Wifey and Baby Mama

Shun:
Hey, I'm Shawn.

Shannon:
Hi, and I'm Shannon.

Shun:
and we're the host of Wifey and Baby Mama. We want to thank you all for joining us again this week. As we fly solo, I want to start

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
tonight's episode by saying Shannon and I hope we've laid a good enough outline, the best we could anyways to set a foundation on healthy blended families and what they should look like. And we will have future episodes dedicated specifically to that. So we will continue with that rhythm. However, on last week and the few upcoming weeks, we want to just pivot a little and take a look at and focus on healthy people and relationships taking care of us as a whole. Even if children and partners are not involved in the picture, we want to focus on how we can be our best for ourselves and our future families. So with that, we'll get into tonight's topic, title, when good enough isn't good enough. Now I know a few women that fit this topic, but I know them well enough

Shannon:
Hm

Shun:
to

Shannon:
hm.

Shun:
ask them to come on and elaborate I didn't want any smoke. So we like we just gonna run this by ourselves, you know after we talked about

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
it And honestly a few of them probably wouldn't mind um Discussing it because they have no problem saying like this is what I am. This is what

Shannon:
That's

Shun:
I do

Shannon:
true. Yeah.

Shun:
You know what i'm saying? But

Shannon:
Oh, yeah.

Shun:
I'm not you know for that. So I know they're not shy about it, but I'm also not sure if they want to come on and blow up their spot. So we're going to leave well enough alone, Shannon. We just, we just

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
decided we run it. We'll do our thing. So

Shannon:
We can do it.

Shun:
we can do

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
it. So tonight we will be discussing, um, when men and women, but mostly from a woman's point of view, because we're not men who pass up good guys because they don't fit their illusion of a man. I think in doing this. We make dating harder for ourselves in some case. We're probably missing out on the one that was meant just for us. Don't get me wrong. I'm sure you can like create a good life with your handpicked partner, but will you be fulfilled? That's the question you have to ask on this

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
subject. And that's where I think a lot of misery comes from in certain relationships.

Shannon:
Mm-hmm.

Shun:
We have the

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
money, the so-called status we're looking for to fit in with the Joneses, but what about your health, happiness, and your peace?

Shannon:
Mm-hmm.

Shun:
I

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
can imagine and I mean only imagine what kind of daily work and misery it is, you know Shannon to keep up with that kind of relationship

Shannon:
Oh,

Shun:
Because

Shannon:
right.

Shun:
you're constantly

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
pressured You know and stressed to see what this couple is doing and make sure you have this dress or that name-brand

Shannon:
Mm-hmm.

Shun:
bag Because such and such, you know in your social circle. They just got it that Exhausting is the only word that comes to my mind when I was pondering this content

Shannon:
Yeah,

Shun:
Did you

Shannon:
yeah.

Shun:
feel the same way Shannon?

Shannon:
Oh, yeah, it is. And I know people right now today that, I mean, it sounds crazy, but as soon as one of their friends buys a nicer house than theirs, oh, within two years, they've got something bigger and better. But neither one of them are happy with each other, but they keep buying all these bigger and better things.

Shun:
See what I'm saying?

Shannon:
Uh huh.

Shun:
I refer to you guys, I'll make a few movie references because like I said, we know people personally, but you may not know who I know. You may not know who Shannon

Shannon:
Yeah,

Shun:
know.

Shannon:
yeah,

Shun:
So

Shannon:
yeah.

Shun:
when you said the bigger and better houses, Shannon, it brings me to the movie I just lost my train of thought. I just had it just now. Bigger ain't always better. I don't know, it's an older

Shannon:
Bigger

Shun:
movie,

Shannon:
ain't

Shun:
Funny

Shannon:
always

Shun:
Valentine.

Shannon:
better.

Shun:
That bigger, it was in Funny Valentine. So you remember what Loretta Devine and Afro-Wooder, those were the stars of it.

Shannon:
Okay, yes

Shun:
They were cousins and at the end they found out they were sisters remember

Shannon:
Mm-hmm,

Shun:
and

Shannon:
yep, yep.

Shun:
The after water went off to live a good life, you know, she had this husband. Oh my god He was handsome off out of his mind handsome He had you know, he made six figures and she lived really well in uptown New York Her cousin stayed in the country Loretta Devine. She was a little mentally challenged, you know I would guess to our standards these days, but she had just

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
the basics, you know, just her and her mom and the basics She made her own food And she was as happy, she exuded happiness, right?

Shannon:
Ah...

Shun:
Alfie Woodard got tired of the life. She didn't, I don't know, it doesn't show if she chose that husband, but she did change her mind about that life. So she went in and she bought the cousin, you know, new things for her house, a couch and a food processor. And she said, you know what? I thought this would make you happy. And she said, bigger and newer ain't always better. She said, you have

Shannon:
Yeah?

Shun:
new things or plenty and you're not very happy. And to me, that movie just kept coming back to my head when it came to that, because that is so true.

Shannon:
That

Shun:
It

Shannon:
is

Shun:
seemed

Shannon:
so true.

Shun:
on the surface, right, she had everything any girl would want, you know, nice husband, good looking, nice job, but he treated her poorly. But I was happy to see that she made a choice and said, you know what, I need a break from this. I gotta go find me again. So that's what we need to, you know, focus on. It will be the day, Shannon, before I live that kind of life. Now,

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
Will say when I was younger I did have a type right? I like them tall light bright and almost white

Shannon:
Hehehehehehehehehehe

Shun:
and it's how saying go The lighter the better baby. I want nothing black but a Cadillac back

Shannon:
Hahaha

Shun:
when I was young but Not quickly discovered, you know, they were headaches So that

Shannon:
Uh huh.

Shun:
theory was put in the wind girl and as I matured

Shannon:
Yup, yup.

Shun:
my type changed to employed no baby mama drama No arrogance straight teeth nice smile manners

Shannon:
Right, right,

Shun:
That

Shannon:
right.

Shun:
type of thing, you know, it

Shannon:
Yeah,

Shun:
quickly changed.

Shannon:
yeah,

Shun:
So my

Shannon:
yeah.

Shun:
standards evolved with my age.

Shannon:
Oh yeah, and I was the same way, you know, growing up in the 80s, everyone wanted to nail the barge on their arms. So

Shun:
I'm going

Shannon:
that's

Shun:
to go

Shannon:
who

Shun:
home.

Shannon:
you all went for. That's who everybody went for.

Shun:
Yeah, I like the good hair. I like the curly hair. I don't know for some

Shannon:
Oh, you

Shun:
reason

Shannon:
like the curly hair? What?

Shun:
I Was not into the curly hair for some reason even to this day. I want a low-cut

Shannon:
Ahhhh

Shun:
man I don't know. I'm gonna braids. I'm gonna box. I only really

Shannon:
Okay,

Shun:
do bald heads.

Shannon:
okay,

Shun:
I like the low-cut fade I mean if nature do

Shannon:
okay.

Shun:
his thing and my husband got to go

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
bald and that's what we gonna do But I'd be too old to care about

Shannon:
Okay,

Shun:
in but

Shannon:
right

Shun:
right now I like a low cut fade. That's just clean cut

Shannon:
Okay,

Shun:
I've never liked the cut but I did like

Shannon:
take

Shun:
the

Shannon:
care

Shun:
eyes

Shannon:
of me. It's

Shun:
and the light skin. I liked

Shannon:
good.

Shun:
it all

Shannon:
Hahaha.

Shun:
that honey. I Was with it.

Shannon:
But,

Shun:
You know what?

Shannon:
yeah,

Shun:
I'll

Shannon:
but.

Shun:
be sure now. I'll be sure could have got it with his girls.

Shannon:
Oh, yeah.

Shun:
Oh

Shannon:
I

Shun:
baby

Shannon:
will swear

Shun:
No,

Shannon:
I'll

Shun:
no,

Shannon:
be sure all day. Yes,

Shun:
I think

Shannon:
yes.

Shun:
he was the only one and I think it's cuz he had a natural curl No natural curl.

Shannon:
Oh,

Shun:
I liked it his hair,

Shannon:
yeah, Christopher

Shun:
but I

Shannon:
Williams,

Shun:
like you

Shannon:
wait a minute.

Shun:
Yep. Oh my god, and you know, it's a guy that I referred to in my book as aunt

Shannon:
Uh-huh.

Shun:
Seriously in college was a Christopher Williams. Seriously

Shannon:
Wow.

Shun:
like no lie That's the kind of hair and I just is just that love to rub it and play with it. But again

Shannon:
Yeah,

Shun:
headache,

Shannon:
yeah,

Shun:
so

Shannon:
yeah. Yeah, headache, yep.

Shun:
headache, baby,

Shannon:
And it's

Shun:
so

Shannon:
so interesting

Shun:
Everybody else

Shannon:
too.

Shun:
wanted to play with his hair, too

Shannon:
I know, I'm

Shun:
And he

Shannon:
sure

Shun:
let

Shannon:
everybody,

Shun:
up and it

Shannon:
exactly.

Shun:
and he let up

Shannon:
And what's interesting, you know, I talk to my son all the time because he's like a version of me where he's very shallow. So

Shun:
Mm-hmm.

Shannon:
I'm waiting for him to grow out of it. He's taking a lot longer than I did, of course.

Shun:
Right.

Shannon:
To grow out of that and I tell him I said you will be so much happier if you find the person that has the Substance that you're looking for versus that outer Shell

Shun:
That's right.

Shannon:
that never works for you. I

Shun:
That's

Shannon:
said

Shun:
a fact.

Shannon:
show me where you've been successful with this method

Shun:
That's it.

Shannon:
and

Shun:
That's right.

Shannon:
It doesn't work

Shun:
Well, like you said though, sometimes it takes people a little longer. But you know,

Shannon:
Yeah,

Shun:
as we get

Shannon:
yeah.

Shun:
older, we get wiser, you know, hopefully he's walking into that. But I know as for me, you know, I got older and wiser and

Shannon:
Me

Shun:
then

Shannon:
too.

Shun:
you realize everything isn't going to be as you wish, you know, and looks

Shannon:
Mm-hmm.

Shun:
are not the most important thing to be concerned with, you know.

Shannon:
That's

Shun:
Now,

Shannon:
right.

Shun:
I know that people will look at you and I Shannon and be like girl, please y'all can't talk about no looks and both of your husband's fine. Well, that's just the way it worked out. We got lucky. It wasn't like

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
I said, you know, for God wasn't good looking. I'm not interested, you know

Shannon:
Yeah,

Shun:
I

Shannon:
yeah,

Shun:
mean, I

Shannon:
but.

Shun:
don't want nobody that's gonna scare me when I roll over at night either

Shannon:
Oh,

Shun:
now

Shannon:
right,

Shun:
but

Shannon:
right. And beauty's in the eye of the beholder now. Beauty's

Shun:
Absolutely,

Shannon:
in the eye of the beholder. Yeah,

Shun:
absolutely.

Shannon:
so what might be attractive to one person could be atrocious.

Shun:
That's

Shannon:
Who the

Shun:
a

Shannon:
next?

Shun:
fact but

Shannon:
You just

Shun:
that

Shannon:
never

Shun:
isn't

Shannon:
know.

Shun:
gonna be my end-all or should I say

Shannon:
Right,

Shun:
wasn't my

Shannon:
right.

Shun:
only means to finding my partner? You know, it just worked out like that

Shannon:
Yeah, yeah. Yeah.

Shun:
And

Shannon:
And then what about the women that, you know, just are so picky. And we both have friends like that. And

Shun:
Yes, absolutely.

Shannon:
I could call some names, but I don't want

Shun:
Right.

Shannon:
to lose their friendships.

Shun:
Don't know. Not

Shannon:
But

Shun:
gonna

Shannon:
yeah,

Shun:
do that or cuz they each his own, right?

Shannon:
yeah. But they're so picky that they won't even date unless this man has checked 100 boxes before the first date or before establishing a friendship. And I said to one of my girlfriends, when she was complaining or saying something about the guy and no, I don't wanna go out with him because of XYZ ABC. And I said, you have no male friends. I said, that's scary.

Shun:
Right.

Shannon:
I said, in my mind, every female should have one, two,

Shun:
Male

Shannon:
three,

Shun:
friends.

Shannon:
four, you know, some male friends to give you that insight, that perspective to help you on your journey.

Shun:
I have several, my brother,

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
he gonna probably kill me, my brother in love, Woody, he's my best friend, one of my best friends, Sam's husband, and then I have

Shannon:
Mm-hmm.

Shun:
my godbrother, James, down south, those are the very two people that I can say,

Shannon:
Mm-hmm.

Shun:
look, I got this situation, and bro, what's

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
happening? And they're gonna give it

Shannon:
Exactly.

Shun:
to me straight, because no sexual involvement ever,

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
no sexual interest ever, they've just given me male opinion, and even though I

Shannon:
Mm-hmm.

Shun:
said they're like my brothers, they're not my blood. When

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
I'm wrong, they can tell me I'm wrong, you know what I'm saying?

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
And sometimes it's I don't go to my blood brothers because I don't care how wrong I am. They're gonna be like, oh, that's my sister They're gonna always take my side

Shannon:
My brother

Shun:
So

Shannon:
does

Shun:
I tried

Shannon:
the same

Shun:
it.

Shannon:
thing.

Shun:
Yeah, so I try to be unbiased by not calling them on serious

Shannon:
Yeah,

Shun:
And that's when

Shannon:
yeah.

Shun:
I need a serious opinion because I don't want them to tell me I'm right some things I really want

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
to resolve

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
in my relationship or otherwise, you know what I'm saying? And I need an honest opinion and I'm gonna my brothers. They just go my sisters are never wrong Okay, so

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
especially with a man in a relationship. So what you just said about the boxes. What was the movie Shannon with whoopie Goldberg? My girl the dark-skinned girl and the real funny one. She was the sister They were sisters and

Shannon:
if

Shun:
whoopie

Shannon:
any.

Shun:
Goldberg was the mom and the good-looking guy played the love entries. He owned a coffee shop It's all god job. Well listeners.

Shannon:
Oh,

Shun:
Y'all

Shannon:
yeah,

Shun:
probably know the movie. I can't

Shannon:
I don't know.

Shun:
I'm having a day guys, but anyways,

Shannon:
Hahaha!

Shun:
um She was this corporate. Um, tiffany haddish was the sister. I can't get the other girl. I got her

Shannon:
Oh,

Shun:
face real pretty girl

Shannon:
yeah.

Shun:
You know what i'm talking about?

Shannon:
CS, I know

Shun:
So

Shannon:
what you're talking about. Mm-hmm.

Shun:
Yeah, so tiffany haddish was like the sister that was off track. There was track I'm sorry guys that was trying to get her life together and the other girl was um You know, she was the bougie one and she

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
had the upscale six-figure job, you know She was beautiful And she had a checklist that her mom Given

Shannon:
Hehehehe

Shun:
her so the list wasn't even real, right? So she met the guy in the coffee shop and he would Frank the guy's name was Frank

Shannon:
Okay.

Shun:
and that was his moot. He's ghost What is his real name? Oh, my Amari Hardwick.

Shannon:
Oh,

Shun:
I'm

Shannon:
yeah,

Shun:
getting it together. Y'all. Let's

Shannon:
yeah.

Shun:
come

Shannon:
OK.

Shun:
into this coming to me But he was you know, the love interest. He was good-looking. He owned his own business. He ran arm. He was a User he ran to substance abuse cute. He got his life together He found his place in the world and he really was in love with her, but she was like, oh no Oh, no, you know, he didn't make enough money. He's not told till the catfish guy she was dating kind of bombed on her. And then

Shannon:
See?

Shun:
they did their thing. And she was like, no, you're not my type. You're not my type. And she heard his feeling so bad. And so the catfish guy shows up, she kicks him to the curb, does them all kind of wrong, breaks his heart. And in the end, the mother tells her that list didn't exist. You're not gonna have everything on that list. Like

Shannon:
Nope.

Shun:
I made it up to have an appearance with you guys. And that's why we gotta be honest with our children. I am so honest with my kids sometimes like mom. Okay, like oh mom TMI But if I

Shannon:
Mm-hmm.

Shun:
don't tell you guys who are gonna tell you, you know,

Shannon:
right.

Shun:
so you got to have that relationship But yeah, she ended up being with him and it was like a good happy ending But yeah,

Shannon:
Mm-hmm.

Shun:
she had the checklist and we can't

Shannon:
Yeah,

Shun:
live off of a list. That's not

Shannon:
right,

Shun:
realistic, you know

Shannon:
right. Yeah, so many people have lost valuable partnerships because of that.

Shun:
their standards.

Shannon:
Yep, because of their standards, their one box wasn't checked. I'm like, but every other box is checked. They're like, yeah, but that one, whatever that

Shun:
And

Shannon:
one is.

Shun:
most of the time, I'm sorry, excuse me, that has to do with how they portray themselves. They're missing something, they're lacking. So they're trying to

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
make up for that and all those other people.

Shannon:
Yeah, they are. Yeah.

Shun:
and at some point it must get tiresome trying to live a certain life.

Shannon:
I would think

Shun:
I'm sorry,

Shannon:
so.

Shun:
Shannon. Hold on, stop

Shannon:
Oh,

Shun:
talking,

Shannon:
sure.

Shun:
Okay, so okay bring myself back around so at some point, you know what women and standards Going from man to man you it must get tiresome, you know Because that man can offer you this but the next one can't offer you that you know

Shannon:
Right,

Shun:
And then

Shannon:
right.

Shun:
you get one that kind of checks all of your boxes. Okay, he'll do then the next one comes along and he drives a more expensive car. I

Shannon:
Mm-hmm,

Shun:
mean, how do

Shannon:
yeah.

Shun:
you keep up

Shannon:
Right,

Shun:
with

Shannon:
right.

Shun:
your

Shannon:
So, I'm

Shun:
health? You

Shannon:
going

Shun:
know,

Shannon:
to go ahead

Shun:
you

Shannon:
and

Shun:
even

Shannon:
start

Shun:
run

Shannon:
the

Shun:
the

Shannon:
video.

Shun:
risk of disease and so many other things, you know,

Shannon:
Yeah, yeah.

Shun:
and

Shannon:
Or

Shun:
not

Shannon:
even

Shun:
to mention

Shannon:
those

Shun:
Shannon,

Shannon:
that,

Shun:
go ahead.

Shannon:
yeah, no, I'm sorry, I was gonna say, and even those that aren't, you know, having physical relations with people,

Shun:
Right.

Shannon:
you know, they're still, you know, harming themselves just by, you know, not allowing themselves to really form a connection. Because if, when I look at one of my girlfriends in particular, is every, I don't know, six to eight months, I don't know, six to nine months. It's a new guy because after that short period, she's given up because there's one box or two box or she thought they checked it and they didn't check it or you know, whatever. You know, they have specifics. For example, I have one girlfriend that says the man must make more than she does.

Shun:
Wow.

Shannon:
There's no way around that. And she makes a hefty amount of money, but she refused to date anyone that makes. less than she does. And I know there are probably women that are listening to this and say, you got that right, you know, screaming that I'm supposed to be taking care of. God said he's the provider, blah, whatever to each their own. All I'm saying is she's still single.

Shun:
And hello and not to mention I was about to say that and not to mention not even so much I'm Shannon still single then wouldn't a little help be better than none if that you're doing everything You know what I mean?

Shannon:
Yeah,

Shun:
And I'm not saying

Shannon:
yeah.

Shun:
you should shadow you should settle and pay

Shannon:
Right,

Shun:
90%

Shannon:
right, right.

Shun:
of the bill and he just pays the freaking the garage door opener bill or the alarm system bill That's not what I'm saying. What I'm saying is if you meet in a healthy whole relationship, the rest will come And and

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
what I was gonna say Shannon before you got to that point was when we said not even if physical if they're not Even having sex. Well, what about the soul ties? because

Shannon:
That's

Shun:
even

Shannon:
right.

Shun:
Emotionally even if you're not having sex you can emotionally attach to all these people then you're

Shannon:
You

Shun:
emotionally

Shannon:
got that?

Shun:
attached and Or worse sexually attaching to all the people they're sleeping with and you're carrying all this emotional baggage because you've taken on all these people So even if you're not sexual with them, like you said Shannon, you still have those emotional headaches

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
and ties to deal with. I once heard TD Jakes say, at some point you must get tired of being handled. And I thought that was so deep.

Shannon:
Ooh,

Shun:
And I quote, that was

Shannon:
that

Shun:
his exact

Shannon:
is.

Shun:
quote. At some point you must get tired of being handled. And that

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
doesn't have to be sexual. As I

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
went over this topic in my head, I realized that it's so true. We're delicate as women. And the world beats us down enough, right? Even in corporate America,

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
we gotta fight twice as hard as the mill. Even

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
with our children. I have to tell my son something five times versus my husband saying one time son stop You know as women we are little more pressed over. So why do it to ourselves? You know

Shannon:
Right,

Shun:
what I'm saying?

Shannon:
right. Yes. Like we mentioned last week about you're the prize, we're the prize. Know your value women. We will

Shun:
That's it.

Shannon:
continue to hammer that message in

Shun:
Absolutely

Shannon:
with no shame.

Shun:
And and you know like you said men too we have men that um That do that, you know, they only want a woman which we'll get to that'll be another episode But i'll just touch on it

Shannon:
Oh

Shun:
really

Shannon:
yeah.

Shun:
quick You have men who just want a certain body type or this kind of

Shannon:
Oh

Shun:
breast

Shannon:
yeah,

Shun:
and that'll

Shannon:
oh

Shun:
be

Shannon:
yeah.

Shun:
on our show I think it's coming up in a few episodes So I won't elaborate but I don't women to think we're getting picked on just know that the men got theirs coming too But

Shannon:
Hehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehe

Shun:
today we're just dealing with us as women and how? We need

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
to value ourselves, you know. It's enough of putting each other down or putting ourselves down or lifting our standards too high. Why put ourselves through all of this, passing up a good man and settling down and letting good enough be good enough? You know, God will bring the rest. That's just the way I feel about this topic.

Shannon:
I agree. Totally agree.

Shun:
And yeah, and I just want to wrap it up with. I as a woman have been there done that. We're not beating anyone down here. Trust me, we're not doing that. I'm trying to save people from some of the things we went through and the things we watch other people go through. And I can honestly say, and I'm thankful and not bragging or bodacious about the fact that I've never allowed that to determine who I was. I've never let a man's standard or what his pockets were say, well, this is who I'm gonna be with.

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
I searched my soul. Advise you guys to search your soul. What does this person bring to my life when I'm with this person? Do I feel a piece are they trying their best to make ends meet? You know what I'm saying? Don't know it'd be about money material. We can lose ourselves chasing things so That's what I'm gonna wrap up that title with before I move into my red line

Shannon:
All right, thank you, Sean, for the wrap up. On to the red line.

Shun:
On to the red line. All right. This week's red line is titled, Thanks for the Ring, but I Wanted Five Carrots. Ladies,

Shannon:
Hehehehe

Shun:
we have to break the mentality of materialism. I know we all want the best in life. I mean, I certainly do, but at what cost? Don't pass up a man that can provide and nurture your spirit just because he can't offer you the finest things in life the day you meet him. Most importantly, don't lose yourself or self-respect in search of things. If a man is good for your soul, the rest will follow and sometimes we may have to wait for a while for mr Right, but don't miss them fooling around with mr. Wrong too long and remember Karma has all of our address So if you're out here running through

Shannon:
Hehehe

Shun:
men and breaking hearts to get what you want you best to believe you'll see that again So be mindful of your behavior and put the good Back into relationships Broken heart isn't the worst thing you can get out here playing with people's emotions Some men are unstable and if you're out here spending all these men's money And just taking up their time and one day decide I'm done. You could very well be done for real So many women are losing their lives for less than that. So please

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
don't put yourself in danger playing with someone's emotions

Shannon:
Love that. And I like what you said, Sean, when you said he may not have everything

Shun:
right now.

Shannon:
you think he's got right now. Right.

Shun:
That's right.

Shannon:
And that's when you build. When you're with a good partner, you build. Every year you will see an increase. You will see a goal met as long as you're working together in partnership. Some women

Shun:
Shannon

Shannon:
don't want that. Some women want

Shun:
they

Shannon:
to just be taken care of. They're like, well,

Shun:
Wanted

Shannon:
I got

Shun:
it

Shannon:
to

Shun:
they

Shannon:
work.

Shun:
want yeah, they want instant gratification or like you said they want to be up with this friend's house I can't marry this guy because I can't get a friend a house as big as my friend's house if I married this guy

Shannon:
Uh huh, yep.

Shun:
Let me tell you the only reason Shannon and I decided to do this podcast The only reason we come up with the topics that we do is because we've been through it We have

Shannon:
Yes,

Shun:
some kind of life

Shannon:
yes.

Shun:
experience. Oh, we know someone that has but on

Shannon:
that's

Shun:
this point

Shannon:
right.

Shun:
I don't think my husband would mind saying for years. I Made more money than he did. That's that's just how it rocks, right?

Shannon:
Mm-hmm.

Shun:
Colvin came I was put out of a job. We had a new baby. I had no job He carried that he got put him in a position with two jobs Neither one of them were lost and he took care of the family the entire time Just like

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
that. The tables were turned you understand

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
what I'm saying

Shannon:
Yep.

Shun:
But had I passed him up saying, well, I'm not going to mirror him again, because he ain't making as much money as I am right now. And let

Shannon:
Mm-hmm.

Shun:
me tell y'all right now that he's smoking me, okay.

Shannon:
Right,

Shun:
In the money

Shannon:
right,

Shun:
department,

Shannon:
yeah.

Shun:
because that's

Shannon:
And

Shun:
just the way it worked out.

Shannon:
yeah, it's how it works out. And the same in my situation, you know, my husband is a commercial driver. So when he's long

Shun:
Mm-hmm.

Shannon:
distance, of course, that's great. He can make, you know, well over six figures deep

Shun:
Right,

Shannon:
into the, you know, whatever.

Shun:
right,

Shannon:
I don't

Shun:
right.

Shannon:
want, I don't, I don't want to see him once a week.

Shun:
That's a

Shannon:
So.

Shun:
fact.

Shannon:
I'm

Shun:
You know

Shannon:
like,

Shun:
what I'm saying?

Shannon:
uh, find something where you can be at home every night. So of course that's going to put me way above him salary wise, but we

Shun:
It

Shannon:
want

Shun:
gives you

Shannon:
to

Shun:
more

Shannon:
be

Shun:
time

Shannon:
together.

Shun:
and submit Lee what

Shannon:
Yes,

Shun:
good does that money do for your marriage if

Shannon:
exactly.

Shun:
you're not away? Things happen women find out men find out you're alone for so long, you know,

Shannon:
Right,

Shun:
you don't

Shannon:
right.

Shun:
put you I Implore people to never let money be the most important

Shannon:
Nope.

Shun:
part of your relationship

Shannon:
Never.

Shun:
That never because I'm gonna tell you everybody that I know that it is Miserable and

Shannon:
Mm-hmm.

Shun:
that's a God-given fact and I'm not even kidding everyone that I know that money is more important than their marriage or their relationship are either miserable or single. And that's just a fact.

Shannon:
Yep, that is just a fact. Awesome red line.

Shun:
Thank you, darling.

Shannon:
Okay, now we're on to the final segment of the night and it's a segment we call the fictional family I'm feeling All right, the fictional family I'm feeling this week is The McGuire's from Jerry McGuire I'm sure you all knew that movie was coming around at some point

Shun:
Right.

Shannon:
Everyone's favorite everyone's favorite.

Shun:
Everyone's

Shannon:
Well

Shun:
favorite.

Shannon:
But the final scene, of course, is what I'm going to talk about because that is, you know, the most iconic scene of the movie. So

Shun:
and

Shannon:
as

Shun:
it relates

Shannon:
you know,

Shun:
to this topic.

Shannon:
and it relates exactly. So, you know, Jerry McGuire was trying to sign, you know, this agent, and he was so focused on finding this agent that he took focus off of his wife. who was already in a fragile state as, you know, she was a single mother when he met, and I'm sorry, when he married her, she worked with him or they worked together. But, you know, so she had a few insecurities about, you know, am I good enough? And then when it looked like he was pulling away, of course that impacted her, so she left him. And at first he kept on, you know, with his life, of course, a little bum, but he's so focused on getting this. this contract sign for his client that was the focus. But once all of that happened and he realized something was missing, he got the money that he wanted, of course, got the great deal, the contract, but where was his partner? The love of his life wasn't there. So in that final scene, you see he goes back. to get his wife. He goes back to the house and she's there with a group of friends, nice little audience for him to spill his love for her out. And he says to her, how much she completes him. And then of course she turns around and says the famous line after he says this whole speech. She says, you had me at hello. But the most beautiful thing about it is he saw that no matter how much he had, and he had a lot, that wasn't enough to make up for not having his wife with him. And how many people can say that? I know people who say right now, if I win the lottery, I'm leaving my husband, or I'm leaving my wife if

Shun:
Hehehe

Shannon:
I win, you know? So how many people can say, no matter what, I don't care if we're... in a box under the bridge or if we're in a mansion in Malibu. We're together.

Shun:
That is so hilarious. That's a great, what'd you say, Box? I'm so sorry. I told you when we got back together this second time, I said, listen, he goes, you sure you want, I was living in Alabama. He said, you sure you want to give up this nice house? I had a huge house, God, it was so beautiful. And he said, you sure you want to give up this house? You sure? I said, listen, I would live in a Box on the bridge, baby, as long as you're gonna treat me right, and you're gonna do me right. And that's why it just made me laugh. And he said, Okay, let's go. So we packed up and

Shannon:
Oh

Shun:
we lived

Shannon:
wow.

Shun:
in hotels for months and finally I found a house and it fell through with the house after two years It was beautiful home it fell through and we were just out and finally um his

Shannon:
Mm-hmm.

Shun:
sister had an apartment and we moved into this apartment and After the kids were asleep and I was done Shannon had so much stuff imagine coming from five bedrooms So four bedrooms to now a three-bedroom one bathroom apartment. I had stuff everywhere and I said I just sat in the middle of the floor and I cried and I said, so I can't believe I'm living like this. I left my house and he looked at me. He said, he sat down on the floor. He said, baby, you remember, you said you live in a box with me, baby. We

Shannon:
Yeah

Shun:
got, we it's better than a box. And I laughed until my tears. Oh my God. I laughed until he laughed until he was crying.

Shannon:
Oh my gosh, oh my

Shun:
And

Shannon:
gosh.

Shun:
for five years we stayed in that apartment and it didn't feel like an apartment because he was with me.

Shannon:
Yeah, that's

Shun:
until we got

Shannon:
right.

Shun:
some crazy neighbors and then it was time to get that gone. But the

Shannon:
Yes.

Shun:
space itself, every night I

Shannon:
Mm-hmm.

Shun:
went home, I said, thank you Lord. As if I was

Shannon:
That's

Shun:
in my five

Shannon:
right.

Shun:
bedroom

Shannon:
Mm-hmm.

Shun:
because I had good healthy children and I had a husband that loved me and that wrote it out with me.

Shannon:
That's right. And that's why I say too, or Will and I say the box under the bridge too. So that's funny

Shun:
I'm going

Shannon:
that

Shun:
to

Shannon:
we,

Shun:
go to bed.

Shannon:
all four of us say the same thing. It's like, no matter

Shun:
We've been

Shannon:
what, that's

Shun:
no matter

Shannon:
right

Shun:
what

Shannon:
or die.

Shun:
we're

Shannon:
That's

Shun:
together. Let's go. This

Shannon:
right.

Shun:
is what we're doing And that's what makes a marriage not the figures not the

Shannon:
Uh

Shun:
money,

Shannon:
huh, yep,

Shun:
you know

Shannon:
yep.

Shun:
that that's what makes a marriage and a relationship work So great fictional family girlfriend. I love it

Shannon:
All right That is the fictional family that I'm feeling and Before we wrap up for the evening. I have to remind everyone to submit their redline submissions I forgot

Shun:
Hehehe

Shannon:
that after our redlines, but never too late. We're still

Shun:
Never

Shannon:
on

Shun:
too late to give away the money.

Shannon:
Yes, who wants a hundred dollar gift card if you want a hundred dollar gift card please submit your Redline submissions to wifeyandbabymama at gmail.com. And the third Thursday of each month, we will choose from those submissions a winner, and we will read that submission on the air. And I wanna emphasize we. I had a couple of questions this past week asking, were they gonna come on and actually read their own Redline? At this point, no.

Shun:
Not yet.

Shannon:
Maybe one day.

Shun:
Maybe one day.

Shannon:
But for now we will read them. So please submit them. We love reading them. That is wifeyandbabymama at gmail.com. All right. So we are done for tonight and we will look forward to seeing and I'm sorry talking to you next week, 7 30, to all of our subscribers around the world. in our

Shun:
Thank

Shannon:
seven

Shun:
you.

Shannon:
countries.

Shun:
Seven countries, yes.

Shannon:
So we are happy to have everyone on board and listening to Wifey and Baby Mama.

Shun:
We appreciate each and every one of you.

Shannon:
Yes we do. All right. So until next week,

Shun:
We love you

Shannon:
love

Shun:
all.

Shannon:
you all.

Shun:
Bye.