Wifey and Baby Mama

Shun (00:36.604)
Hey, I'm Shun.

Shannon (00:38.306)
I'm Shannon.

Shun (00:40.004)
And we're the host of Wifey and Baby Mama. Happy Thursday, family, and happy Thursday, Baby Mama.

Shannon (00:46.04)
Happy Thursday, family and Sean.

Shun (00:49.736)
The first thing I want to touch on before we get into tonight's show is the fact that we had a very serious health scare one of our kids this past week and It's a reminder of why the bun Shannon and I share is so important You know every child and both of these dynamics belong to all of us So when one hurts, you know, we all hurt with that

Shannon (01:00.735)
and

Shannon (01:06.092)
Yeah.

Shun (01:13.766)
You know, we want to address that we realized episode one was uploaded twice. Thanks to our faithful listeners who DM this email This is like hey, he's the same episode so that has been for Corrected for those of us who are not in the social media world and it may not have seen that we did ever held scared with one of our kids and that we did upload it but we corrected it as soon as we you know realized that and We appreciate you guys. So forgive us. Thank you you know for the ones who follow our social medias and was praying for us and

Continue to pray for us. We appreciate you all and we'll continue to pray for your families as well. So for your Much appreciate it. Yes, it is. And I'm all right with that We'll get in tonight's episode episode 3 is gonna be interesting y'all. So I'm sure More than a few of you in podcast land can relate to what Shannon and I will have to say tonight Shannon I can't wait to get the emails and DMs on this one

Shannon (01:44.172)
Yeah.

Shannon (01:48.192)
Yes, much appreciated to everyone. Yes.

Shannon (02:05.944)
Mm-hmm.

no.

Shun (02:13.116)
Tonight's episode is titled let's stay together and no we ain't talking about what you think, you know It's not in the traditional man and woman sense. We're talking about clingy families tonight Y'all in-laws moms and dads sisters and brothers and cousins who act like they can't live without the people or the families Who can't find or keep love so they sabotage everyone else's relationship around?

Shannon (02:33.506)
Right.

Shun (02:40.518)
Y'all thought we were playing when we said season five was gonna be live. Well, we wasn't.

Shannon (02:44.28)
Yes.

Shun (02:47.804)
We're gonna get into it Shannon I really wanted a guess on this one. She had it but nobody wanted to touch this one y'all Nobody wants to touch it with which leads us to farther believe this happens a little more often than we'd to think

Shannon (02:53.716)
I know I was.

Mm-hmm. Yeah, yeah, yeah. No one's trying to mess up their happy home, I guess.

Shun (03:10.652)
Well, we're gonna brave the waters alone because baby you know what I got something to say so you ready baby mama

Shannon (03:16.574)
I'm ready. Let's do it.

Shun (03:18.886)
Let's go. as I stated I know plenty of you know families and couples siblings pretty much everyone listening is going to be able to identify to one of these topics in one form or fashion i'm, sorry one of these points in our topic tonight, so If you think that i'm going to make a reference to you I probably am if you think you're safe, you're probably not but We're just going to give some general pointers of what people need to do to Stata other people's business so they can have a peaceful happy home

So if you can't say amen the night say ouch, okay, and if you are guilty of the behavior We're about to discuss please stop because it's uncomfortable. It's I'm sorry. It's uncomfortable and sometimes Shannon is just downright unhealthy

Shannon (04:03.018)
yeah, yeah, for sure.

Shun (04:05.616)
Yeah, i'm gonna i'm gonna bring this table point to the table first shannon The famers who act like they are joined at the hip now I know some of y'all can relate to this as I stated we couldn't find the guest because then nobody wanted to touch it But we can both agree shannon that it's no laughing matter. You know what I mean? People like this can cause serious damage to a marriage or relationship

Shannon (04:22.798)
Yeah.

Shannon (04:28.91)
Yeah, give them an example.

Shun (04:30.504)
Okay, so like meddling or you know hitting one partner against the other you know Because they either miserable or lonely because in my experience, you know, your happiness is enough to trigger some people sometimes You know, you don't have to be doing anything anybody people aren't happy Shannon So they want to see you and your partner fighting or part, you know For example, I'll give an example of my own situation my sister she has you know

Shannon (04:44.789)
yeah, yep.

Shun (04:59.4)
pretty much sabotage every relationship. Well, y'all know I got five sisters. So let me speak on one on this particular case. She sabotages every relationship she gets in. I don't know why. I don't know what it is. But when she's with the person, like she's happy, like it's everything's great. Soon as her relationship ends, then she go tearing down everybody else. Well, I seen him at the club last night. I seen her at the Waffle House with another man.

Shannon (05:22.038)
Hahaha!

Shun (05:27.792)
And it's like no baby keep that to yourself if you're not going to share shannon when it can help Don't share when it's time to hurt, you know, don't do that So those are the kind of things when I say meddling in other people's affairs that that's that miserable people do things like that now now shannon What kind of example would you have?

Shannon (05:33.782)
That's right, that's right

Yeah.

Shannon (05:43.705)
They sure do. Yeah, I would go down the same route. I've had sisters that went through divorce, and after they went through what they went through, anyone that came to them for advice on their marriage, which I find that strange, they would never try to uplift the person's marriage. They would immediately try to, girl, you need to get out of that, or whatever.

Shun (06:11.417)
It's gonna be doomed you don't cuz I was doomed

Shannon (06:16.218)
Right, right. So, and a lot of people, you know, when they're going through stuff, they don't realize that who they're listening to has to be, they need to be a little bit more selective, I guess, when it comes to who they run to with their issues. You know, because those who are miserable or those who are hurt, those who are bitter,

Shun (06:37.581)
yes ma'am.

Shannon (06:45.614)
They're not going to try to make you better. They're not going to try to make what you're going through work because they want you in their little pot with them. They want you to stew together with them, all of y'all stewing in the same pot.

Shun (06:45.906)
Mm-hmm.

Absolutely not.

Shun (06:56.136)
Bears didn't work.

Mm-hmm.

Shun (07:02.856)
So, so you got the people that want to stew in the pot together make soup and then you got the ones when it becomes a control thing. You know what I'm saying? Because that can also be a case too of I seriously don't want you to either move on or I don't want you to be happy because I'm not happy, you know, or do I have that? Maybe they have a spouse. Now some of these people Shannon and some families they can have spouses or significant other, but they're not happy.

Shannon (07:10.565)
uh-huh.

Shannon (07:15.249)
yeah, yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Right.

Shun (07:32.56)
Like you and yours, you know what i'm saying? I've seen that with parents and siblings Even distant family like cousins can be guilty and shannon if you've ever seen the movie jump in the broom I think titty jakes either wrote or produce it All right, so we can so we can share tonight together But at any rate if you guys out there have seen it if not along with the song tonight you can go watch that movie jump in the broom and The groom's character was named jason

Shannon (07:32.908)
Right. Yeah, yeah. yeah, yeah.

Shannon (07:43.383)
yes, I did see that one. Yes!

Shun (08:00.258)
Cannot for the life of me think of his real name off the top of my head, but he's just fine So we won't call him fine, but his name was Jason and his mom was played by Loretta Devine. She played everybody mama. Don't you Shannon?

Shannon (08:10.81)
yeah, yeah she does. I love her. Yeah.

Shun (08:14.184)
Do too. She's a wonderful actress, but in any rate she was doing everything in her power to ruin this wedding weekend, right? So we've seen the movie and it wasn't just because the bride wasn't good for him Shannon or she Disrespected her or she was leading her son down a bad path it was simply because she wanted to have her son to herself, you know and During a very powerful scene in that movie after she did something very disrespectful Beyonce called the wedding off, you know her son

Shannon (08:27.896)
Right.

Shannon (08:34.146)
Yep.

Shun (08:43.22)
He just had to you know, he he just had to get with her and he told her you know, like listen I'm not a little boy anymore nor am I your man Okay, and you have to change He also went on to say you ran off every partner that I've ever had and you could visibly see in her face the shock registering You know, like I can't believe you just said that to me But you know what I took from that Shannon is that he should have been said it because sometimes that's all it takes

Shannon (08:50.114)
Right.

Hmm? Hmm?

Shannon (09:03.405)
Mm-hmm.

Shannon (09:09.656)
Yeah.

Shun (09:12.444)
Just telling people, them back in their place. But just like we couldn't find a guest the night, Shannon, that's because sometimes the family member themselves, they don't want to rip her the water. They're scared. And so often we see relationships and marriages fall apart, because that family member who was being overprotected or whatever you would call whatever the family's doing, for lack of a better word, they just sit in silence.

Shannon (09:12.6)
Yeah.

Shannon (09:16.344)
Mm-hmm.

Shannon (09:24.46)
Right, they're scared, yeah.

Shannon (09:39.096)
Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

Shun (09:40.678)
So I'm going to say what they say about being abused about drug addicts about anything. If you see something say something people. If you're in a relationship and you notice that every partner is being ran off or you notice that your family can't keep no man or no woman don't allow your family to ruin your relationship or your lives because it's my family. We got to come up off of that. I'm telling you we have to come up off of that because that word and phrase has ruined so many good relationships and marriages.

Shannon (09:46.382)
Right, right.

Shannon (10:03.724)
Yeah, we do.

Shannon (10:10.062)
Mm-hmm and also when it comes. yeah, I agree totally I totally agree and and when I think back, you know before I got married and When I was on the outside looking in at other people's relationships, you know, you think you know so much And even hey girl, yeah and you don't and now that I'm married and

Shun (10:11.418)
Do you agree Shannon?

Shun (10:29.202)
Girl.

Ha ha ha ha!

Shannon (10:37.452)
You know, there have been ups and downs and you learn who you can turn to and who you can't. you know, yeah, great. I'm so grateful that I was a lot older, I guess, and mature because if I would have been younger and running to the folks I thought in family, I'm not talking about friends and stuff. I'm only talking about family. Running to family, telling them things and them saying,

Shun (10:43.986)
Talk about it.

Shannon (11:03.232)
you know, you need to run, run, run. And then looking at them and saying, okay, wait a minute, what you got? You know, but I wasn't smart enough to recognize that initially. And now I know, you know, okay, I can count on one hand, because sometimes you do have to talk to somebody. And when people say, never, never say nothing. No, yeah.

Shun (11:10.088)
And it's a fat.

Shun (11:23.452)
You have to Shannon. Yeah, no and I and I'm gonna let you get back to your point But I'm say this everything talk to God talk to God No, sometimes you need someone that can talk back to you, you know Always talk to God that you can never go wrong with that But but sometimes you need somebody in the situation You know that can that can bear witness to say hey me and my husband or me and my wife went through this and we made it because that's what helped me and my husband to having counsel say hey we made it you could get through this

Shannon (11:30.688)
huh.

Shannon (11:34.922)
Yes, yes. yeah, always.

Shannon (11:43.256)
That's right. Yep, yep, yep. Right.

Shun (11:53.222)
So yeah, you're right, Shannon. You have to talk to someone. And I'm sorry, but go ahead.

Shannon (11:55.107)
Yeah, yeah. No, no, you're that's a I'm glad you jumped in, but for for those listening to understand that, you know, if you're running the folks and they're always telling you to run, run, run, unless there's violence or, you know, excessive cheating or abuse, you know, stuff like that, mental, emotional, all that. If it's just simple stuff, because most of the stuff, you know, we deal with in marriage is it's real simple.

Shun (12:12.346)
Right abuse

Shannon (12:24.238)
at least from, you know, you and I, situations, a lot of the stuff is so simple, but we'll call each other. We got each other. Luckily, we got each other. And we'll call each other. No, You know, we'll call. Yeah, yeah. No, not at all. You know, it could be.

Shun (12:24.648)
Yeah.

Shun (12:30.683)
and we blow it up.

you left the toilet seat up again. What my paper said you're out of here.

Shun (12:43.09)
So yeah, some stuff ain't worth running for. Some stuff ain't worth running for.

Shannon (12:53.396)
Yeah, it may seem, you know, you know, heartbreak breaking or hurt your feelings at the time, you know, and then, you know, a few weeks later, a month later, you look back on it you're like, okay, that wasn't that deep. That wasn't that deep. Yes, over some foolishness, but if you go to the wrong person, yeah, they will convince you.

Shun (13:06.574)
Like that was so stupid I Was called look I must gave up the whole shebang. Okay about nothing

They will encourage you, encourage you.

Shannon (13:21.336)
Come on, yeah, come on girl, let's go out, let's go to the club, let's go meet somebody, let's go do this and go that and you know, whatever. I know somebody I can hook you up with, because I've heard that before too, when I went to the wrong family member and said, look, this is what, you know, me and my husband got going on there. Come on girl, let me take you down here, I can introduce you to so and so. And that's the wrong move. Luckily I didn't fall for that.

Shun (13:34.728)
Hmm

Shun (13:38.713)
That's it.

Shun (13:51.336)
That's right, but that's why you got to be careful That's right. That's why you got to be careful, but I Shannon want to flip I'm gonna even flip it a little bit more on this topic What about the people? The family members who actually use that excuse as a tool meaning this the parent they live with the parent or a sibling right and that's their decoy for not committing to you know

The man or the woman live with someone so they have multiple partners and they say, know You have those people who allow this kind of mess, right? And they say I live with my mom I live with my sister that I can't be having a lot of people around or you know this and that and you'd be like, okay Why yo ex over here again? they friends with my mom. That's my sister friend. I can't control who come over here You know what I'm saying that family's that family stuff can be tricky Shannon when it comes to marriages and relationships, honey

Shannon (14:18.414)
out.

Shannon (14:26.072)
Right.

Shannon (14:36.042)
What I Know I know but I and I'm guilty of that a little bit too now cuz my brother's ex my brother's ex My brother gets so mad at us all the time Because his ex they've been you know exes for probably about 15 years But she's still part of us. So

Shun (14:46.778)
You know man, you know that one all too well, honey.

Shun (14:54.728)
Well, talk about it. Talk about it.

Shun (15:02.728)
you

Shannon (15:12.718)
We embrace her, we invite her to every family gathering and he gets so mad. Why is she here?

Shun (15:18.738)
So let me ask this though, is your brother involved in another relationship?

Shannon (15:24.654)
Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, he has been for about 10 years or so.

Shun (15:28.792)
What I hate to say baby mama as as as your sister y'all damn wrong for that or maybe Because that's making him uncomfortable if he expresses the fact that that makes him uncomfortable Invite her to things that he and his wife are not it. That's a good compromise

Shannon (15:33.186)
you

How are we damn wrong?

Shannon (15:47.577)
Well, he's not married. He's not married, but I know he's in a long term, yeah, long term relationship. But it's not just me. It's just, it's, you know, I don't control anything when it comes to the family. So it's not just me. Yeah. Yeah. My mother, my mother, my other siblings, you know, we're like, we love her. She is going to always be a part of us.

Shun (15:50.49)
Well, still. Well, still, at least.

Shun (15:59.142)
Well, I say I didn't say you I say y'all are wrong then y'all are wrong

Shun (16:09.19)
Well And La laver on the days when he ain't around Now brother if you listening i'm with you when you write brother. Nope. Y'all wrong shannon because of that now now they If she hasn't Did anything to offend you guys you have no problem. That's fine. Do separate it do Huh? Go ahead

Shannon (16:19.118)
Lord, Lord.

Shannon (16:28.95)
Yeah, and she doesn't, you know, she ain't going after him. She ain't trying to be messy. No.

Shun (16:35.598)
Is she bringing her own man?

Well, y'all wrong now I can give you an exception if she's showing up what her man is she like Negro? Whatever if this girl is showing up single to all these functions y'all did wrong and I'm which if you're right But that's in my opinion because and let me tell you why that happens to me. It makes me feel very degraded and belittle

Shannon (17:01.632)
Okay, I can't worry. I mean, yeah, I know your side. I definitely know your side. And, you know, I even know, and we'll create another topic for the things you and I went through. But yeah, I get what you're saying. And, you know, maybe I'll have a talk with mom and say, hey, mom, maybe we need to stop inviting her. Because my brother, yeah, he gets upset, but he doesn't take it.

Shun (17:01.916)
So that's why I can speak from the other side of that.

Shun (17:15.751)
Right.

Shun (17:22.098)
Because to me, yeah, yeah.

Shannon (17:30.41)
He's never over the top with it. I guess if he was to really blow up because if you ever Really got to know my brother. He can be crazy. So we've seen him blow up blow up So we know the level he can get to and he's never gotten to that when it comes to us, know Inviting her to stuff. He'll make a comment, but he won't ever be

Shun (17:38.566)
Mm-hmm.

Shun (17:46.44)
inviting her but But my thing is why should he have to if I tell you that makes me uncomfortable and you're my family then it shouldn't be done My brother Yeah, I mean

Shannon (17:57.537)
Yeah, yeah. Well, he's never said uncomfortable. He just said, why is she here? Why is she here? guess that is read between the lines, he's uncomfortable or whatever. But yeah, it's just, hey.

Shun (18:09.307)
Yeah.

And and let me tell you something if he gets too crazy if he gets uncomfortable if he goes over the top Then his person is going to turn be like why you care? So he has to be careful about how he reacts to that. You know what I mean? Because my thing is I know for a fact Let let me just explain my point of view on the other side of your brother I know for a fact that the person that people invite a rock for my I know it's not even an inkling of anything going on I know that for a fact

Shannon (18:21.036)
Yeah.

Right, right. But yeah, but listen.

Yeah, okay, okay.

Shannon (18:38.743)
Right, yep.

Shun (18:41.104)
But two things from one that person has disrespected me and for two I know that it's done out of fun and to be funny and to be disrespectful Toward me. I know that for a fact Because there's plenty of bits that they can come to that me and my husband or not it I don't have to know and I don't care if you love her that much or whoever they are do it when I'm not around you get what I'm saying So that's just me speaking from the other side of it. Maybe your brother and this girl have no bad blood. Maybe nothing

Shannon (18:45.945)
Shannon (18:51.98)
Okay.

Shannon (19:00.844)
Right, right, yeah.

Shannon (19:07.672)
Gotcha.

Nah, they don't. Yeah.

Shun (19:11.174)
But it even if he if he expressed the sense of it, maybe it brings up feelings when she comes around Maybe they broke up just because we just couldn't make it But I still got love for and I just rather not see her like whatever the case may be I just think it's wrong when the family imposed that on a family. That's my opinion So, know audience let let's let you guys decide if anybody out there agrees with Shannon and her family side of it Or my side drop us a drop us an email at wife and baby mom

Shannon (19:18.062)
Mmm.

Shannon (19:25.506)
Right.

Shannon (19:29.403)
Okay, okay. Yeah.

You

Shun (19:39.88)
Because I want to know and I like different opinions because no one's always right, you know what I mean? No one person is always right. So maybe people are listening. They're going to say I think Shannon's fine. But in my opinion, if the brother has expressed any kind of concern, now brother was cool. Like, Hey, what's up, Tara? Good to see you, Joan. You know, Hey, what's up, Susan? Then fine. We are we talking about? But if myself or my husband is uncomfortable and that stated, I feel like it needs to be a trust.

Shannon (19:42.754)
Mm-hmm. Right, right. Yep.

Shannon (19:50.956)
Right.

Shannon (19:58.039)
Yeah, that's true.

Shannon (20:03.671)
Yeah.

Shun (20:09.256)
It needs to be addressed. I'm sorry. So if y'all got a different opinion, you know, let us know because y'all could be right. But I think because he asked the question of why she always here, I think that at least raises a level of concern for him. And guess what? If you got a real cool chick, she probably busted him in the head every night when they get home after every event. And y'all don't know about that because he putting y'all in this business. But she might have the questions. Why is this broad always over? What's up with that?

Shannon (20:10.882)
Yeah. Okay.

Shannon (20:22.669)
Yeah.

Shannon (20:32.984)
Right.

Shun (20:36.146)
So y'all don't know what's going on once he get home and close his door too. You know what I mean? So we gotta consider every angle of this. And I know you guys, I know your family and I know y'all so quiet and loving. I know y'all not doing it for any messy reason at all. But like I said, we just don't know the consequence of it.

Shannon (20:39.01)
That's true. That's true. Yep, you're right. You're right.

Shannon (20:53.094)
no, not at all. Right. Yeah, she is truly our family. For example, her father just passed away about six months ago. And as he was going through hospice, you know, my mother sat with him daily, you know, at the end his end of life. So that's how close we are to her. So, you know. Yeah.

Shun (21:16.688)
Okay, I get it. I understand but but yeah, but I still I still would try to find a Common ground or maybe even pull a brother to the side and say hey does this really bother you because we can stop it It'd be like no I was just teasing, you know, it might be as simple as that. I don't know But I still think it needs to be addressed

Shannon (21:22.542)
Yeah.

Shannon (21:26.11)
Right, right.

Shannon (21:32.982)
Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, I appreciate you, Sean. It is something to think about, for sure.

Shun (21:40.74)
No problem. Yeah. Yeah. But one last thing, if I can mention on this, I like to give it different points. It's honorable mention for tonight. It's those family members who claim to be happily married. They have the nice houses, Shannon, great jobs, big fancy cars. On the outside, they got it all together. But on the inside, they're miserable as all get out.

Shannon (21:51.63)
Mm-hmm.

Hmm hmm hmm hmm.

Shannon (22:00.942)
Mmm.

Shannon (22:08.493)
yeah.

Shun (22:09.212)
These people are just as bad as a single lonely miserable folks, you know Your happiness shanna is the one thing that they can't they can't get they can't acquire. That's one thing their money can't buy them and somehow Your joy brings them miserable misery. You know what I mean? And that's crazy to me

Shannon (22:13.048)
Mm-hmm. Yep.

Shannon (22:18.528)
Right, right.

Shannon (22:25.912)
Mm-hmm. Yeah. yeah. Mm-hmm. See it all the time.

Shun (22:31.248)
and they are just so unhappy. Yeah, I know another personal family member like that. You have to recognize these kind of people and cut them completely off. And that's not hard sometimes because, I'm sorry, that is hard sometimes because it's your family. It's really hard sometimes, but it's not really hard if you think about what's at stake. That's what I'm trying to say. It's hard to cut off your flesh and blood, but your spouse is your first priority, Shannon. That's it.

Shannon (22:41.229)
Right.

Shannon (22:45.944)
to cut them off, right?

Shun (23:00.634)
And not even your children can come between that bond. So we shouldn't be letting family do that either.

Shannon (23:00.834)
Yeah.

Shannon (23:06.414)
Yeah, now when you say cut people off now, you know, in a lot of families, you're gonna, well, if you're a close-knit family like mine, there's no really cutting anybody off because you're gonna see them regularly, you know, unless you remove yourself from every family event.

Shun (23:21.0)
Okay, well let me let me let me lay this Well, let me lay this lunch. Let me lay this is a fun fact on you I got a sister I ain't seen since 2021 when they closed the casket on my father. She might as well jumped in there and let me tell you why I Recognized that she had malicious intent and she was literally trying to destroy my life and I ain't talking about no destroy my life like say my you know, my baby dad ugly or my shoes was ugly or No, literally doing things to destroy me and my husband

Shannon (23:28.577)
Okay.

Shannon (23:45.56)
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Shun (23:51.278)
Baby, we ain't got nothing else to say. So when people call for family functions, the question is X, has this person been invited? Yes, I have to respectfully decline. So I have missed several important events in the last four years, but that wasn't worth my marriage or my spirit or my freedom. Because I will bust you right upside your head when it comes to me and mine. So I removed myself from that. I'm not proud of it, but that's just the honest truth. I will lay you smooth down.

Shannon (24:00.91)
okay. Okay.

okay. Okay. Yeah.

Shannon (24:17.496)
Got you, got you, yeah.

Shun (24:20.368)
So I just don't put myself in that situation. So yeah, I get what you're saying and and quite frankly my husband has issues with that because Even no matter what happens. I can't I can't in certain situations. I don't have that problem, baby You get gone if you have ill will to me you're out of here. I have no problem with it I'll see you later friends family sister brother If my mother was trying to come between my husband and I got rest or so I would tell mama you got to step off sis

Shannon (24:35.158)
Yeah, see, just, yeah.

Right, right.

Shun (24:49.168)
I don't play about mine and that's just the way you have to be about your husband or your wife or should be anyways, but that's the way I am about mine. You're not going to do nothing to disrespect mine or come between me and mine. And if that that's a simple, smooth cut off. So I get what you're saying.

Shannon (24:51.117)
Yeah.

Shannon (24:58.028)
Okay.

Shannon (25:04.78)
Yeah, and so for me, yeah, so I think it's situational for folks because you know, my father's no longer here, but if he was still here, I don't care who's invited. I'm there. I don't care if I got beef with you. I don't care whatever. I'm going to be in my father's presence. Same with my mom. If anything is going on with my mother, any event, I don't care if I got beef. I don't care if you want to, you know, stab me in the forehead with a fork. I'm going to be there.

Shun (25:09.928)
Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

Shun (25:31.624)
Well see I guess I guess on that note I understand what you're saying cuz you know I think it's been so easy for me because those are two people we don't have anymore I don't have parents Those were the I mean, I'm gonna be honest with you. My father was the reason I dealt with her as long as I did in my life So that's why I made that comment when he died because he would always say after every situation Well, baby, that's your sister

Shannon (25:34.19)
That's my mother.

Yeah.

Shannon (25:43.158)
Yeah, yeah.

Shannon (25:53.752)
Yes, yes.

Shun (25:58.906)
And it would make daddy so happy if you just would be cordial today and let me have this and i'm like, all right daddy, you know So I totally can agree with that. But when he died baby cancel christmas everyone from now on for you We got nothing. So okay in that aspect. I get it. You know, I get it We have to be around each other. But let me say this shannon We could be around each other, but we ain't finna be cackling and he hearing how high though. You know what I mean?

Shannon (26:07.758)
All right. Yeah.

Shannon (26:15.096)
Yeah. Yeah. Right.

Shannon (26:25.054)
yeah, yeah, I get that. Yeah, right.

Shun (26:27.504)
When you offend my man, baby, we're done done. If he don't like you, we don't like you. I don't care who mama house we at. So that's just how I roll. But you know, they say all the time, Shannon, you can't expect you out of other people. So that's something I think I need to work on because I'm cold blooded, baby. You know, you get wrong with me, you out of here. So I guess that I just have to work on. I think that's something mentally I'm going to have to just work on and pray about.

Shannon (26:42.06)
That's right, you can't.

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

Shun (26:55.846)
Because I'm like, can't you? What you mean you can't do it? Bye. Never knew you. But just like you said, though, I don't have living parents. So maybe that's just the difference. You I fool with them.

Shannon (26:56.13)
Yeah.

you

Shannon (27:02.542)
Hooray!

Shannon (27:07.564)
And then also to, yeah, and then also to, and maybe this is another topic as well, you sometimes we do have to, you know, extend some grace. Even when we've been wronged a few more times than we could count, there are still situations, like I've had, you know, friends and siblings who we've gone through stuff and like my little sister who you love.

pieces. We've, you know, we've gone without speaking for a very long time. And that's rare in our family. I mean, so rare because we, tend to, you know, just talk things through or whatever. But when something happens and, you know, we kind of separate, eventually we come back together because we recognize, hey, somebody has to give and there has to be some grace and there's some forgiveness.

Shun (27:43.333)
huh. Right.

Shannon (28:04.53)
And this has happened on more than one occasion, you know, with her. Yeah, exactly. Just like with the marriage. And exactly. And close friends. You know, me and my girl, me and my girl, peace, peace to the burn. Love you, girl. When I tell you over the last, you know, 40 some odd years as being BFFs, we have gone up and down.

Shun (28:07.858)
Well, that's just like with a marriage. That's just like with the marriage what we talked about earlier. Yeah, it could be misunderstand as it could be

Shannon (28:31.374)
You know, we went two years one time without speaking because of a huge fight in Atlanta at the Jack the Rapper Convention. I have to tell you all about that. It had a little bit of Jodeci involved and stuff like that. That was a time. That was a time. But yeah, we we had a physical altercation in Atlanta. But yeah, so stuff happens. But it doesn't, you know, it didn't keep it. It kept us apart. Yeah, at that time for.

Shun (28:43.621)
Hahaha!

Shannon (29:01.294)
two years, but we were in our twenties, you we were young and as you get older, mm-hmm. right, right. Yeah. That's right. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Shun (29:04.25)
Right even even right now though You can have you can have a fall and now it doesn't matter but as you get older you learn that some stuff is not important, but I get that But let me let me say this though with this sister that i'm speaking of it has been going on for years and it just came to a point that I literally realized that if it was not going to make her happy until either I was divorced or dead That I can't deal with people like that

Shannon (29:32.246)
Yeah.

Shun (29:32.827)
Misunderstanding Shannon and ill will are two different things. So again, this is not all to be put in a box people. This is situational you get what I'm saying because I talked about the one sister in the beginning who when she when her relationship goes sour She wanted everybody in the family to be miserable with it They have a just miserable that ain't a person that want to take your life or steal you up or to see you You know wish your harm on your kids or whatever. That's just a person that is miserable

Shannon (29:36.611)
yeah.

That's true.

Shannon (29:43.516)
yeah.

Shannon (29:49.198)
you

Shannon (29:57.069)
Right. Right.

Shun (29:58.536)
And I love her so I said girl get your little miss Battelle on and we'll laugh and so it's just all Situational so everything is not to be put in a box my standards with the cutting off and and you could be all going off this earth you could be still on this earth and I act like you gone is When I think that you've done something to me to cause me ill will or you wish me harm. That's what I can't deal with you anymore Misunderstanding Shanna are totally different things than you wish me harm or you wish ill will on me and my family I can't deal with nobody like that

Shannon (30:02.733)
You

Shannon (30:18.424)
Mm-hmm.

Shannon (30:25.166)
Hooray.

Shun (30:28.188)
family or not. And my life has been much happier since I've started making these assessments. It's people that you have to give grace to, just like you said, and it's people that you should never speak to again. And you have to decide where those people belong to and which side of the line. Every situation isn't to be judged the same.

Shannon (30:29.634)
Yeah, yeah.

Shannon (30:38.03)
Mm-hmm.

right.

Shannon (30:44.856)
Yeah, yeah. That's true. Yeah, and I think we've talked about this before when it comes to people, you know, when people say don't burn bridges, sometimes you got to blow the bridge up. So I forget burning the bridge. You blow it up.

Shun (30:58.856)
my god, someone just said that to me the other day I won't say who because it would give the situation away and I don't like to do that But they said I don't like the burn bridges and that's what I said. I blow them joints up when need be That's so crazy because you were not here you're in Charlotte. I'm in Buffalo just like three days ago Sometimes they don't need to be burned. They need to be blue completely up

Shannon (31:15.79)
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, it happens. Woo! Yes, we are.

Shun (31:24.004)
Alright so now that you got my blood pressure up, we need to move on because we are past our segment. But I'm sorry do you have anything else baby mama?

Shannon (31:35.502)
No, I don't. I don't.

Shun (31:37.712)
Well, the good thing is we're a little over but the wrap up is real simple tonight y'all Don't let family you were born into ruin the family god intended for you. That's it That's all

Shannon (31:51.552)
Yeah right love it.

Shun (31:53.992)
Let's get into our next segment.

Shannon (32:00.078)
All right, here we go.

Shun (32:03.644)
Time for the sound off. This is the segment of our show where we announce a song related to our topic. And tonight, that song is Kelly Price featuring Stokely, Not Your Daddy. Shannon, I know you remember, I'm not your daddy, I'm your girl. I am the lady in your world. You remember that was Shannon?

Shannon (32:17.774)
Mmm.

Shannon (32:25.405)
I don't, but I know Stokely.

Shun (32:27.91)
Go listen now. I know your life is real busy. Please just listen to that as soon as you get up everyone tonight Do this for me. I know y'all be so busy Please just pop it on pop it right on YouTube type in Kelly Price and Stokely Not your daddy because I want that song to be fresh on your mind for tonight's topic. Y'all gonna be like, she nailed it. She nailed it All right, baby mama. Now you tell them how they can get in on this musical magic

Shannon (32:33.673)
Okay, okay.

Shannon (32:39.287)
Okay.

Wow.

Shannon (32:47.082)
Okay.

Shannon (32:51.726)
Yes, please please reach out to us at wifey and baby mama at gmail.com wifey and baby mama at gmail.com either about the song about this segment tonight, which I'm sure we're gonna get a lot of comments

Shun (33:10.0)
I can't wait

Shannon (33:14.638)
We welcome them and believe us. We will not be offended by anything you say. So feel free to reach out. We look forward to it. All right. Is that it for you, for tonight?

Shun (33:31.686)
That is it for me, baby mama.

Shannon (33:34.632)
All right, so everyone, that is our show for tonight.

Shun (33:39.684)
We love you all. Bye.