Wifey and Baby Mama

Shun (00:00)
Hey, I'm Sean.

Shannon (00:39)
Hi, and I'm Shannon.

Shun (00:41)
And we're the host of wifey and baby mama. Happy Thursday family. As always, we're excited to be with you guys another week. And we're gonna get right into this. This week's episode is titled, You Can't Rain Without Responsibility. Oh yeah, y'all better buckle up for this one. So on our, all right, buckle up. So on our premier episode last week, we discussed leading the submission and it was.

Shannon (01:01)
Yes!

Shun (01:09)
for the most part geared for married couples being, because we, like we just missed, leading and submission doesn't apply at the dating stage, right? Well, reigning without responsibility kind of does. It definitely does. It certainly applies in marriages as well. But as we've stated, dating that is geared toward marriage should be where we work out all the values, the likes, the dislikes, the finances, all that good stuff. Now we're fully aware, everyone is not dating to

Shannon (01:32)
Mm-hmm.

Shun (01:37)
marry.

So some are just having fun. Some are just expanding their social circle. Some are just, you know, getting to know different people, whatever. We get it. However, after a certain age, or just whenever two people decide, hey, I'm ready to take the next step, then here's where tonight's topic will hopefully come in handy. So, and if we date properly, you know, those points that we shared, I'm sorry, these points that we shared tonight, and those points that we shared in our previous episodes, shouldn't be something that spills over into a marriage.

Shannon (01:51)
Mm-hmm.

Shun (02:07)
But we know sometimes like Shannon and myself, we're not all together, you know, when we take those vows and we gotta work double to get our partners to understand and first even understand each other and understand things like a man ought to know. So during tonight's dialogue, like I said, hopefully we can touch on a few things to help you guys out, especially if kids are involved because not only are the two partners mending your lives, those babies will be adjusted to something new as well.

Shannon (02:12)
Uh-huh.

Right, exactly. So when you come into, on the dating scene, if you're dating with intention, you know what you want, he knows what he wants. You have to be honest about what you think your marriage is gonna be about. And I know a lot of people when you're dating, you wanna, I guess, put your representative out there or your best foot forward and you're not really speaking your mind

and.

Then you get in these marriages and you realize, wait a minute, why am I carrying all the load? That's because you didn't discuss these things beforehand. So there's a, exactly. So you have to be real when you're dating with intention. If you know what you want, don't act like you don't and be honest. So what if he's like, nah, I'm turned off by her because she's saying she wants this, that or whatever.

Shun (03:13)
in the first place.

Shannon (03:34)
That doesn't make you a gold digger. Let's not get it twisted with that. Cause some people say, oh, you're just looking for someone with money. No, you're looking for someone that you can build with. And if you're the only builder, you're the only one laying the bricks. You need to know that before you walk down. Exactly.

Shun (03:53)
I'll show far Right Now the first that's a good perspective and the first thing I want to say Shannon ends is kind of opposite to what you said We don't want it to be a financial ego angle on the man's behalf either You know when a new man comes into a woman's life, you know And he makes a significant amount of money and it's clear He'll be the primary great winner or finance of the home that doesn't qualify him to make all the calls and do know to make all the rules

Shannon (04:10)
Oh, right, right.

Shun (04:23)
and

Run things with the iron fish, you know money doesn't mean you're in charge solely Decisions and choices still should be a mutual act no matter how the money's looking You know because the that woman is already accustomed to her own way of doing things before you met And if children are involved in or they're in that mom and those kids will have an order or an understanding So it doesn't matter if you're the man or what your bank account looks like You have the responsibility to still sit down with your partner

Shannon (04:28)
Right.

Great.

Shun (04:52)
and come to a common conclusion of how a house will be ran. Your finances exclusively, that doesn't give you a right to exclude feelings.

Shannon (05:01)
Yeah, yeah. And I know so many women, I work in technology and so many people I work with are well off with women, single women. And they're looking for that man that makes more than they do. I've heard it so many times from friends of mine, single friends of mine who are looking for that special someone.

but they refuse to go with someone who makes less than they do. And my thing is, as long as that man is working, if he is, you know, his nose is to the grindstone, he ain't sitting around waiting on you to support him, you know, partner with him. You know, if his heart is pure, you recognize that this is a good man, regardless of if his paycheck.

you know, comes nowhere near yours. It's okay. That's not what we're saying today. We're not, we're not saying you got to go find someone that can outdo you. Make sure that you're looking at someone's heart and their intent and their, their integrity and everything that comes along with someone that, you know,

Shun (06:08)
That's right.

Shannon (06:20)
may have a job that makes $100,000 less than you. So what? He's working every day. He's putting in what he can put in and not, you know, disregard those individuals, cause I hear that so much. And it's disheartening to me because it's, I'm thinking about these women that are out here refusing to settle or not settle or, or accept.

a good man because their goal is whatever their goal is. Hey, I want the Mr. Big scenario from Sex and the City. I don't know if everyone knows that reference. But you're wanting that mega whatever when you can build that. You can take whatever he's doing and what you're doing and make something out of

Shun (07:01)
Yeah.

Thank you.

Shannon (07:14)
it.

Shun (07:14)
Yeah, I think a more modern reference than mr. Big that was back in our day now. It's um 50 shades of gray Remember christian gray they the girls looking for a christian gray, you know Just somebody can drop the dollars off and but look how he wanted women to be like basically slaves sex slaves to him But what you're saying reminds me of a point of the movie. Um daddy's little girl I don't know if we've talked about that in this show. I don't know if you ever saw it I know I think we did a fictional family. I did but

Shannon (07:17)
Ha ha!

Ah, okay. Yes, yes.

Blaze.

Shun (07:42)
He was Idris Elba. He was a member. He was a mechanic and you know, he's just had three daughters The mother really didn't want him. The grandmother was raising him then she passed so he was you know forced to not force but It came back to him. He wasn't ready to be a single father, but he had to be Sometimes we got to just stand up, right? And you know, he met Gabrielle Union and she was this corporate big-time attorney, you know And she made well into the Six Figures and her friends were setting up on all these blind

Shannon (07:42)
Yeah, you did.

Yeah, yeah.

right.

Shun (08:10)
dates

Like this just try this and try that one So he was like taking a second job to support his kids and he met her And she took it on his case in you know, they became you know, I fell in love and then her friends ridiculed her Now they were setting her up to go on blind dates where it was potential to run into a serial killer But it wasn't okay to date You know a regular everyday mechanic with three kids because he just wasn't up to their standards But thank god in the end she did the right thing and made me proud, you know

Shannon (08:28)
Ha ha ha.

Shun (08:39)
They got together and it was all love and hunky-dory, but seriously You can't let that stop you that can't be it and but besides finances, you know, Shannon I'll take it to another angle our personal angle my case. It wasn't finances, but because my husband Was coming back for the second time we were getting back together I was almost 40 with three kids and twice divorced. I had the finances figured out, you know, it was all me But once we started dating his thing was well

Shannon (08:40)
Yeah.

Shun (09:07)
No matter if I did have the finances if I was doing with everything. I'm the man So, you know, it's gonna get done this way, you know, wait, hold up pump your brakes, sir You know you haven't paid one mortgage payment sir. You have not paid one light bill You ain't even filled my car up yet. But you know, you got rules. I'm need you to have self-received boo. So Now, you know we had to we had to come to go, you know come to Jesus a couple of times But now Shannon some of the stuff he was saying Most of it was right most of the time

Shannon (09:16)
Hehehehe

All right.

Shun (09:36)
But as a single mom, sometimes I overcompensated for my kids. Like for instance, I work an hour from home, right? And some days I would get off late and I didn't wanna cook. Or some days I just didn't cook because you girl, you know, that's a challenge. I'm not that good. But anyways, I would just get takeout. Now these little girls wouldn't pick one place. They would have me go to three different restaurants, Shannon. And I had a guilt because I worked so much. I know, right? I would do it.

Shannon (09:41)
Right.

Shun (10:02)
So my husband happened to be visiting me in Alabama one week before we were married again And you know we get in the car and they started saying I want this I want that and finally I get to the oldest And she wants KFC, but when we get to KFC, they don't have what she but she wants So I said could you just choose something else? You know, like I'm really tired and I've been to two other places and she's like no So girl, I could start my car up in Jimmy. He's what you doing? I Said I'm just gonna go somewhere else. I just

I just don't have time for it. He's like, no, stop the car. So I put the car, and I'm like, no, I said, it's fine. He's like, listen, stop the car. He said a little more for him. The girl threw that car in park so fast. He turned around, he said, listen, your mother is tired. You know, she's tired. And that's a little, and consider, you know, what you guys are doing. And then he turned around and told all of them, this won't ever happen again. This is unfair to your mom. And I just sat there sobbing, and like, I knew he was right.

But I had never had the heart to say to them like seriously guys because like I said, I worked so much I felt guilty but I also knew that they were gonna feel like I'm let this do fly down here for a week try to tell us what to do. No Now mind you the oldest our oldest daughter is his biological child, right and he's And he's always been very active with the other two, you know that from the book So it's not like he's just some strange guy

Shannon (11:00)
Mm-hmm.

Right, yeah.

I'm going to go to bed.

It is right.

Oh yeah.

Shun (11:27)
But I knew everybody was gonna have an attitude and as soon as he left it was like girl Now he wasn't contributing financially, you know, we had not discussed that at the time. We were just like really dating but In that moment, it was just common sense and then he could be said, you know what I mean? So whether he was paying bills or not that was something and because I you know I was into church and I was like, you know, he's right and so sometimes we can't mix the two It doesn't matter if he's paying a bill or not like right is right

Shannon (11:39)
Right.

Yeah.

Shun (11:57)
And if that person loves you, they're going to defend you. So yeah, that's just a different angle. I had to put on that now.

Shannon (11:58)
Right.

Mm-hmm. Right. Yeah. And there comes a time too, you know, in marriage or in just life in general, there's a situation that arises where you can't work. He can't work or you can't work or somebody isn't able, you know, then of course that's where your vows kick in for better, for worse, or whatever, rich or poor, sickness and health. And then you step in. But if you're both able-bodied people and you've gone into it,

Shun (12:17)
Mm-mm.

That's right. That's right. Absolutely.

Shannon (12:33)
with intention and having the discussion, you know, this is how I see finance. And a lot of young people can't have those hard conversations because they are hard to have, you know, like even asking someone, what's your credit score? But I got married late in life. So me and my husband, we had these discussions, you know, before going in because we were old. So I think that made it a lot

Shun (12:35)
Mm-hmm.

That's right. They are.

Right.

right But for the most part it's not it's not yeah, it's not Conduced it's not really a natural thing to get married at 50 You know we date for a little while in our early 20s is you know, that's really what we're shooting for But in my case, you know I've had three i've had three marriages before 50. So everything ain't convenient. You know, everything is not You know everything is not Book by book and word by word, but I get what you're saying, you know

Shannon (13:00)
easier too.

It's like wait, wait a minute.

Right. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Yes, yes, yes. Right, right, right.

Shun (13:29)
It's hard conversations, but now you said if someone's hurting they can't work But let's do the flip side of that or someone it's just choosing not to do so Once he and I decided to get married and I moved back to Buffalo now He's in home with me right and he's considered my other half, right? So he passing out rules and laying down laws like it ain't nobody business The only problem at that time was you staying out all night on your motorcycle to four or five in the morning You know, you ain't coming to church with the family. You live in your best life, right?

Shannon (13:30)
Yeah.

I'm going to go ahead and close the video.

Hehe

Shun (13:58)
Well, I'm pretty much taking care of all the major things That a man ought to know You know that he should be doing so. How do you think that went? Okay, these girls were young adults at this point You can't demand order and want to reign as the king of the palace when you're out of line now Don't miss me children should never be disrespectful or disobedient no matter what's going on, but they were

Shannon (14:01)
Yeah, yeah, right.

Right.

Shun (14:22)
all like

Meaning he on one side now on the other side looking at me like he like oh you letting him say this and they're like He can't tell us what to do. He just came home. What what? We gotta go to bed 11. Hey, he don't come home to five in the morning. So In these heated moments, you know shannon, they're both looking at me. He's like, oh you're gonna let him disrespect me They're looking at me like you letting this dude tell us what he ain't even doing Right, so it just kept me in a constant tug of war right with him and the kids because you You can believe they just not going for anything and they shouldn't I mean

Shannon (14:32)
Hehehehe

Mm-hmm.

Yeah.

right.

Shun (14:53)
them being children don't mean they don't have a right to say hey mom we feel this is wrong or unfair you know, Whatever because they have eyes and they have ears and just like that partner loves you those kids Love you, too, and any kids who have close connections with their parents, especially in a single-parent home. They don't play that Now when you're all they have they feel like if mama got beef we got beef. Okay, so

Shannon (15:00)
Mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm.

Exactly.

Mm-hmm.

Shun (15:19)
again

When you're blending these families and when you want to have responsibility, when you want to reign with it, it got to all come together, be in order.

Shannon (15:28)
Mm-hmm. Yeah. And I remember when, you know, me and my husband first started dating, you know, my son. He was a little apprehensive and he's like, oh, he's just with you for the money. And he was calling Buffalo, telling all these different stories about him. And, oh, he's with my mom for her money.

Shun (15:35)
Mm-hmm.

And being a boy, I know you had it rough. I had daughters at least at the time.

Shannon (15:56)
Oh my gosh, I'm like well, you know Yeah, yeah, so yeah, you know Jay is very overprotective of me But he never got in the way of dating, you know, he always wanted me to be with someone with someone but when it came to Exactly exactly so he had to see you know

Shun (16:14)
Just wanted to be sure you were being treated right.

Shannon (16:22)
And over the years, of course, I've been married five years, but with Will for seven. So he's seen for the last seven years how this man works. He's up at three thirty every morning and he's a truck driver, you know? So he is on the road. Sometimes he doesn't get home till seven, eight o'clock at night. But he is home every day and he calls me 50 times a day. And so it took my son seeing that and realizing.

Yeah, my mother might make a little bit more money, just a little bit, you know. Exactly, exactly. So there's a mutual respect there between the two of them now. But I'm sure he wasn't the only one that thought that. I'm sure other family members thought the same, but they weren't ever going to say anything to me. My son, of course, would

Shun (16:53)
But he treats her right.

Shannon (17:14)
because he is my son. But no one else would.

Shun (17:14)
Right.

Shannon (17:17)
And I think about a friend of mine, I'm not going to call any names, who was married, been married for many, many years, 30 plus years, two children, and her husband never worked. Never, ever, ever. And she's a VP and high up in corporate America, makes probably three to 400,000 a year.

be in social situations and he'd have to meet new people, the first thing out of his mouth was, I don't work. You know, he puts that out there right away because you know, they're gonna say, hey, what do you do? And so he put it out there and he brag, oh yeah, she takes care of me, I'm a house husband, blah, blah. And that worked for them, for whatever reason, it worked for them. So...

if that was their mutual agreement, so be it. I, yes, exactly, exactly. So if that's what you want, I don't see very many people wanting that, and they're the only couple that I've met so far that are like that, um, because they're, you know, it's not like he was a house husband, um, you know, because, well, at this point the kids were,

Shun (18:21)
before they got married, that's their business.

Shannon (18:46)
because they've been married so long. So it's like, okay, now you can get a job, you know, or whatever, but no, still to this day, it's like, no, he's never worked. But in saying that, the balance is off because just like we talked about last week, you know, you can have those women that are so dominant and they run everything and that's their house. She is the boss. Everything is her way, done how she wants it because she holds the purse strings, you know.

So when you think about finances, it's not just about the come up or the gold digger or the what you don't get, it's about balance. And the man is supposed to be the provider. And if he can't provide, totally, if it's the two of you putting your money into the pot, which is what me and my husband do, we don't have separate anything. Everything just goes into one pot and we pull from the same pot, whatever.

Shun (19:15)
Yep.

Absolutely.

Mm-hmm.

Shannon (19:45)
That don't always work for people either. You know, I have friends where they have separate accounts and then one joint account or whatever. Whatever works for you. All I'm saying is, if there is only one pot and only one person putting into the pot, then that one person, like my coworker, she's in control. And to me, that's not balanced. Mm-hmm, exactly. Yeah,

Shun (20:06)
And like you said, that throws out balance. Yeah, it throws out balance.

Shannon (20:13)
yeah.

Shun (20:13)
Like I said if that works for them, you know, it works for them if your kids save you had five kids when you met will and They say we ain't listening you said my kids don't got to listen because I make the most money that works for y'all That works for y'all But but in my situation, you know, I had to pray and use wisdom, you know that got turned around because baby It got live in my house a few times, you know when children are of age Although we are the parents you got to still be mindful of what you say and do around them, you know, so

Shannon (20:25)
Thank you.

Mmm.

Right, right. Yeah.

Mm-hmm.

Right, right.

Shun (20:42)
Over the years we just learned you know from some and with from some great counselors that we've had around us and especially this last marriage And it's advice we feel compelled to give all the time just address things and leave and lead with love, you know, so I pray constantly to bring order and that's what blended families, you know Especially general families are hard, right? But blended families the enemy despises family at all but

Shannon (21:05)
Right. Yes.

Shun (21:10)
Especially the ones that are covered by leading and serving, you know and blended families. Like I said you add another layer So you're not just fighting physical things and personalities

also spirit It's a spirit of divide and destruction because it has that you not my dad. You not my mama So that takes extra prayer, right? So you got to definitely make sure you're reigning with responsibility when you're trying to run a household in that way and it can work It can be done. I'm a living witness, you know, so hey whatever floats your boats, but we're just telling you

Shannon (21:27)
Yeah, yeah.

Mm-hmm.

Shun (21:40)
We're just not telling you we're just trying to put out what order work in our house and the orders we've seen in other people In other scenarios. Hey what works or don't but whatever floats your boat, but I know one thing Prayer works for me order works for me. Shannon. Yeah, nobody else you have any part words on this topic?

Shannon (21:55)
Yeah, yeah, yeah. Well, I got one more scenario I wanna just touch on too. So there is another friend, you know, I wish I could call names. I wish they were actually here guests on the show, but anyway, they're married for a long time. They were married for, I don't know, 15 plus years. And the husband felt a calling to do something.

Shun (22:02)
Mm-hmm. OK.

Right.

Shannon (22:23)
to where he would leave his corporate job. And they prayed about it and said, okay, this is what we're gonna do because he needs to be full-time in ministry, even though there's no money in that right now. And I remember speaking to her and telling her, that's all well and good. I know you're saying God is telling you to go this route, but I can tell you right now, I can tell you now, when he's not working, you're gonna see him differently.

You're going to look at him differently. And her response was, no, I won't. No, I won't. That's my husband. I love him. Blah, blah, blah. And so they went on through it after she said, yeah, we prayed enough about this. Let's just do this. And they did it. And he would come home from his ministry work. And while she's working, being the sole breadwinner,

Eventually it started to eat away at her because he'd come home with all these wonderful stories about how he laughed it up with this earth. Yeah, I'm menace to this. We had a good old time today or whatever. And you know, something started to creep into her spirit. And within, I don't know, less than a year, they were signing divorce papers.

Shun (23:33)
I'm going to go ahead and close the video.

No way.

Shannon (23:47)
I don't know if that would yeah, and I don't know if that was the full reason why but Of course, I'm sure there was other things there that we are on the outside looking into don't know about but She did start to look at him differently exactly as I said because no one wants a man even if he's out here doing great works Even if he's out here saving souls or whatever he's doing if you're those

Shun (24:15)
But let me tell you when God calls you though Shannon. Yeah, when God calls you though, he equips when God calls you, he provides. So, you know, I'm not saying he wasn't called or not, but I'm just saying if God would have really put that in heart, he would have made financial provisions that family didn't even feel it. I've seen it happen. I'm not saying he wasn't called. I don't know the people, you know, I'm just beating up your story. So maybe, you know, maybe that's something she was like, hold on, somebody lied to me. I don't know what you're, maybe he just tried to get out of work. I don't know what.

Shannon (24:16)
If you're carrying the, mm-hmm, yeah.

bright.

I'm sorry.

Mm-hmm. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Shun (24:43)
I don't know a conclusion girlfriend came to but I know and not also know if story you hear about td jakes and And people who started their own ministry that have storefronts that starve that they gas off they lights off But they're doing it they're doing it and look at them now, you know So you got to also have that solid foundation because baby serita be up in every show baby would have put her stuff on Okay, so they still together but you hear him tell those stories So and I just you know, you just never know like you said when you're actually not there You don't know what the root

Shannon (24:54)
Oh, right, right. Yeah, yeah. Yeah.

Yeah.

Shun (25:13)
cause is

but I don't know. Did you have anything else to say because i'm saying like I hope we've made it clear That's a prime example to wrap up with of why it can't work You know reigning without responsibility will never work because you got to be able to still carry your load but you know, if you're willing to change, you know things about yourselves or Things can't find their way because you gave your example Then I just told you about td jakes and sarita. I hear him say all the time high lights was off He can tell this kid they had no food, but god made a way, you know, so

Shannon (25:14)
Right, right.

Yes.

That's right.

Shun (25:43)
You can't get on a smooth course, family. You can find your way. But by staying respectful, leading in love. But man, it's imperative to remember, it's impossible to want to peacefully reign in a situation without doing the simple things a man ought to know when it comes to running a family and home. Yeah, so all right. So girl, let's move into our audience invite.

Shannon (25:44)
Yeah.

Right.

Mm-hmm.

Right.

our audience in by.

Shun (26:11)
All right, we start this segment, of course with giving the name of our last week's songs before we go into anything else and invite you guys to hit us up. And unfortunately, no one guessed it for the win for last week. So I'll go ahead and give it to you. The title was On The Daily, and the artist is none other than the most lit young man of this era, Mr. Carrington Gaines, who's also our nephew, but you know, now.

Shannon (26:24)
Hehehehe

Yes!

I'm going to go to bed.

Our nephew, love you.

Shun (26:39)
I'm not love you P. I'm not kidding when I tell you though the little boy lit You're he's a grown man with a wife and a baby But he's still a little piece there my little baby and not just because he's family, you know He really has some hits on his hands So he just received an award at the BMI is a few months ago for a son. He wrote the Maverick City I think it was promises Shannon. Am I right? I think those promises don't quote me. Yeah, but yeah, he just received the BMI you know, so

Shannon (26:45)
Yes, he is.

I'm going to go to bed.

think so.

Shun (27:06)
Get what our nephew you know, like some of the other greats. He was amongst some of the greats at the BMI. So that's where his aunties, we gonna run a little of this song on the daily, which applies to last week's episode. In a sense that temptation will rise on the daily, but if you're leading and submitting to the work, you get through it. Yeah, Shannon, let's spend a little bit of it for.

Shannon (27:12)
Yeah.

Yes.

on the daily.

Here's some little bit of Carrington game. Carrington game.

Shun (27:31)
on the daily.

Hey, I could listen to the whole song. Yeah, have me up here rocket. Yeah, I know Nephew Baby Alright, so there you have it Shannon I mean we only got 30 minutes y'all so we got to go but I would like for you all to go listen to it That's my joint But y'all know the rules. You got to listen to it on your own

Shannon (28:12)
Yeah!

That's our nephew! Yay!

Yeah.

Yeah.

Shun (28:35)
While you're at it, feel free to listen to the rest of characters on karenston gaines is his name on all platforms You know young man got some pipes y'all look out for him. He's on the rise And I also hope you were looking at and listening tonight to the lines I dropped Repeatedly during our episode so if you were and you can send us the title or artists of tonight's melody Not the song we just played I said the lines throughout tonight's episode. So that's how it's gonna work I'll give you it so you got till next Thursday to hit us up and

Shannon (28:42)
Yes he does.

Shun (29:09)
wife That's wife Hit us up with the line I dropped tonight if you can figure out the artist or the song. We'll take either one. And you also feel free to leave any suggestions, comments, complaints, praises. We take it all, baby. We're here for it all. All right, baby mama. You can take us to the fictional family, girlfriend. You

Shannon (29:24)
That's right.

Shun (29:27)
got it.

Shannon (29:27)
Okay, let's go. The fictional family I'm feeling tonight comes from another old show, Married with Children, and I'm not talking about the Bundys this time. I'm talking about the Darcy's. So when Marcy married Jefferson and they got drunk and got married, they didn't even know who each other...

Shun (29:38)
Yeah.

Shannon (29:56)
who they were, whatever. And then she's over the next day talking to Peg and her new husband's on the couch with Al and they're talking. So she's in the kitchen and she's telling Peg, she's like, I don't even know who I married. I don't even know who my husband is. And Peg's like, who cares? Why do you need to know? It's best not to know who they are. You have a better marriage if you don't know who they are.

Shun (30:18)
I'm sorry.

Shannon (30:24)
You know, look at him. He's gorgeous. He's fine. He's hot. He's this and that or whatever um Why would you want to get to know him? and um All the wrong Like yeah based off of looks that's all you need are looks and how many of us have done that gotten with someone just off of looks um, but um So she's uh darcy says

Shun (30:34)
All the wrong advice, by the way.

Good luck.

Right.

Shannon (30:54)
I'm sorry, Marcy says to Peg, well, I don't even know who I am or whatever. And she turns to him, she says, what's your last name? And he says, Darcy, which is what I just slipped and said. And she says, Marcy, Darcy. She says, now I sound like a cartoon character. And so her new husband comes up and he's asking her and he's like, what's wrong, what's wrong? She says, well, besides the fact that I sound like a,

My name now is a cartoon character name She says we got married and I don't even remember it because they were so drunk and he says what? Okay, then How about? We have the best wedding we can afford He immediately says we they've been married one day. Let's have the best wedding we can afford So that you can have the memorable day that you want

Shun (31:33)
Mm-hmm.

Hehehe

Shannon (31:53)
And she's like, oh, that's awesome. She says, OK, I have $2,000 in savings. He says, oh, that's great. And he pulls out his wallet. He opens his wallet. And he says, OK, that makes $2,040.

So Not only did she not know who she married, you know She married this fine hot looking dude But he has $40 and he's willing to take her 2,000 to give her the day that she wanted So she could you know fund them, you know the best wedding or whatever to show You know something for her to remember

Shun (32:10)
I'm sorry.

The best one is here.

Shannon (32:37)
My whole point is know who you're marrying have those tough conversations So you're not marrying someone with $40 unless you want to marry someone with $40 you would have known going in

Shun (32:41)
That's it.

Baby, don't about $140. Enough for no marriage. $40 get you one night these days. Ain't gonna get you no marriage, but go ahead.

Shannon (32:56)
Ha ha

Right, right, but if you like some people where that's you just you want that you want that hot guy you want that guy He looks good and whatever and you'll take him and give him your 2,000 and you know, let him keep his $40 or whatever. So anyway, so the Darcy's Depends on what you want. So that is right Exactly. It's actually if you want

Shun (33:19)
depends on what you want.

But that ain't it for most of us.

Shannon (33:30)
to build something, not saying everyone has to be that power couple or whatever,

Shun (33:32)
That's right.

Shannon (33:36)
but I would hope that you would not want to be in a situation where you're in survival mode all the time. Let's think about success versus survival. And I've said it times. Mm-hmm, exactly, yes. So that is the fictional family. Right.

Shun (33:36)
Not in-

Let's have some responsibility if we want to reign. That's all we're saying here. That's right. Success over survival.

Great face in the family, girlfriend.

Shannon (33:57)
So that is the fictional family that I'm family. Ah, thank you, thank you.

Shun (34:01)
Awesome.

Shannon (34:07)
So that is the end of our topic tonight. And we thank you all for joining. And we look forward to next week.

Shun (34:16)
Yes, until next week. Love you all, bye.