Wifey and Baby Mama

Shun:
Hey, I'm Shawn.

Shannon:
I am Shannon.

Shun:
And we're the host of Wifey and Baby Mama. Thank you all for joining us again and welcome to all of our new listeners to this week's episode titled Many Men. As promised, when we started this podcast, we're going to explore a lot of different angles of blended families and relationships. And tonight is definitely a side that we felt is important when dealing with children. We thought taking a look at the dynamic of a situation when there's more than one male in the picture could be beneficial for families. who are dealing with or that may deal with people who have children in the future. Now this will be our female perspective. We can't speak as males. However, Shannon and I have both experienced this, having children with men who are no longer in relationships with us, but we will always have, or at least should have some sort of connection with, because we share a child. Maybe not so much with you anymore, Shannon, as your son has grown, but I'm actually still dealing with it, having teenage children. and having to interact with their fathers when it comes to the needs of my daughters.

Shannon:
Yeah, and even though my son has grown, I do have a good relationship with the common denominator or Buddy and you. So,

Shun:
Right.

Shannon:
because our dynamic is probably a lot different than other people, even as my son matures and gets older and older, becomes an old, old man,

Shun:
Yeah.

Shannon:
I still can feel comfortable saying, hey, I can reach out to Buddy, because it's okay. for whatever's going on with his grown son. But

Shun:
Absolutely.

Shannon:
for the most part, I don't have to. Yeah, it's a given or I should say a given. It's understood that it's okay, but I don't have to. I know that my son is old enough to reach out to his father himself and I don't have to reach in or step in or whatever. So I am grateful that the door is open, but I don't use it or take advantage of it or...

Shun:
Right,

Shannon:
um

Shun:
but

Shannon:
miss

Shun:
even with

Shannon:
or misuse

Shun:
I misused

Shannon:
it

Shun:
it. Yep,

Shannon:
yeah

Shun:
but even with him being grown It's things that you're gonna want to say like, you know, like I said, you know, hey, he's thinking about changing jobs Like he's kind of undecisive

Shannon:
Mm-hmm.

Shun:
as a male. What would you do? You know, you

Shannon:
Oh

Shun:
have

Shannon:
yeah.

Shun:
a husband that i'm sure the little things as a

Shannon:
Oh

Shun:
male

Shannon:
yeah.

Shun:
you can go to your husband for But as his

Shannon:
Oh

Shun:
father

Shannon:
yeah.

Shun:
he may say you may say, you know, he's thinking about doing this buddy Could you try and change his mind? I don't think this is a good path for him I

Shannon:
Oh,

Shun:
don't

Shannon:
yeah.

Shun:
care how old the child get, you're still their parents. And

Shannon:
Right,

Shun:
it's gonna

Shannon:
and

Shun:
be

Shannon:
here's

Shun:
necessary.

Shannon:
a perfect, exactly, and here's a perfect example of that actual situation. This happened probably about, I don't know, five, six years ago. So my son was still an adult, but he was running a food truck. I had bought him a food truck, trying to set him up in life. I'm like, let

Shun:
Okay.

Shannon:
me give you this food truck business, do this, blah, blah, blah. A situation happened where someone from Hollywood wanted to... possibly Record a or start filming a reality show about this food truck or whatever and my son wasn't on board He was he was going off like this happens to people every day. So of course I call buddy. I'm like Well, he did

Shun:
Mm-hmm. Yeah!

Shannon:
he does not want to meet with this Hollywood person blah blah blah, whatever

Shun:
Wow,

Shannon:
so in that situation I felt

Shun:
I remember

Shannon:
it was

Shun:
that

Shannon:
necessary

Shun:
yeah.

Shannon:
You remember

Shun:
Yeah,

Shannon:
that? to

Shun:
I remember

Shannon:
get,

Shun:
that.

Shannon:
yeah,

Shun:
I

Shannon:
I'm

Shun:
forgot

Shannon:
like, somebody

Shun:
about that,

Shannon:
needs

Shun:
yeah.

Shannon:
to, yeah, somebody

Shun:
Somebody

Shannon:
needs to

Shun:
needs

Shannon:
get

Shun:
to talk

Shannon:
on

Shun:
some

Shannon:
this

Shun:
sense

Shannon:
boy.

Shun:
into it. Hey.

Shannon:
Yeah, so ultimately nothing happened from it because my son did not really want to work that food truck and we're no longer no longer in that business, but it was

Shun:
But you tried.

Shannon:
an example of yeah, it's just an example of where I did reach out, you know, to buddy

Shun:
saying, hey,

Shannon:
and say

Shun:
could

Shannon:
hey.

Shun:
you help

Shannon:
yeah.

Shun:
me out with this? But that goes to show too that even though he's grown, this is something as parents, we need to come together on because it's for the benefit of our child. But

Shannon:
Exactly.

Shun:
the real side of that is once that child has grown, we can try and influence them. But once they're grown, Shannon, they have to make their own minds up.

Shannon:
I know,

Shun:
So

Shannon:
yeah,

Shun:
ultimately,

Shannon:
yeah.

Shun:
you too may have seen the opportunity in it, but what can you do when they're grown?

Shannon:
What can you do?

Shun:
Right, so I want to talk about like first of all with all of our topics, you know, the healthy aspect of the topic of many men Which of course would be you know, everyone established in a good wholesome relationship And hash out a way to raise the children the most positive way possible now know what I said positive, you know, not perfect Um,

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
of course, there will be disagreements not everyone involved, you know, shannon will see eye to eye at all time and that's okay But don't at any point that stink if things boil over or something can't be resolved, you know, by holding hands and singing kumbaya that we failed now, you know, things are going to happen.

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
People are not always going to agree, but learn whatever lesson you need and make strides to keep things moving in the right direction.

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
You know?

Shannon:
Absolutely. Yep. Absolutely.

Shun:
Now another, you know, look at that would be the not so positive side, where there's more than one man and everyone wants to be the boss, you know,

Shannon:
No?

Shun:
in a relationship, you know, when co-parenting fellas, there's no room for egos, you know, and just because you made a child doesn't make you a father. You can't, you know, in your rightful mind think you can float around living your best life, not helping that woman, getting a different woman pregnant every month because you have those, you know, doing anything and everything besides helping raise that child. then have an issue or opinion when someone steps up and starts interacting with the child and being with the mom. Now don't miss me, you know, I've learned to make myself clear when I say things. I had that symptom. I hear what I wanna hear. So let me make, I had

Shannon:
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Shun:
that symptom. I've been delivered. So let me say it again and hear me clearly. Being an absent father doesn't mean you're still not that child's father, you know. Nothing can change that unless you abuse the child and in my case you wouldn't be in about his dad because I'm gonna send you To glory but you know back to my point being a bad dad doesn't change the DNA You know or negate you from your responsibility once the mother's gotten with a responsible man, you know None of that changes but if you want some rights and opinions you have to be Offering some sort of assistance to that child, you know, if things are hard on you Shanna You may not have money if you're out of work offer your time Offer the babysit.

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
Attend

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
PTAs to take some pressure off of the mom somehow. You know?

Shannon:
Yeah, and your I mean just being present period,

Shun:
That's it.

Shannon:
you know, I hear this a lot from, you know, people that grew up in a from or from a broken home and even with me, you know, I was of course, very close to my father. My father was my everything, but we were, you know, however many you know from what most people look at from an ideal father situation but

Shun:
And the

Shannon:
I had

Shun:
same

Shannon:
him

Shun:
for

Shannon:
on a

Shun:
me.

Shannon:
pedestal yeah

Shun:
Me

Shannon:
I had

Shun:
too.

Shannon:
him on a pedestal

Shun:
My

Shannon:
I didn't

Shun:
father

Shannon:
care

Shun:
wasn't over

Shannon:
yeah

Shun:
the road. My father was an over the road trucker, Shanna. I didn't see my father

Shannon:
see

Shun:
often either, but he was a financial

Shannon:
yeah

Shun:
support. But I didn't

Shannon:
yeah

Shun:
see him. My stepfather

Shannon:
yeah

Shun:
raised me, so I totally understand. But I'm sorry,

Shannon:
yeah

Shun:
go ahead.

Shannon:
yeah but I you know the same way you have your father on a pedestal because I we've talked about this you know both of

Shun:
hehe

Shannon:
us we value our fathers,

Shun:
We

Shannon:
you know?

Shun:
adored him, yeah.

Shannon:
Yeah, adored them. And when I look at, you know, my father, he remarried after my mother and he stayed married, of course, to the day he died, cause that's my father, he was just a faithful guy. You know, he just

Shun:
Right.

Shannon:
like, I'm not, you know, I'm not here. I'm not trying to bounce around from, you know, chick to chick to chick or whatever, not passing judgment on those that

Shun:
Right!

Shannon:
do that. I don't want to sit down real, real preachy, even though we are a little

Shun:
Right.

Shannon:
preachy. But

Shun:
Little bit.

Shannon:
just a tiny bit. But you know, the fact that he was there, you know, he was a constant, even though I didn't see him constantly, you know, he was a constant. Anytime I reached out, he was there. Anytime I picked up the phone, he called me every single day. That's one thing I

Shun:
Mm-hmm.

Shannon:
can say about my dad. I never went a day without. hearing him or if I missed a call I got a voicemail you know and so of course I knew to call him right back and I'm so blessed that I still have one of his final voicemails and some people may call it a little you know crazy but I have to listen to it every week sometimes every

Shun:
Totally

Shannon:
day

Shun:
get it. I get it. I was like all shaky and nervous I didn't want to turn my father's

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
phone up because I wanted to be able to call and

Shannon:
Oh

Shun:
hear

Shannon:
yeah.

Shun:
his voicemail,

Shannon:
Yes,

Shun:
you know

Shannon:
yes.

Shun:
And now

Shannon:
Yes.

Shun:
I think my father's been dead two years everybody like okay now you about to pay this bill. It doesn't matter

Shannon:
It doesn't

Shun:
The

Shannon:
matter.

Shun:
whole point. Yeah, the whole point was I wanted his voice. I I totally get it They have

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
to they were present to some capacity. You know what I mean,

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
whether it

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
was physically financially we knew daddy And we

Shannon:
Hmm?

Shun:
knew that I well I knew and I sounds like I can speak for you too when I say

Shannon:
Yep, you

Shun:
If

Shannon:
can.

Shun:
I called my daddy, it was all right If my daddy said I could do it. It's nothing else. Somebody else could tell me

Shannon:
that's right.

Shun:
You know if I burned a house down and I had the fire

Shannon:
yeah.

Shun:
on one hand girl and the paper and the other he'd

Shannon:
yeah.

Shun:
be like She didn't do that That's

Shannon:
Exactly.

Shun:
how much my father believed in me. So The point we're trying to make here is don't think you can be m.i.a fellas and then when another man comes along Here you come pulling a daddy card. Like you have to do something

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
to earn that right besides donate sperm. You know,

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
it's more to being a daddy than that. And once that woman is in a healthy relationship, don't do that to the child, you know, or disturb their peace. Because as we've discussed quite often, any static or chaos with the adults will definitely affect the kids, you know.

Shannon:
Right, right. And the flip side to that too, you know, some men may say, oh, she's in another relationship. So they move on forgetting about their kids with that

Shun:
That

Shannon:
woman,

Shun:
is so

Shannon:
you

Shun:
true.

Shannon:
know?

Shun:
Yeah,

Shannon:
And I'm like,

Shun:
that is true.

Shannon:
why do y'all do that? And it just creates so much anger in the children and they grow

Shun:
heart

Shannon:
up and they never let it go. Yeah, hurt and anger. Yes, you're right, hurt and anger. And they never let it go. I talked to grown... women my age who are

Shun:
have daddy

Shannon:
still

Shun:
issues

Shannon:
holding

Shun:
because

Shannon:
on

Shun:
of that.

Shannon:
to yeah they got daddy issues I oh he moved on with the other woman and her kids he's raising her kids or I'm like but you're 50 still talking

Shun:
You hear what

Shannon:
about

Shun:
I'm saying?

Shannon:
him and these other kids what have you done as an adult to fix that I can't all be on in my opinion now I know I'm gonna get some backlash but it can't all be on that It has to be, once you're an adult, now, if you're a kid, that's different. But once you're an adult and you recognize that there's been something wrong there, if you don't try to fix it, then don't talk about it. Don't

Shun:
It's

Shannon:
dwell

Shun:
a fact.

Shannon:
on it. Move on. But if you're going to dog this man or dog that woman, if it's a mother, cause it could be a mother too. But

Shun:
That's

Shannon:
in this

Shun:
right.

Shannon:
episode, episode, we're talking about men,

Shun:
Yeah, we

Shannon:
but

Shun:
get to

Shannon:
if

Shun:
them

Shannon:
you're

Shun:
next

Shannon:
going to.

Shun:
week.

Shannon:
Yeah. Right. But if you're gonna dog this man, you know, the entire, your entire lifetime, it's like you're wasting your life. Either you fix it or you forget it. One or the other, don't just keep dogging and talking trash. And I hear

Shun:
Because

Shannon:
that so much.

Shun:
it's not just bad on the father. Okay, they did what they did and that's definitely wrong. But when you continue to harp on it, it keeps you in that place. It doesn't

Shannon:
Yes,

Shun:
allow you to move on. You

Shannon:
right.

Shun:
have to fix it and forget it like you said, or just forget it and forgive it altogether and just move

Shannon:
Hmm?

Shun:
on. But

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
my opinion and my advice would be to fix it. And again, I know we're gonna talk about the women next week but I went on with my mom like that. All of my 20s and... Third is my mom and I were not in a good place. But I constantly fought and prayed for a relationship with my mom and when she got herself together, those, let's think it's about seven years when she was like on a right path before she passed, were the best years of my life. Had I harped on, mom wasn't there, mom left me. Like you said, I know we're talking about men, but I didn't have daddy issues.

Shannon:
Yeah,

Shun:
So I'm just referring to

Shannon:
yeah,

Shun:
a mom situation. I wouldn't

Shannon:
right,

Shun:
have never,

Shannon:
right.

Shun:
I would have never, you know, been able to have that if I would have held onto that hurt. And it was definitely all on her. Because like you said, when you're a kid, there's nothing you can do about the way you're treated or

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
whatever. But I just still knew that was my mom. And I knew you get

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
but one. So

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
at all costs, I wanted to fix it with her. So

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
back on the last aspect of this topic I wanna explore before we move on is for the women. Now that I'm speaking on my mom. In our case, women, don't let many men be a negative for the children. You know, it's always great to have help, but it's even better to be cautious. You know,

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
when it's, you know, when I went throughout my dating phases, no one met my children until I was sure it was moving to something serious. I also spoke with my children's father and was like, hey, this is what, you know, I met such and such, this is what it is, this is what we're doing. Giving them insight on my new partner and the fact that

Shannon:
Mm-hmm.

Shun:
they will now be around your child too. You know. I know none of my children's father had to ever worry if I was being smart in that area because anyone who knows me Shannon knows it's for a reason baby. I'll rock that orange jumpsuit without a doubt and that's for my four kids. But I

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
played fair because I would want to know if they had other women and who they had around my kids if the shoe was on the other foot.

Shannon:
Yeah, yeah. I mean, that's interesting to me too that you mentioned that you're interested in who the other women are around your kids because there are women who don't care. You know,

Shun:
There are,

Shannon:
they

Shun:
not me.

Shannon:
they there are I know. Yeah, me there. I always I did not introduce my son to to people either until he was you know, I want to say 16, 17 years old.

Shun:
Mm-hmm.

Shannon:
But when he was younger now. It was like,

Shun:
That's

Shannon:
no,

Shun:
right.

Shannon:
you're not meeting anybody. You're going to my dad's for the weekend while I go out on a date, that type

Shun:
Right,

Shannon:
of thing.

Shun:
right. And that's what I mean, unless you know it's something serious, that's the way it should be. And

Shannon:
Mm-hmm.

Shun:
you know, I'm gonna probably step on some toes here, ladies, but thank me later, you know, it's a no

Shannon:
Hehehehe

Shun:
way, shape or form healthy to have all kinds of men around your children, you know, boys

Shannon:
Yeah,

Shun:
or girls. In this

Shannon:
right.

Shun:
sick world we live in, we're gonna have to guard these babies with all we got.

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
And if you want to throw it back on OnlyFans, you want to throw it back in Vegas, on Broadway, wherever, keep that

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
away from your kids. You know, I'm

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
not judging. Like we said, we never, we're not here to judge. We're not in a position to do that because now that we've made our mistakes, it don't make us better than anyone else. We just have wisdom to try to keep someone else for doing. We try to use our wisdom to negate other people from doing the things that we did. So I can just tell you, besides it being physically unsafe to have all these different men, it's emotionally scarring to children.

Shannon:
Yeah,

Shun:
I think

Shannon:
yeah.

Shun:
Shannon, you said on a previous episode, things may not affect everyone to the same degree. But anything that's unhealthy will have some kind of effect, whether it's right now, the child stays alive, or when they get into their own relationships, you know?

Shannon:
Yeah, and I know we'll touch on some more serious topics, but I can say what you just touched on about unhealthy. I had a conversation last week with someone that I know, another black girl, and she was talking about being sexually assaulted as a young girl. And that happens to so many of us.

Shun:
You

Shannon:
And...

Shun:
wouldn't believe it.

Shannon:
including me and I have to say that I'm putting it out there. You know it has happened I it's hard for me to meet um you know young black girls that haven't gone through something and

Shun:
You

Shannon:
black

Shun:
got that

Shannon:
boys

Shun:
right.

Shannon:
black boys don't want to talk about

Shun:
Absolutely.

Shannon:
it but they have gone through it too. So when you're bringing in all of these negative energies and all of this whatever for your own pleasure and not thinking about your kids Or you may trust this person. Some people are really, really that good,

Shun:
They're good

Shannon:
where

Shun:
at putting

Shannon:
you're

Shun:
on facades.

Shannon:
like,

Shun:
That's right.

Shannon:
uh-huh, yeah.

Shun:
Oh, they are

Shannon:
So,

Shun:
wonderful.

Shannon:
yeah. So you might say, oh, this is the best person for my family, my child, or my children, or whatever. Just, I don't know, have the proper discernment, have strong people around you, have people that you can trust. Because everyone's going to have an opinion, and some people are going to be haters. They're going

Shun:
Right.

Shannon:
to be like, oh, they're not for me. But you have to be able to recognize who's for you and who's there for your kids.

Shun:
That's right.

Shannon:
And build that fence. Let God help you build that armor protection around you and

Shun:
use

Shannon:
your

Shun:
discernment in

Shannon:
children.

Shun:
all areas of your life, but especially

Shannon:
Yes.

Shun:
when it comes to your children, use your holy

Shannon:
Yes.

Shun:
discernment because I'm telling you it's not there for nothing. It was there

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
to put us to use to protect and guide us, especially at a younger age. And until those kids can make their own decisions, it's our job to protect them. So

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
my background is law enforcement. It goes back, and that's my thing. That's what I love. So I watch all these crime TV shows. And you wouldn't believe like judges, lawyers, doctors, you know, the mother thinking like, you know, their family got it going on and they've been raping the daughter for 11, 12 years, or

Shannon:
Yeah,

Shun:
the uncle has

Shannon:
yeah,

Shun:
been raping the child. They're sending

Shannon:
yeah.

Shun:
them to Uncle Raymond's house, you know, per se for the weekend and the kid been getting raped. And guess what? The mother's so busy living her life, she ain't trying to hit a child. So it's

Shannon:
Right.

Shun:
important to really know our children. It's important to

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
listen to our children and guard them.

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
And when it comes to the subject of many men, in any capacity, keep the children's best interests first.

Shannon:
Yes, absolutely.

Shun:
Alright, so I'm gonna move into my red line segment for tonight.

Shannon:
Okay, red line.

Shun:
Yes ma'am. Today's redline topic is she moved on and I'm not having it. So

Shannon:
Hehehehe

Shun:
fellas, nothing triggers some men like your women, your woman finally moving on, especially if your children are involved. Once she's in a new relationship, that's not the time to realize you need to step up and randomly start fixing stuff, start popping up at a house check and tire pressure. constantly asking your kids about her new situation, none of that. If that woman has moved on and is healthy for your child, nothing else concerns you. Nine times out of 10, she gave you more than enough chances to get it right before she moved on with someone else. Women, most real women anyways, would prefer to be with the child's father to avoid bringing someone new into their child's space for all the reasons we've discussed during this episode, but not at the cost of our own health. respect or happiness. It comes a time when you have to call it, kid or not. What outcasts say? You can go on and get the hell on you and your mama. Sorry, Miss Jackson.

Shannon:
You and your mama.

Shun:
Or in this case, Mr. Jackson, whatever your name

Shannon:
missed

Shun:
is.

Shannon:
them.

Shun:
Yeah, go on and get the hell on now. We done did that, it ain't working. Sometimes dating requires women going through multiple phases to get to the right person. But give that woman space and time to figure out how to get on with her life without having to go back and forth with you. And that's

Shannon:
I love

Shun:
my Redline

Shannon:
it.

Shun:
topic for tonight. Thank you.

Shannon:
All right, I love it. Yes, excellent, excellent. I am in total agreement with that.

Shun:
Thank you.

Shannon:
Yes, move on. All right, our final segment. Oh, before we get into the final segment, we just wanna give you a reminder of submitting your Redline submissions to wifeyandbabymamaatgmail.com. Please submit your Redline submissions in order to win a $100 gift card. We had a winner for the month of May.

Shun:
And the month

Shannon:
And

Shun:
of June

Shannon:
we,

Shun:
winner should be coming up in two weeks. So you

Shannon:
oh

Shun:
guys

Shannon:
yeah,

Shun:
better get them submitted So because we're gonna be picking

Shannon:
exactly.

Shun:
soon

Shannon:
Yep, we

Shun:
Yeah,

Shannon:
will

Shun:
we're gonna

Shannon:
be.

Shun:
have a new winner

Shannon:
Yes, so please submit your red line submission. Even if you don't feel like they're that deep enough or you might question, I don't know if they would play

Shun:
that

Shannon:
this

Shun:
qualifies.

Shannon:
or if this one will win or qualify, yeah, or if it will win, it doesn't matter. Please submit them. We will.

Shun:
Because all we're gonna do is pick them out. We don't go by subject topic. So we're just gonna

Shannon:
No.

Shun:
pick it out So it doesn't matter. I'm writing I'm crazy now, you know, we ain't sanctified Holy Ghost field holy rollers, but we you know, we got a little respect about to show so

Shannon:
Yeah, just

Shun:
and crazy

Shannon:
a little.

Shun:
now Just a little bit now, but we we try to keep it respectful for all listeners of all age So don't

Shannon:
Yes,

Shun:
put that crazy

Shannon:
we

Shun:
cuz

Shannon:
do.

Shun:
I'm telling you now we reading it but

Shannon:
We're

Shun:
you

Shannon:
not.

Shun:
know, we it's not to the point We gotta be uh, you know PG6 either.

Shannon:
Yeah, or we could probably clean it up if

Shun:
We

Shannon:
needed.

Shun:
cleaned it up.

Shannon:
Maybe,

Shun:
Yeah, we can

Shannon:
maybe,

Shun:
clean it up. So submit

Shannon:
maybe.

Shun:
it,

Shannon:
Yeah,

Shun:
you know, submit it, but we try to keep it clean.

Shannon:
try, please, please. All right, now we're on to the final segment that we like to call the fictional family I'm feeling. And this week, the fictional family. is a different type of family. You know, typically I would say the Johnsons or the Adams or whatever.

Shun:
The Jefferson's.

Shannon:
The Jefferson. This fictional family is kind of like blended families because it is comes from the movie life. The 1999 film. I don't know if you all remember.

Shun:
That's my girl. That's one of my top five. I love that movie.

Shannon:
Eddie Murphy and Martin Lawrence. Oh my gosh. I've seen this

Shun:
I'm

Shannon:
movie

Shun:
sorry.

Shannon:
a hundred times. But the scene I'm going to talk about tonight is the one where you know, Bo Keem would bind. He is

Shun:
Can't get right.

Shannon:
his character can't get right. He actually impregnates the warden's daughter. and the baby comes out black because the warden is white. White warden, white daughter has this little black baby. And of course all the prisoners are

Shun:
on the

Shannon:
black.

Shun:
chain game is black.

Shannon:
On the chain gang, yes, on the chain gang. Cause oh yeah, so I forgot to set that up too cause this was back in the 1960s or something like

Shun:
Yes.

Shannon:
that. Cause we don't have chain gangs today. So

Shun:
Right.

Shannon:
based in the 1960s. So. Um, so the warden comes out with this little baby this little black baby And he's holding it up against all the princes are lined up. I'm sorry. They're lined up I'm horrible telling a story. I can write it down Very well, but verbally, um, i'm sure you've all picked that up by now. But anyway, they're all lining up Um, and the warden is walking by holding this little black baby up beside the face of each prisoner, you know, looking to see who it looks like. And then he brings it to can't get right and can't get right is fine until the warden turns around then he starts laughing because he knows that's his baby. And so the warden turns around he's like what you laughing at boy this your baby or something like that. And so one by one. Eddie Murphy steps out, Martin Lawrence steps out. They all step out and they're like, it's my baby. It's my baby. It's my baby. No, it's my baby. It's my baby. And then of course, we all know the very, our famous or favorite character, Bernie Mac as Jangle Leg. What does he say, Sean?

Shun:
I'm the baby.

Shannon:
I'm the Peppi.

Shun:
I'm the baby.

Shannon:
I'm

Shun:
Jangle-a,

Shannon:
the Papi.

Shun:
jangle-a.

Shannon:
So...

Shun:
See this your segment, why you wanna make me cut up?

Shannon:
Know but many men many men so all these

Shun:
Ha!

Shannon:
men stood up They all stood up to protect can't get

Shun:
That

Shannon:
right,

Shun:
one man.

Shannon:
you know,

Shun:
That's awesome.

Shannon:
they

Shun:
Oh,

Shannon:
protect

Shun:
I love

Shannon:
that

Shun:
it.

Shannon:
one

Shun:
Okay. That's a different spin. I see you. That's a different spin. I like that.

Shannon:
Totally

Shun:
Okay.

Shannon:
different

Shun:
Totally different, but I love it.

Shannon:
Our prison families

Shun:
as a blended family nonetheless, right?

Shannon:
Nonetheless you got that right especially when you're serving life

Shun:
That's right

Shannon:
So there we have it, the end of our episode tonight. We wanna thank you all for joining us. We really, really appreciate your listening and following and liking and sharing. And we ask that you continue to stick with us. We promise you a very good ride. Sean and I, my partner in crime, love you, love you girl.

Shun:
I love you too, honey.

Shannon:
We are doing this and we ask you to all of our listeners to continue to follow us on all our platforms and like and share from our transistor site. You can go to any platform that you listen to your podcast on. We welcome feedback, even if you want to. Send something to wifeyandbabymama.gmail.com that is not a red line. Maybe it's just something you want to get off your chest,

Shun:
Absolutely.

Shannon:
even if it's a criticism or you know, feedback

Shun:
Accolade,

Shannon:
for Sean. Yes, actually, we'll

Shun:
we accept

Shannon:
take it.

Shun:
it all.

Shannon:
Yes.

Shun:
Accolades, negative feedback,

Shannon:
Yeah.

Shun:
negative criticism. You can't, if you're not willing to be criticized, you're not ready to grow. So whatever you

Shannon:
That's

Shun:
have for

Shannon:
right.

Shun:
us, just let us know. We're here for it.

Shannon:
Let us know. All right. Thank you so much and we will Look forward to meeting and talking to all of you next week. Have a good

Shun:
Love

Shannon:
one.

Shun:
you all. Bye.