because he realizes that he loves J brown just as much as he does So when when we have punishment issues when we have tuition, she recently had her braces put on we all sit down Okay, how much who got what? you know the dad's I got this much Jimmy like I got this much. Okay. I got this much like that's what we do You know what I'm saying? Because whatever the insurance didn't cover guess what we had to cover and we didn't say he didn't so I don't want him paying for my daughter's braces like what like that's so freaking the word that

Shannon (18:58.734)
Mm-hmm. Right.

Shannon (19:04.75)
Yeah.

Shun (19:11.298)
Delusional that's the word like dude is out. He's out of his mind so I totally when I saw that I'm like this is so far-fetched because That would be like like I just said my ex husband saying well I don't want him deciding what color her prom just is gonna be excuse me He's taking her to the store to buy it because you're in another state sir, know, like what is really going on? So I'm so happy. I don't have to deal with that. I'm so happy. I can't relate to the night's topic

Shannon (19:12.79)
Mm-hmm, disu-sional. Mm-hmm, yep.

Shannon (19:31.216)
Mm-hmm. Yeah, yeah. Yeah.

Shun (19:39.086)
You guys don't know how refreshing this is. It is really refreshing.

Shannon (19:40.174)
Right, yeah. And I mean, and I never had to deal with it either for obvious reasons. Yeah, yeah, but.

Shun (19:51.034)
Yeah Because I'm the bomb step mom so yeah, thanks

Shannon (19:55.85)
Yeah.

Shannon (20:01.43)
Yeah, never had to deal with any of that drama. And even on the flip side, don't think Jimmy ever, never once did he say, you know, who's around my son, you know, the only time, you know, Jimmy ever had an issue with my parenting was, you know, cause Jay was sick most of his life in and out of the hospital, Buffalo Children's Hospital, Duke University Hospital and all that. So there were issues that came up.

Shun (20:15.594)
Right. That's right.

Shun (20:26.18)
Right.

Shannon (20:31.34)
you know, over the years around, you know, what are you doing wrong? And I'm like, he was born this way. didn't do, I didn't do this to him, you know. So we would have just a little bit of conflict there, but nothing about, you know, what guy do you have around my son? You know, who, and, you know, who do you have him calling daddy, which I never did, you know, I never, I would have never based on my own experience being forced.

Shun (20:37.291)
Exactly.

Shun (20:55.951)
Right.

Shannon (21:00.642)
to call another man dad. I would never do that, yep. Wouldn't do that.

Shun (21:03.214)
Yeah, we had that on a previous episode. We wouldn't do that. And even like JJ, as much as she loves her biological father, and she admires, she adores that man. It was her choice to call Jimmy dad because of the love he showed her. She just said, I can call him dad. I'm like, well, that's up to you, baby. I said, well, ask it. And you know him, he ain't gonna turn no girl, no, no child down. That boy loves him. He's adorable father. He's a great parent, a great uncle. He's a great godfather. Jimmy's just a great aunt and a man. And we had to work on that part.

Shannon (21:12.63)
Yeah. See? Mm-hmm. Exactly. Exactly. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Yeah. Yeah.

Shun (21:33.124)
But when it comes to them babies, he knew how to take care of the kids, honey. So she received that. And I'm so happy that we as a whole didn't experience that even in our blend. You know, it was wonderful for us. So yeah, that was mind boggling. I can't believe that's a real story. So that's all I have on the topic itself, Shannon. Do you have anything else to bring?

Shannon (21:35.298)
Right, exactly.

Shannon (21:42.36)
Mm-hmm. Yeah.

Shannon (21:56.024)
No, I don't.

Shun (21:58.206)
All right, family, we'll wrap up with this real sweet, real sweet, real simple. You know, if it's your decision to leave a relationship for whatever reason, you are by all means free to do so, you know, but please keep in mind, once you do, you no longer get to decide what's best for that household you left behind. Of course, that negates any abuse, maltreatment, you know, things of that nature. Again, I know these are things we shouldn't have to say, but we'd like to make it real clear. However,

Shannon (22:21.342)
Mm-hmm.

Shannon (22:26.306)
Yeah, yeah.

Shun (22:27.082)
As long as that parent that is left to stay and deal with at home is raising a healthy whole child or children, if it's more than one, and making sound financial decisions, your right to make the demands are called the shots left right when you did.

It's a bit alright on to the next segment

Shannon (22:46.228)
I totally agree. Amen and amen.

Shannon (22:54.824)
Here you go girl.

Shun (22:57.994)
We've come to our Sweet Little Lies segment and tonight's Sweet Little Lies comes from a woman who faked an illness to avoid dating someone she actually liked. But she was hoping and waiting to see if she could mend things with her ex-husband. So she wrote and I quote, I knew the guy liked me and was really into me. So I faked ill so he could hang around and help me out without the romantic factor coming into play.

in hopes that my husband would feel the need to step in because we've been together for so long and he would sympathize with me. Well, not so. My ex-husband moved on in spite of and married someone else. I decided at that point to tell the other guy we might as well give it another try, give it a romantic try, only to find out he'd been dating someone else for the last three months because I told him my illness wouldn't allow me to date.

That night caused me someone who genuinely wanted me and I lost that opportunity chasing what had been. Wow.

Shannon (24:02.414)
Wow, wow, that's very deep, that's very deep. faking an illness.

Shun (24:04.654)
That's deep. That's I ain't got nothing else. Yep, she faked the illness hoping that we get ain't that crazy. I mean, I can't say it's crazy the things we do for love though. So we're not here to judge you. I'm just telling you listening to the outcome of her story. The only thing I'm going to say is this to a general audience to a abroad base. Let the past be that what's meant to be will be.

Shannon (24:16.558)
That's crazy.

Shannon (24:21.166)
you

Shannon (24:31.68)
Yeah, right.

Shun (24:32.878)
We don't have to manipulate it. We don't have to trick it. None of that. What's meant to be will be. And I know that firsthand. And I know you guys know that from listening to the show. Yeah. So.

Shannon (24:40.506)
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Like you say, what's meant to be will be. we have heard so many times when people say, they're an X for a reason. They're an X for a reason. Sometimes they're not an X for a reason or not for a reason that's permanent. know, it's exactly. Yeah. Yeah.

Shun (24:56.228)
Sometimes Shannon, sometimes our timing is wrong, Shannon. Sometimes their exes, because something else needs to happen in between, you know? And I like to say this, and I'm not kidding. I think my two daughters in between were vessels. They were supposed to be on this earth. I was supposed to be their mom. But because Jimmy was in his situation where he was, they had to get here somehow, you know?

Shannon (25:15.288)
Yeah.

Shannon (25:20.781)
Right.

Shun (25:21.774)
So I believe in all of that. My two children were the purpose in those relationships in between because they bring so much joy and so much light. And my whole puzzle was complete with all four of my babies. So whatever the reason is, what's meant to be, we'll find this way back. So you're right. Not right now. Everything, everybody in X for a reason. And I'm not just saying that because of my situation, because sometimes X's are X's for a reason. So you gotta gauge that thing.

Shannon (25:30.048)
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

Shannon (25:36.76)
That's right.

Shannon (25:48.812)
Yeah, yeah, yeah, you have to know when to when to blow the bridge up. They say, don't burn bridges. No, sometimes you need to blow it up. Right.

Shun (25:53.754)
Sometimes you gotta blow that joint up full grenade full dynamite Alright so if you have a sweet little lie that you would like to get off your chest and listen We're not making fun of any situations here because these things are very personal so but we know we just do have to let you guys know like we have to just come out of the seriousness of it because That's not what this is. We share it. We move on and that's what it is

Shannon (26:03.424)
All right.

Shannon (26:12.14)
Yeah, yeah.

Shannon (26:18.904)
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

Shun (26:20.9)
But if you have a sweet little lie that you'd like to get off of your chest, know, you're welcome to email us at wifeyandbabymama at gmail.com. And that's wifeyandbabymama at gmail.com.

Shannon (26:34.218)
All right. Here we go now to our last segment of the night. And it is the fictional family that I feel, fire, forget. And the fictional family I'm using or the sitcom that I'm using for this today is, it aired for about two years. It's called Splitting Up Together. So it's kind of like the flip side of what we were talking about tonight.

where this couple played by Jenna Fisher and Oliver Hudson is Lena and Martin. They had three kids. Their marriage wasn't working and they decided to divorce. But in doing so, they did this thing called nesting. I don't know if you've ever heard of that, Sean, where the two divorce, the people still keep the same house for the kids. And then they

Shun (27:32.739)
Absolutely, I've heard of it.

Shannon (27:32.768)
Rotate who's in the house? Okay. Yes. So that's what they decided to do and in doing so Of course they had to witness each other dating Because one would come in one week. I think they did it one week on we one week off One parent was in the house with the kids and then the other one was in the garage attached to the house So they would still weren't far from the kids And so in doing so

Shun (27:59.789)
Okay.

Shannon (28:02.606)
they had some insight into whoever, each partner was dating and that stirred up a lot of feelings. and eventually, it made their marriage, I guess, come back together because they realized, Hey, I really don't want to see you dating or don't want to see other people around my kids. I don't want to see your boyfriend. I want to see your girlfriend or whatever.

Shun (28:28.846)
Right.

Shannon (28:32.354)
And it helped them appreciate what they really had as a family unit and what it meant for their children. And it's what I ultimately got out of the show. So not saying that would work for everyone, but the whole nesting thing and putting the kids first saying, as grown adults, we...

Shun (28:38.49)
and

Shannon (28:58.95)
we brought them here, you know, so let's try to do something to make this work. And for this family, it worked and they ended up, you know, reconciling. And like I said, the show was only on for a couple of years, but I thought it was very, very good and entertaining, you know, splitting up together. And so for this fictional family, I'm definitely filling them.

definitely feeling them because it's unique. And of course, like I said, it probably won't work for everyone or the majority of folks, it won't work for them, but it worked for them. And not all of this, you know, nesting these people that do the nesting, they don't typically get back together. But the, you know, the way this was written, this, this couple did reconcile and, you know, learn to look at themselves really truthfully and honestly and

their role in the demise of the marriage by them separating like this. So that's what I'm feeling about them. What about you, Shawn?

Shun (30:03.467)
Okay.

Shun (30:07.768)
Well, just from I'll be like the audience maybe of people that I've never saw it So if I'm just hearing this from the first time from your description, I'm going to feel them because in my situation with a six-year-old son and Jimmy and I being of age That would definitely be a thing for me if god forbid this were to ever this situation would ever demise or go We had to go our separate ways because I would never want my son to feel that I would never want him to feel that so

Shannon (30:17.174)
Alright.

Shannon (30:26.574)
Right. Mm-hmm.

Shun (30:35.99)
Adults like you said we created this situation. You know we got married and had a kid at a hundred years old so now why Now no now we're gonna break up his environment, too So I definitely would feel that because that would be something I would definitely consider if that if it ever came to that I think that's a wonderful. I think it's a great so I would definitely feel them

Shannon (30:42.539)
You

Right. Yeah.

Shannon (30:57.4)
Right, love it, splitting up together. Wish it would have stayed on. Yeah, it was only on, I think, couple years. Yeah, yeah. All right, well that is it for our show tonight. And for those around the world, and I did wanna call out, which we haven't done in a while, call out some of the new countries. And of course I won't get to.

Shun (31:01.338)
I've never heard of that. I know, said it sounds like it was pretty good. I never saw that. Okay.

Shannon (31:26.754)
All of them, but I'm just gonna call out a few as we say good night yeah, but Yeah, but a couple of new ones that are interesting to me or Morocco I'm like, my god. Yeah, yeah, Italy and Poland and Saudi Arabia so

Shun (31:31.086)
No, we can we can do them all on our last episode as we do our last episode. We'll get a full run out for you guys

Shun (31:43.864)
Hmm? Hmm. Okay.

Shun (31:54.532)
Wow.

Shannon (31:55.534)
Yeah, just a couple I wanted to call out, or a few I wanted to call out. But we thank you all for tuning in and listening around the globe. We are so very grateful to our audience and for those who write in, to those who critique, for those who love, hate, whatever you feel. We welcome it all. And we look forward to next week.

Shun (32:03.662)
Welcome.

Shun (32:19.862)
Yep, yep, need it all.

Shannon (32:26.981)
So have a good week all.

Shun (32:31.3)
Bye.