Wifey and Baby Mama

Shun:
Hi, I'm Shawn.

Shannon:
I am Sammon.

Shun:
And we're the host of Wifey and Baby Mama. We want to thank all of you who listened and subscribed on last week and welcome you to this week's episode titled, Our Drama Becomes Our Kids Karma. All right, so let's get into it. Yes, tonight we're gonna shift gears a little and talk about something we've mentioned in almost all of our episodes. How our adult drama affects the children in blended families and relationships. How negative relationships between parents affect sibling relationships or how some kids the mother and fathers? They never meet each other. Um, you may have a child with this person And you may have a child with that person But those moms have never met or those fathers have never met want to talk about you know The importance of that kind of being an issue And unhealthy for the kids. I I know shannon that we're the only baby mama. I'm the only baby mama on your son's side, you know But in my case, I have other, you know, I have other kids and they have, we have other baby mamas in the picture. So, and I also know your husband has kids with his previous wife. We touched on that a little. So, you know, that you, and you were able and instrument and helping them get along. So we just kind of want to important express the importance of that. And how it can potentially have an effect on the kids.

Shannon:
Right, and understanding too how our interactions can continue generational curses. And we don't like that phrase, and I know we're trying

Shun:
But it's

Shannon:
to get

Shun:
a fact.

Shannon:
away from that, but

Shun:
But

Shannon:
it's

Shun:
it's

Shannon:
a

Shun:
a fact.

Shannon:
fact.

Shun:
It's

Shannon:
Yeah,

Shun:
a fact.

Shannon:
because we see the cycle every day. We see it every day. I go

Shun:
Mm-hmm.

Shannon:
into, you know, neighborhoods of where I came from, you know, here in the South. Wasn't a great neighborhood. And so when I go back to visit that neighborhood and I see the cycle of, you know, the baby mama drama, the baby daddy drama, all, you know, everything that you see played out on the news and on TV or whatever, it's all

Shun:
Happening

Shannon:
right here in this neighborhood. Yeah. And

Shun:
so

Shannon:
so

Shun:
happening

Shannon:
if people can realize that, yeah, if you can stop, if you can behave differently as an adult, and I understand that a lot of these mothers are young mothers. So they're, they're, they're being adults when they're really only 15, 16 years old with children.

Shun:
Yes.

Shannon:
But if we can provide some type of

Shun:
guidance.

Shannon:
answer or antidote or guidance, yes, great words,

Shun:
Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

Shannon:
Sean. Yes. If we can provide that to help you see that all of this nonsense that you're experiencing, um, you know, at such a young age, the If you can recognize now, if you continue it, it's gonna follow you. It's gonna follow your children. It's gonna follow your grandchildren, and so on and so on. So we

Shun:
right

Shannon:
wanna get away from that.

Shun:
And even not even all drama it's the um effect of also it's like um, my second child's father He's children with other women So i'm i've never met like I could walk past them in the grocery

Shannon:
Oh

Shun:
store

Shannon:
wow.

Shun:
mall to this day And I can tell you who they were And when I had my child in my late 20s, it wasn't a big deal because I wasn't with her father The thing we talked about a buddy was a buddy. You know, I wasn't with her father.

Shannon:
Hmm.

Shun:
We had We had a small stint of a relationship, but when I got pregnant with her we wasn't even together It was just like it was a jump-off night, right? But I had already had dealings with him I was lonely and you know one thing we were at a party and you know what we got a baby So now we have this child and he is these other kids into this day like I said, I have no idea who these women are these women have no idea who I am and Somehow though the kids do know each other And while writing my book, you know and co-hosting this show I realize now In the scheme of things how unhealthy that is, you know what i'm saying?

Shannon:
Yeah. Yeah.

Shun:
Not

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
not for he and I per se not for he and not for me and the women but for our children, you know But

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
thank god like I said, they do get along They all know each other and it was and he was kind of helpful in that because he would bring the kids over to see My daughter and we got connected that way and I love all the kids like they all my they're my they're my babies But I couldn't tell you who? some of their mothers were if I walk past them right now.

Shannon:
Right, right. And it's good to look back and reflect on, you know, how you could have done things differently, but yet

Shun:
Right.

Shannon:
it still worked out great or, you know, good for you, your kids, that they all know each other and they get along. But to make a conscious decision is what we're hoping we can get across to the young people today. You know, make a conscious decision to get along. Make a conscious decision to have your kids connected. Make a conscious decision not to act a fool in front of your children.

Shun:
Well, you know, I missed the mark on that one a couple of times but uh, I Mean like I said though being older now I realize that but I I'm gonna

Shannon:
Yeah,

Shun:
get up here

Shannon:
yeah,

Shun:
and people

Shannon:
yeah,

Shun:
hear this and be like

Shannon:
yeah.

Shun:
Oh, no, she's behind they suffice all the time. It was one though, you know, it was a little dusted one I didn't fool with her and she always

Shannon:
Thanks for

Shun:
had

Shannon:
watching!

Shun:
some foolishness to say so me and her girl We did not click I had to run down on her a couple of times, but I In the scheme of things like I said

Shannon:
Yeah,

Shun:
now

Shannon:
yeah, yeah.

Shun:
I realized

Shannon:
Ha ha

Shun:
how

Shannon:
ha.

Shun:
crazy that was But that wasn't so much as oh you got him. I want it was the mouth and the disrespect things I know to walk

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
away from now that

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
it wasn't cause you know My daughter shouldn't have been privileged to be privileged to see that kind of thing. But again,

Shannon:
Mm-hmm.

Shun:
I was in my late 20s I was old enough to know better but still unlearned as I am today

Shannon:
Right,

Shun:
as a 47

Shannon:
right.

Shun:
year old wife You know what I'm saying? So

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
but but thank God our kids still get along, you know, all the siblings are cool But girl, I I missed it a couple of times like I said

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
So I hope that we can bring that part of, like you said, it's a lot of young moms, maybe even stopping some of the young girls from being mothers with this show

Shannon:
Mm-hmm,

Shun:
and realizing the importance

Shannon:
right.

Shun:
of I do and all the other things we've said. But any drama, if you already have those kids, any drama that you bring will definitely eventually leak off until your children.

Shannon:
Yeah, and on the flip side, too. I gotta go on the flip side. So if you're the wifey and not the baby mama, you're walking into a situation, you don't have kids invested, and you're part of the drama, you're causing it or you're some type of instigator in the situation, I want those women to think about, you know,

Shun:
what they're

Shannon:
What

Shun:
doing

Shannon:
are you

Shun:
to

Shannon:
doing

Shun:
the children.

Shannon:
to these children? Yeah,

Shun:
That's

Shannon:
you're

Shun:
right,

Shannon:
not thinking

Shun:
that's

Shannon:
you're

Shun:
right.

Shannon:
thinking about you and this man It's just you and this man in the world because you're selfish You're all about this or whatever you don't want this man to think that you care about his children Of course you tell him all of your children. Oh, I can't

Shun:
Yeah.

Shannon:
wait for you know, these babies are mine or whatever But you're acting, you know fool or whatever in front of them. So you don't care about this child So or these children or whatever is going on in this man's world What was going on before you came there and then once you're in it? Don't say anything if he has an issue with his baby mama and their children let them work that out Stay out of it. Just

Shun:
I heard

Shannon:
oh

Shun:
Joel Osteen say, I think in a couple of days ago, he said, if you can't say anything nice, at least be quiet.

Shannon:
Be quiet.

Shun:
So if you don't have anything to bring to that situation, just be quiet. You

Shannon:
Be

Shun:
know,

Shannon:
quiet.

Shun:
don't create further turmoil for that parent, those parents, like you said, let them work it out, however they need to work it out. But don't

Shannon:
Yeah

Shun:
add to the drama.

Shannon:
Yeah, cuz we've seen so many times where it's a blended family and the stepmom You know wants to be all up in the whatever. It's like

Shun:
Right.

Shannon:
If it's not really impacting you and if it's not impacting your household your your bottom line, you know, you know, whatever It's

Shun:
Your bills your money just it

Shannon:
Exactly.

Shun:
ain't they don't concern you.

Shannon:
Yeah,

Shun:
Yeah, I don't

Shannon:
it doesn't

Shun:
concern

Shannon:
concern

Shun:
you

Shannon:
you Stay

Shun:
Don't create

Shannon:
out

Shun:
it

Shannon:
of it. Don't create

Shun:
and yeah

Shannon:
more drama

Shun:
And even though like my kids were born out of wedlock, you know Like I said, I was unlearned but I still even at a young age growing up You know in a crazy environment like I did I still knew the importance of sibling bonding You know, I have brothers and sisters from my stepdad. He had three children when he married my mom I was like three or four, I think, when they started dating and then they eventually got married. But honey, I'll go to war for them. We don't have a

Shannon:
Uhhhh...

Shun:
drip of blood running through our bodies.

Shannon:
Yeah... Yeah...

Shun:
But the bond that we share outweighs DNA. So that's why I know that it can be done. You know what I'm saying?

Shannon:
Yes, yes.

Shun:
I'm sure our parents probably had a word or two. Their mother, my mother, my stepmother. I told you last week, my mama's step,

Shannon:
We'll

Shun:
my mama just

Shannon:
see you next time.

Shun:
bothered

Shannon:
Bye.

Shun:
my stepmother. My stepmom was sweet, you know. She just was quiet. And she's just like, okay. And like you said about you, Shannon, some people probably took that as weak or passive, but that's just

Shannon:
Mm-hmm.

Shun:
who she was. She wasn't confrontational. And eventually,

Shannon:
Mm-hmm.

Shun:
guess what? Because she continued to stay quiet and not engaged, she and my mother eventually got

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
along. Sometimes you gotta just get by to get along and eventually

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
to work stuff. And again, by

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
all means, don't roll over. I

Shannon:
Right,

Shun:
need anybody

Shannon:
right.

Shun:
to understand, as saved as I am on this good day of May.

Shannon:
Hehehe

Shun:
I rolled over for nobody. But I do

Shannon:
Right,

Shun:
try

Shannon:
right.

Shun:
to keep peace at all costs.

Shannon:
Yeah, yeah and when there is this disrespect, you know blatant disrespect I don't care if it's from the you know, wifey baby mom, whatever side it comes from just understanding that You have to choose how you deal with that um because just because you're Trying to be the good one It it's not always gonna mean that you're gonna get that, you know back People

Shun:
right.

Shannon:
are not gonna reciprocate or

Shun:
Reciprocate.

Shannon:
What's the word?

Shun:
Reciprocate.

Shannon:
There you go There you go, thanks John reciprocate the The consideration and respect that you're giving they're not going to give that back to you and if they're not giving it back to you You have to choose how you're gonna react to that and hopefully choose the you know, the proper path

Shun:
Right and and I keep hearing you use that words choose Shannon. I'm gonna I'm gonna go like a little different direction with this When you have drama Sometimes that makes the kids are forces the kid to choose between the parents when things go left, you know

Shannon:
That's true.

Shun:
I mean sometimes it's just no wins in a relationship We both

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
had enough relationships to know that sometimes

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
you just have to call the quits because there's nothing there It's nothing you can do to make it work and you just decide it's over the situation is impossible, right? So

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
normally the kid is gonna go with one parent or the other, you know, you may have some kind of co-parenting arrangement, but, and for the better part, the child is basically mainly placed with one person, right?

Shannon:
Mm-hmm.

Shun:
Don't be that parent because you were fortunate enough to get the child. Don't be that parent that chooses to pit the child against the other parent. And that usually happens when the one parent who's not ready to let go is forced to let go.

Shannon:
Oh

Shun:
Oh,

Shannon:
yeah.

Shun:
your daddy ain't this. Your

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
mom ain't that. More often than not, that's going to make things hard for everyone, including the kids. And those kids are stuck in the middle, you know,

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
and may even end up disliking the other parent because this one parent wants to play victim. You know,

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
this people is our drama becoming our kids karma. We can't do that.

Shannon:
Exactly right and I made a point um not and like people will probably say oh she keeps patting herself on the back I'm not patting myself in the back I'm just saying I made a point of not talking negatively about my son's father to my son I wanted

Shun:
That's

Shannon:
him to

Shun:
absolute.

Shannon:
always

Shun:
Yeah.

Shannon:
think highly of him no matter what you know so other than the fact that you know the material things. When my son would ask for certain material things, I would say, oh, you just like your dad. You want what?

Shun:
I Think they all got that Even a little one now honey got that they got that honest even a little one wants that so

Shannon:
Yeah,

Shun:
yeah That was

Shannon:
yeah,

Shun:
that

Shannon:
yeah.

Shun:
was a DNA trait. That was nothing

Shannon:
Right,

Shun:
on you

Shannon:
right. So that's the only negative I would ever bring up. It's like, come on now.

Shun:
They

Shannon:
Um. Ha ha.

Shun:
want the finest of the finest with no job, okay?

Shannon:
Right,

Shun:
I'm

Shannon:
right.

Shun:
with you on that baby. They got that honestly.

Shannon:
And

Shun:
And

Shannon:
want

Shun:
not

Shannon:
to

Shun:
even

Shannon:
brag

Shun:
just from

Shannon:
about everything they got too.

Shun:
their, not just from their father, that comes from that side of the family. No, they top notch baby. So

Shannon:
Oh yeah,

Shun:
they got

Shannon:
tabnets.

Shun:
it both ways. They got it from their daddy and this people. You know, they

Shannon:
Right,

Shun:
find.

Shannon:
right.

Shun:
They like to dress fine, baby and drive fine. So they, you know, we can't

Shannon:
Uh

Shun:
really blame the kids.

Shannon:
huh.

Shun:
They got it on.

Shannon:
Right, right, yep,

Shun:
But you know, it's

Shannon:
yep.

Shun:
important though, what you said, you didn't exude that negativity, a heartache or whatever you got going on. Even

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
if it's the worst parent in the world, Shannon, it's still not

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
our place to say to your child, your daddy ain't nothing or your mama ain't nothing, you

Shannon:
Right,

Shun:
know,

Shannon:
exactly.

Shun:
that could be the most horrible

Shannon:
Yep.

Shun:
parent in the world, but never put your child in, you know, in a place that. to say, oh, well, my mom said this about you. I think that is

Shannon:
Yeah,

Shun:
horrible.

Shannon:
right. I think it's horrible. Yeah, and for people that use their children as pawns too, you

Shun:
Yeah.

Shannon:
know, that's another thing You know, I'm a I'm a keep away from you Until

Shun:
because

Shannon:
you

Shun:
you

Shannon:
give

Shun:
don't

Shannon:
me

Shun:
want

Shannon:
what

Shun:
me

Shannon:
I

Shun:
no

Shannon:
want.

Shun:
more.

Shannon:
Whatever Yeah, I won't let you see this child Or

Shun:
Drama.

Shannon:
you know, I'm I'm gonna keep you away from you know, special occasions or whatever It's just it's unnecessary so we just you know want you all to think about the children and how they're impacted and not only just impacted today, but for generations on. You could say, oh, they'll be all right. I went through it. A lot of people will say that, oh, look how I grew up. I went through it. But

Shun:
It doesn't

Shannon:
a lot

Shun:
make

Shannon:
of

Shun:
it

Shannon:
us

Shun:
right.

Shannon:
that went through, right, it doesn't make it right. And then you also turn around and do the same thing in

Shun:
For your children, yeah?

Shannon:
some form. Yeah, it might not be to the extreme that you experienced it. or it might be a slight version of what you experienced, but it still causes the same amount of harm to the children.

Shun:
That's it. And I mean, you know, I have to always put this out there because I know it's great and it's the most healthiest thing to do to allow kids and their parents to have relationships. But now listen, never put your child in danger. I don't care if it's the kid's mother, the father, the grandmother, preacher, or the Pope. Never allow anyone to put your child in harm's way and mistreat them. Now, I'm not saying that. Don't miss me on that. But what I'm saying is, if the dad and mom, you know, Because they have some terrible patterns or whatever as far as being a dad or financially supporting them I learned what my second child, you know just Oh god, girl, I don't know. He's not a bad person, you know He and I actually get along very well, but i'm just going to tell you he wasn't the best father to her growing up and whatever Went on between he and I I never discussed it with my daughter. You know, I never did I never I mean girl I can get on the phone with my sister or my mama even his mama and

Shannon:
Mm-hmm.

Shun:
give

Shannon:
Mm-hmm.

Shun:
him the business

Shannon:
Ha ha

Shun:
What little scrap it say I would

Shannon:
ha.

Shun:
give him the business so another grown person But I didn't

Shannon:
Right,

Shun:
give it

Shannon:
right,

Shun:
to my daughter, you know Oh,

Shannon:
right,

Shun:
he wasn't worth

Shannon:
right,

Shun:
a dirty walked on but

Shannon:
yeah.

Shun:
I let my daughter grow up You know what I did? I allow him to see her when he wanted to to take her wherever he wanted to lie to her when he wanted to However, he did it when she grew up. She said mom, you know father is he's not a good dad I said well baby he's still your dad and she said at an age where she can understand but you know what mom I never went without no matter how many times he lied to

Shannon:
Um...

Shun:
me or let me down you were always there and I never went without anything I let my daughter grow up to see that mama got your back no matter what

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
you'll be alright and

Shannon:
That's

Shun:
she formed

Shannon:
right.

Shun:
her

Shannon:
Mm-hmm.

Shun:
own opinion now at her age is for he and her to work it out mama's out of it I did my job, you understand? She done walked the stage,

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
baby, she grown. So whatever y'all got going on at this point, I still tell her though, talk about that with your father. You will not take

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
it to social media. You will not take it to the phone, to the streets. You deal with it with your father because

Shannon:
Mm-hmm.

Shun:
I still snatch

Shannon:
Mm-hmm.

Shun:
your liver because you will respect your father at all costs. All my children

Shannon:
That's

Shun:
know

Shannon:
right.

Shun:
that. If it's any bad mouthing to be done or any getting down to begin down, I'll get with them on a personal parent level. But you as a child

Shannon:
That's

Shun:
will

Shannon:
right.

Shun:
always respect your father.

Shannon:
Yep, I'm with you there. I am with you there. And that's the interesting thing too, Sean, as we're doing this podcast, I love it, that we're, even though we've known each other for such a long time, learning these details about each other just

Shun:
Exactly, the intimate

Shannon:
makes

Shun:
details.

Shannon:
our, yeah, yeah, it makes our bond even stronger and I appreciate that about you.

Shun:
And I appreciate that about you as well, sister.

Shannon:
It's

Shun:
You know,

Shannon:
you

Shun:
you

Shannon:
know to

Shun:
gotta be able to keep it real. You can't help anyone

Shannon:
be You feel real

Shun:
if you don't

Shannon:
exactly

Shun:
keep it real.

Shannon:
it yeah, yeah and and even though there's not a lot that we're saying here That's oh so controversial or whatever, but I know they're there We're probably gonna piss off a couple folks every now and again. So hey

Shun:
Tell the truth, shame the devil. You

Shannon:
have

Shun:
know my motto.

Shannon:
to leave this.

Shun:
You've been knowing me long enough to know that, owner. Tell

Shannon:
Right,

Shun:
the truth, shame

Shannon:
yep.

Shun:
the devil. Because

Shannon:
Yep.

Shun:
if I'm not, let me tell you something, if I'm not hiding from God, I'm not gonna hide

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
from anyone. He knows

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
every hair in my head. He knows every detail about me. I could care less what anyone else thinks. But I'm

Shannon:
Yeah,

Shun:
not gonna get on here and say

Shannon:
yeah.

Shun:
anything to harm anybody or anything that I haven't been through myself that I can't speak on.

Shannon:
Right, right. Yeah, so if anyone is offended by anything that we say, just know

Shun:
We don't

Shannon:
we're

Shun:
mean

Shannon:
just

Shun:
that.

Shannon:
speaking our truth. Yeah, we're just speaking our truth. So, you know, and we're here to, you know, offer, you know, what we've learned and hopefully give some insight to people that are dealing with, you know, similar situations or. even situations where they just need some type of guidance on how to react. Even if it's not baby mama drama, it could be any other situation

Shun:
any

Shannon:
where

Shun:
kind

Shannon:
you

Shun:
of

Shannon:
need

Shun:
drama.

Shannon:
a cool head. Yeah, where

Shun:
That's

Shannon:
you just

Shun:
it.

Shannon:
need to understand how to keep a cool head. So

Shun:
That's

Shannon:
that's

Shun:
it.

Shannon:
where we are.

Shun:
But our focus tonight is to remember people. Our drama becomes our kids' karma. And we wanna

Shannon:
Exactly.

Shun:
avoid that at all costs.

Shannon:
Absolutely.

Shun:
All right.

Shannon:
Absolutely.

Shun:
All right, so I'm gonna go into our red line topic for tonight.

Shannon:
Alright, I realize...

Shun:
Yes, today's redline topic is from our WBM winner of the month. This

Shannon:
Woohoo,

Shun:
is our

Shannon:
I'm

Shun:
first

Shannon:
baby

Shun:
winner.

Shannon:
first!

Shun:
I know Yes Yes,

Shannon:
No.

Shun:
it came around so fast. I can't believe it. But um,

Shannon:
I know.

Shun:
yeah Shannon and I chose a winner from our wifeyandbabymama.com account. Um, this one comes from Ty Unfortunately, you know we failed to mention that we would like you guys to include like your state or city You know just so we'll know where you're writing from but hi from the title. I hope you know who you are the title

Shannon:
Hehehe

Shun:
is Don't call my house at the 9 p.m Okay, now that's it that's the post as you young people say she didn't she didn't say anything else Don't call my house at the 9 p.m So we don't have much to say as the source or as a reason why she wants to call her and I want to be

Shannon:
Mm-hmm.

Shun:
careful Now not to put words in anybody's mouth. I don't know what she meant here I would just personally say since redline, you know is my segment. I took this as to have some respect I like

Shannon:
Yes.

Shun:
to make a lot of references. This

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
one goes the bird man put some respect on my name

Shannon:
Right. Right.

Shun:
And you know, I could imagine time in an ex baby baby father mother maybe just a friend

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
who knows however,

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
it goes She said don't call her house at the 9 p.m Now with me any of my real friends Shannon and family knows it's a pattern They know my love language is all my peeps. Don't call me at the 830 unless it's emergency. Somebody better be bleeding

Shannon:
I'm going to go ahead and close the video.

Shun:
Because I have to 830 now shut it down up in here So

Shannon:
Bye.

Shun:
at the 10 30, I know I'm about to be looking for the nearest exit even if I'm out So if 8 30 i'm home don't

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
call my house I'm i'm laying it down even if i'm out in an engagement party at 10 30 You about can believe i'm looking for the next exit. So

Shannon:
Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha

Shun:
Um, you know, i'm a wife a mother crime fighter counselor referee for the kids all day When me and mine lay down Get somebody else to do it Don't call

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
my house.

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
Don't call my house late for nothing nothing on emergency so tie

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
again i don't know what this specifically meant but i definitely felt this one in my spirit honey so

Shannon:
Yeah,

Shun:
kudos

Shannon:
yeah.

Shun:
to you tie so tell her what she's gonna be winning shannon

Shannon:
Who knows what that is? Yeah, she gets that $100 gift card.

Shun:
Yes!

Shannon:
Congratulations, Ty, on your gift card. You will

Shun:
Yes.

Shannon:
see it soon. But one thing I did want to add to that, though, as you said after 9 PM, but I think respect can also be early morning, like for me.

Shun:
Right.

Shannon:
If you will for let me go back if you call me after 9 p.m. 9 times out of 10 I won't even hear to call cuz I'm old Even here to fuck. I won't even hear the phone ring. So good luck

Shun:
Ha ha. Ha

Shannon:
with that

Shun:
ha.

Shannon:
but Early mornings like Saturday mornings people know family and friends. Don't call me before 10 a.m Please

Shun:
Mm-hmm.

Shannon:
I just need a time even if I'm not sleeping I just need that little bit of time or whatever to

Shun:
from the week,

Shannon:
you know

Shun:
from your crime

Shannon:
Yeah,

Shun:
fighting

Shannon:
yeah,

Shun:
and your

Shannon:
yeah

Shun:
working and cyberspace and yeah husband cooking

Shannon:
Right,

Shun:
yeah we

Shannon:
right,

Shun:
all need

Shannon:
right,

Shun:
it.

Shannon:
right. Yeah, and when I think about what ty said too, um it were in the in the um Short sentence or whatever. I you know, even when it applies to the the I don't know the baby mama say say this is specifically for the baby mama. The baby mama does have to respect that as well You know, if it's not an emergency,

Shun:
Non-emergency, yes.

Shannon:
don't just be calling just to call, you know. You know, and we have touched on that a couple of times before too, but I think that's something to keep in mind because you're gonna only cause drama, you know. Just

Shun:
no effect.

Shannon:
keep the peace.

Shun:
Keep the respect.

Shannon:
All right, keep the, oh yeah, the respect and the peace. So once again, congratulations to Ty, first winner we are so excited and

Shun:
Yes.

Shannon:
we're happy with the submissions that we're getting and we want

Shun:
Keep

Shannon:
to

Shun:
em coming!

Shannon:
remind yeah remind everyone to keep them coming send them to wifey and baby mama at gmail.com and these are your red lines things that you say you know would be a line that people shouldn't cross whether it's a baby mama relationship or not so We thank you for your submissions. All right, now we're on the fictional family I'm feeling. The fictional family I'm feeling this week. They are the Kyles. Everyone remembers the Kyles from my wife and kids starring Damon Wayans and Tisha Campbell Martin. I always say her last name wrong, but

Shun:
I'm going to go ahead and close the video.

Shannon:
love that franchise. And the episode that really gets me the night is The kids are fighting They're screaming at each other the oldest daughter and the oldest son because the oldest daughter bedazzled his Basketball Jersey and he has it on And not only did she bedazzle it she even cut a v-neck in it so hey, I mean look crazy, but anyway He's like why did you do this to me and she says weren't you cut from the team and he says I wasn't But I will be now if I wear this, you know, whatever so they're screaming and then the youngest little baby comes in She has to be I don't know if I had to guess six seven years old and she's Screaming they're all screaming. Shut up. Shut up. Shut up and then Damon comes in the father Mr. Kyle and he sits them down, the two oldest ones, and he sits them at the table. He says, you sit here, you sit there. Now I want you to look at each other and come up with three reasons why you like each other, a piece, three a piece, why you like each other. And you're gonna sit here, you're not allowed to get up until you come up with these three reasons as to why you like each other. And my take from that is that's a form of conflict resolution. Of course, they probably wouldn't work in most of our households.

Shun:
You

Shannon:
But it was just a way to say, let's figure out how to do things differently. They're at each other's throat. They're telling each other, you shut up, you shut up, you shut up, you're this, you're that, or whatever. And he simply sits them down, say, look at each other. And that's an example. to show them how do you resolve conflict without foolishness. We don't

Shun:
Right.

Shannon:
need the foolishness. So generation after generation after generation will understand this is how we resolve conflict. We sit down and figure out why we like each other.

Shun:
And Shannon, I'll share an intimate detail. Like you said, as we do this show, we're friends, we can hang out and go eat, you know, have a drink, have a laugh.

Shannon:
Mm-hmm.

Shun:
But

Shannon:
Mm-hmm.

Shun:
something I will share with you, that's how Hubby and I used to talk to each other when we came back together, you know. He was so defensive and I'm so foist-rous and I still thank God and I know it's all God that we are even together today in peace. But for the first few years, that's how we dealt with stuff. We wanted to see who could get the loudest. And you know

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
what that taught our kids? That taught our kids to be loud. And that's how we, so I would get to talking to them and then they would get loud. And I'm like, who you think you talking to? But then I had to

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
make myself sit down and understand that's all they hear all day between you and their father. So

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
I had to go to him, we had to come together and say, hey, this is not how we gonna deal with things. We got taken in the garage. And sometimes, you know, we need a good screaming match. We're getting a car, we take a ride.

Shannon:
Mm-hmm.

Shun:
We'll go in the garage. We had to learn to stop interacting with our. between each other in front of our kids that way because we saw them being forcers and we looking like we don't stop arguing like we thought the not somebody about to get knocked the heck out of me here like cuz who y'all talking to but that's all they

Shannon:
Right,

Shun:
saw for the

Shannon:
right.

Shun:
first few years and now guess what we we hug it out and they hug it out and we had to just learn you know everything ain't

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
hunky-dory we still have them out but we don't do it in

Shannon:
Oh

Shun:
the presence

Shannon:
yeah.

Shun:
of our children and you have to go screaming match with my god we go let's go listen to some music we're good now So I'm not

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
saying you won't ever have another conflict or you won't ever have it out, but just don't do it in front of the kids. We had to learn to not do it in front of our children.

Shannon:
Oh yeah, there will definitely be conflict, you know, because we are individuals with our individual brains, you know, we don't all think alike. So it's okay if there's conflict, it's about how

Shun:
how

Shannon:
we

Shun:
we

Shannon:
deal

Shun:
handle

Shannon:
with that

Shun:
it.

Shannon:
conflict. Yeah, conflict resolution. So

Shun:
All

Shannon:
that,

Shun:
right. Okay, I feel.

Shannon:
yeah, so that is the fictional family I'm filling this week, the Kyles.

Shun:
All right.

Shannon:
So we have come to the end of our broadcast tonight. We wanna thank you once again for tuning in and being supporters of this broadcast and of Shannon

Shun:
Yes.

Shannon:
and Sean. We

Shun:
Thank

Shannon:
love

Shun:
you

Shannon:
you

Shun:
guys

Shannon:
all and

Shun:
so

Shannon:
we

Shun:
much.

Shannon:
want you to, yes, thank you so much. Like our Facebook page, follow us on Twitter, Instagram, and... We're on all platforms, so we look forward to next week. And 7.30 next week, it's a new episode. And we will of course let you know in advance what that episode is down, thanks to Sean. She will give you a heads up. She will give

Shun:
So

Shannon:
you a

Shun:
follow

Shannon:
heads

Shun:
the

Shannon:
up.

Shun:
pages so that you'll have a heads

Shannon:
Follow?

Shun:
up on what

Shannon:
Yeah,

Shun:
to listen for

Shannon:
yes. All right, thank you all until next week.

Shun:
Love you.