Wifey and Baby Mama

Shun (00:36.738)
Hey, I'm Shawn.

Shannon (00:38.329)
Hi, I'm Shannon.

Shun (00:40.342)
And we're the host of wifey and baby mama happy Thursday family and happy Thursday, baby mama Tonight yes Lord tonight is a week 10 of season 4 and sadly That means we only have five more weeks left in this season guys. I'm amazed and how this time flew It's almost scary Shannon Seems like the season just started and you know what else is scary tonight's topic

Shannon (00:46.837)
Happy Thursday! Yes!

Shannon (01:03.633)
Mm-hmm.

Shun (01:09.89)
from nagging to nothing. That my people, it's very frightening and it's very real in a relationship, okay? And keeping with the theme of season four, knowing when something becomes unhealthy and all that. But before we get into this topic, I would like to quickly make a correction on last week's topic, woman to woman. That was the Miss Shirley Brown, the great Miss Shirley Brown. I quoted her as Betty Wright.

Shannon (01:10.513)
I like the topic.

Mm-hmm.

Shun (01:38.446)
Betty Wright was no pain no gain Shannon. So I was thinking today I said last week this is Betty It's so well, I'm not music buffs. It's Shirley Brown who would probably eat me up right now But yeah, I accidentally credit that song to Betty, right? So Betty was no pain no gain. That was Shirley Brown and you know what? I don't know how I ran those two together guys, but please accept my apology I'm still gonna listen to both of them. But hey, I'm off that woman to woman energy, right? But I like the song but anyways

Shannon (01:39.051)
Okay. Yes, yes.

Shannon (01:46.641)
Ow!

Shannon (01:56.859)
Yeah.

Shannon (02:04.016)
you

Shun (02:08.46)
God forbid if I ever find myself in that foolishness again, she can have him. Okay Now that we got that cleared up Let's get in from that get into from nagging to nothing baby mama. You ready?

Shannon (02:10.331)
Mm-hmm.

Shannon (02:20.769)
I'm ready. Well, I want to say one thing, Quincy Jones. I have to mourn that loss and he will be greatly missed. And everyone has their favorite from Quincy. And I'm a weirdo because my favorite is just the theme song to Sanford and Son. That is my dun dun dun dun dun.

Shun (02:24.502)
Okay. my goodness.

Absolutely.

Absolutely.

Shun (02:44.663)
You did it!

Shannon (02:49.463)
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. love that. yeah. I love Steve. my God. I love that too. my gosh. I remember when that came out and I'm like, cause I've always been an Elle DeBarge fan anyway, but I was, you know it, you know it. But.

Shun (02:50.318)
Are you kidding I see I love music but I guess you just don't know everything well, you know mine is secret garden mine is secret garden, baby. That is That's man. Listen

Honey had me stuck like glue, okay

Shun (03:17.754)
like glue and actually the day he passed that's I put it on and I just played it all day man so rest in rest in paradise King much love much love to his family and his fans absolutely

Shannon (03:24.623)
Yeah, so much love rest in peace rest in paradise. Yeah Yeah All right on to our topic. Let's do it girl

Shun (03:33.454)
Alright.

Shun (03:37.598)
All right, ladies and gentlemen, ladies and gentlemen, y'all gotta help me my my my allergies is on walking on the wild side and it's messing with my brain So, please forgive my stumbling tonight. My voice is a little off but we're gonna get through it because we're faithful to you guys because you're faithful to us so We're gonna get into this now as I can imagine we've all found ourselves on tonight's topic right from talking until we are blue in the face to our partners about things that bother us, know, make us feel disrespected or

just plain embarrasses sometimes. And it doesn't have to be one thing across the board. I don't know what this looks like in each relationship, but it's not that one thing. We all have our different boundaries and deal breakers. We talk about that all the time. And in some cases, for the most part, grown people live by the same rule though, Shannon. Don't do nothing to me you wouldn't want done to you. You know what I'm saying? So to me, like I said, I don't know what that particular thing looks like.

But if you don't want me to do it to you, then don't do it to me, you know? I remember when my husband and I had a conversation when we were dating in college the first time. you know, women kept calling his phone and I saw him one day like just straight up talking to another chick who he claimed he wasn't, but you know, as women we pick up on it. And I said, how would you feel if I was out here just giving my number out and just planning dates with other dudes? And his answer was, you're grown. You know, if that's what you want to do, you know, do it.

Now a learned, woke, mature lady would have left that ninja then, you feel me? But it took me years, as I've said before, to recognize Shanna who I was and how much power I had as a woman to remove myself from that situation. It was all lust back then, you know, and I was intrigued with his good looks and that caused me to undermine my own work and my good looks, okay? Because I now realize that chicks like me, that think like me, that boss like me,

Shannon (05:06.202)
Mm-hmm.

Shannon (05:17.553)
Thank you.

Shun (05:30.87)
We would have never allowed someone to say that to us, you know what saying? Something that made you feel less than and you stay, you know? Now, don't misunderstand me, you know, I'm not saying that made me less of a woman. just wasn't, Shannon, just wasn't aware of my own value.

Shannon (05:35.087)
Right, right, yeah, yeah.

Shannon (05:46.687)
right, right. Yeah, yeah. And then also sometimes, I know when you're young, you're not thinking about, things are deeper than what they are. As you get older, you recognize some things are deeper than what they are. So when his response was, well, you do that. A lot of times that's a defense mechanism. They're like, she gonna do it anyway. They're already feeling like you're gonna leave them or abandon them or you're not.

They're not good enough for you and vice versa women do it too. We're like, okay, I'm gonna go out here and do all of this because you know, ain't nothing real. Everything's gonna fall apart. There's just a whole lot of distrust. Even before you've even been subjected to hurt, what you've seen in your home with your parents and things like that, put all of that distrust in you to where you're like, okay, I might as well or you don't.

Shun (06:19.659)
Absolutely.

Shannon (06:44.463)
like his response, you know, go ahead. If that's what you want. He didn't mean that.

Shun (06:51.458)
Well, Shannon, I don't know about that because he kept on doing he was doing I don't know if any men but I will tell you No, no, no listening to what you said though Shannon. I'm gonna be honest as much as I pondered this topic I never considered that point. That's a very good point. It is it's a dish. This is a distrust It's something within them now. I do I do consider that point We all know you've got to be messed up to say some mess like that to your girlfriend a boyfriend a husband or wife

Shannon (06:53.871)
Well, well, you know what I mean.

Shannon (07:06.045)
Shannon (07:11.526)
Mm-hmm.

Shannon (07:15.793)
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Shun (07:17.868)
But what I'm saying is it's distrust what you said is a very good thing a very good point at me The thing you pointed out is she gonna hurt me anyways, or he gonna hurt me. Anyways, I Never considered it was a defense mechanism. Wow That's just a total spin on it that I didn't see see why it's good to be yin and yang and it's good to have you know more than one opinion because that's something I didn't consider when I was pondering this topic and You know don't misunderstand me when I said

Shannon (07:26.926)
Yeah, yeah.

Shun (07:45.714)
No good looks looks don't hold any weight that in this topic I'm referring to how I'll allow his looks and physical things, know to to sway me to ignore the mistreatment or disrespect or however you want to look at it, but I never thought about the defense part of it and when you're in lust, know, or You're unaware of your own work You constantly plead with people to love you or to treat you right, you know, and when they don't value you or

Shannon (07:53.807)
Yeah, yeah.

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

Shannon (08:02.833)
right?

Yeah.

Mm-hmm.

Shun (08:15.412)
your love to them it sounds like nagging and I went through that phase with a couple of guys not just my husband because I thought if I just keep asking and crying and praying they would return my love this is the father is thing from the truth when you look at it you know

Shannon (08:18.779)
Mm-hmm.

Shannon (08:32.109)
Mm-hmm. Yeah, yeah. And even if you're not sticking with the one guy, if you're easy, some people think, well, I don't have that problem, because I just move on to the next. I just move on to the next. You're moving on to the next so quickly. Like they say, to get over one, you get under the next. You're doing that as another form of some type of different.

Shun (08:56.27)
Mm-hmm.

Shun (08:59.81)
of a mechanism.

Shannon (09:01.073)
Yeah, mechanism and not understanding your worth, you know, and then in some situations, not all, but in a lot of them, we're quick to run, you know, so if he said, go ahead and do that, do what you want. And you're like, okay, I'm out, I'm done. Instead of saying, okay, let's see, let's put a little bit of work in here and see what happens. And if you put, yeah.

Shun (09:27.038)
The old folks say run on and see what the end gonna be.

Shannon (09:30.479)
Yeah. Yes, try a little bit of work. I'm not saying you got to give some dude 10 years of your life, 10 years of your youth and waste all this time. But my mistake, unlike yours, Sean, my mistake, the reason why I didn't get married until 50 years old is because I was the one quick to run.

Shun (09:41.72)
Right.

Shannon (09:59.565)
I see the slightest little bit of this or that or whatever, like deuces, I'm out. I never thought I had to work at anything. And so I didn't recognize my worth in that sense also on the flip side, because if I really felt I was worth something, I would have said, okay, let me put in some work so I can allow something to grow so I can

recognize or appreciate what he sees in me because I don't see it in me. I didn't see my worth. So I'm like, okay. And so I immediately took that whatever as, okay, I got to bounce and not realizing that wasn't a rejection from him. That was my own rejection of me, if that makes any sense.

Shun (10:56.814)
Okay, right Well, well unlike you like you said, you know, I stayed like when I felt an interest in a person, you know, and when that person You know piqued the interest in me or I thought I was in love and a couple of times, know I was because I Know what love is, know, or maybe like I said a few times I know it was in lust when I look back but you know a couple of guys I really loved I really cared for and then I necessarily to be in love but I loved him and I just thought like if

Shannon (11:14.385)
Mm-hmm.

Shannon (11:17.861)
Hehehe

Shannon (11:22.737)
Mm-hmm.

Shun (11:24.192)
If I would just keep on like I said asking and just stating staying and waiting But what you get older and realizes or just wiser? If that person is not meeting you on the same level doesn't matter how much you nag that they're not gonna love you They're not gonna return and I didn't understand that when I was unlearned and when I think back I can remember some of my elders that would say, know doing an argument you always nagging, you know, and now You understand now I understand perfectly what felt

Shannon (11:37.064)
right, right, yeah.

Shannon (11:48.465)
Hmm?

Shun (11:53.512)
Sound like nagging to the elders like the people that were older that we argue because the person pleading is speaking or coming from a place of love, you know and and and and and Concern and the person receiving on the receiving end they don't share those feelings So it's received as irritation instead of intimacy So now what you're doing with what you're doing is pleading for love now turns into nagging to them, you know

Shannon (12:03.321)
Right.

Shannon (12:11.843)
Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Right.

Shannon (12:21.425)
Mm-hmm. Yeah, yeah.

Shun (12:22.54)
And it just took me a while to understand that whole concept.

And if you guys recall a few episodes back, we discussed how it steps and phases we go through. I think Tamara was our guest on that show. Before we finally wake up and realize, I'm so much more deserving of this, you know? And the key is you, you, because although the other person will see you as nagging, most time they won't leave because your love still serves their egos, okay? And they will allow you to stay in that place of misery.

Shannon (12:35.514)
Yes.

Shannon (12:39.985)
Yeah

Shannon (12:53.019)
Right.

Shun (12:57.058)
because they like it and even enjoy sometimes being the object of your affection. but baby darling, but baby darling, the day, the moment, the hour, you figure out your worth, there's the roof, done, bonito, okay? It's no going back after that.

Shannon (12:58.801)
Mm-hmm.

Shannon (13:11.235)
Yeah, Right. And then, of course, there's all, you know, I've talked about one flip side, but another flip side of the nagging too. And I can only speak from my own experiences using nagging as a control mechanism, you know. When you

You know, you're you're you have a good guy, you know overall good guy. No one's perfect Of course, so each each person has their faults But I've been in in relationships where the guy was a good pretty good guy But my control is like I want you here when I say when when I say how when I say what time you know all of these things to

Show me that you you really care for me and if you don't do what I say when I say do it at this time And how I say upside down on a handstand, you know with an ice cream cone or whatever If you don't do all of these things, then you don't love me. So you're out so that nagging that I did so much Just so many guys. I hope if they're listening, I apologize. I'm so sorry

Shun (14:37.742)
you

Shannon (14:37.893)
But that was because I truly didn't recognize myself worth because I felt like if you didn't do what I said, yeah, you didn't love me. Mm-hmm. Yes.

Shun (14:44.62)
You love me. You'll do all of these things. Yeah. So, so do you think though that was so you could feel in control or do you feel like that's what you really needed at the time?

Shannon (14:58.609)
I thought if you did what I said that meant you love me.

Shun (15:05.142)
Okay, I got you because I I'm thinking I'm thinking your conversation is why I had such a hard marriage So you owe me because I think that's what's wrong with your baby daddy He feels like when I'm saying to him Hey, I need you to do this for me because this is what makes me feel whole or I feel in a marriage This is the way things should be handled. You can't control me. We went through years of that Because he took my love as control because of past damage and whatever

Shannon (15:06.245)
Yeah, yeah, that's all.

Shannon (15:14.558)
okay.

Shannon (15:29.509)
Yeah, yeah.

Shannon (15:35.119)
Right, right.

Shun (15:35.15)
It took a lot of counseling for me to understand He wasn't actually having me nag because he didn't love me. He was receiving it as control So this is a very important topic people because you need to know where you're meeting people at and if I didn't recognize Shannon that I was meeting him at a damaged place that Even from his years of being incarcerated. He does not like being told what to do He does not like it because he's triggered and I'm tell you something

Shannon (15:46.513)
Mmm.

Shannon (15:51.109)
Yeah, yeah.

Shannon (15:59.565)
Mm-hmm.

Right.

Shun (16:04.116)
If you don't learn your person if I didn't go to counseling and pray and love my husband We would be divorced right now. I'm gonna tell you that Because we were just meeting in two different places what I saw is you don't love me He saw as you're not gonna control me and we were just bumping heads and bumping heads and we were both wrong You know and I just took it like and you can run relationships together sometimes because it's like no I was married before and you come home at ease an hour

Shannon (16:11.076)
Mm-hmm. Yeah.

Shannon (16:18.949)
Right.

Shannon (16:23.131)
Right.

Shun (16:31.662)
And you bring me my plate to bed and you wash my clothes and then I did this week See what I'm saying. You cannot run it together. You cannot run it together because he he was like who the hell you think I am, you know, so I Ain't come home at such a such time. I don't do that So the counselor said you know what you guys have to meet in the middle because again We were both meeting each other in two different places So we had to meet in the middle but had I not took the time Shannon like you said is that you said you ran?

Shannon (16:33.649)
Yep, yep, that's right.

Shannon (16:52.421)
Yeah.

Shun (17:01.856)
I took the time to say what what is happening here, you know mainly because this is it for me You know me and love pardon ways after this. I'm doing this thing no more So I'm trying my best to get this right, you know, cuz I'm too old for one And two I just don't have the bandwidth to hold another freaking marriage. Okay, this is number three, When you spent so many months and years trying to win people over you get burned out You know, and like I said Chan yours is a different thing. But at the nothing stage

Shannon (17:02.341)
Mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm.

Right, yep.

Shannon (17:13.649)
Mm-hmm.

Shannon (17:19.375)
Yeah, yeah.

Shannon (17:26.257)
Mm-hmm.

Shun (17:32.264)
Even the appearance changes for me. So it's I try carefully not to get to nothing Because after you nag and you said could you please come home? Could you please could you please do this? this is just me speaking in general people After a while, you're like, you know what? I'm done and then you get to nothing right and at nothing like I said then peers change and and not so much physically but you look at them like I allowed that to treat me like this and if you're not careful

Shannon (17:35.665)
Mmm.

Shannon (17:39.344)
Right.

Shannon (17:46.011)
Yeah.

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

Shannon (17:59.205)
Right.

Shun (18:00.674)
That nothing can turn you bitter Shannon So it's my advice to just leave or move on as soon as that light bulb turns on And i'll tell you from experience when you tarry too long, it gets ugly Okay, and I remember my nagging to nothing moment revelations, know dudes they breathe them would irritate me because now I don't want to nag you I want to act now. want you to get the away from me. The way he hold his fork would make me mad. You know, I mean

Shannon (18:07.889)
Mm-hmm.

Shannon (18:23.117)
yeah, yeah. Right, right, right. Yeah.

Shun (18:30.094)
So when that nothing stage comes on the whole relationship changes So do your best to try to you know stay in a good place with your partner But if you find yourself Shannon run into a brick wall and nothing's happened or they're not willing to change move on

Shannon (18:44.463)
Yeah, yeah. And to, right, right. But you said something a minute ago about recognizing that you say you were both wrong. That's the thing when you're in a relationship. You have to recognize when you're wrong. I had to recognize when I was wrong because when we're young or when we're young and cute or whatever, we think we're all that and we're the...

Shun (18:45.742)
Because nagging's enough, it becomes dangerous.

Shun (19:10.456)
Mm-hmm.

Shannon (19:13.261)
you know, S-H-I-T, we're like, no, we're not wrong. We're not wrong. We can never be wrong. It's like you, you better be, you know, happy or begging to be with me and all these things that we think in our head. That's for people like me and Sean. I know not everyone will be like us, but you have this type of entitlement, like, hey, you know, who are you? Look at me. This is, you should be, you know,

Shun (19:15.597)
That's right.

That's right.

Shannon (19:43.025)
Counting your blessings that you're with me. So a lot of times that nagging, right? Uh-huh, it's an honor and privilege. And so a lot of times, and I have siblings that I've had to, because I'm one of the oldest, I have had to counsel some of the younger ones that felt the same way. And when their relationships didn't work out and...

Shun (19:44.654)
It's an honor and a privilege, baby. It's an honor and a privilege. That's how I used to look at it.

Shannon (20:07.471)
they would have all this junk to talk about, he didn't realize he had a good woman. He didn't realize this or whatever. I immediately tell them or ask the question now, so what did you learn from it? And if their answer is, I learned not to be with no good ninjas. I'm like, no, wrong answer. I said, what did you learn? What did you learn about yourself? What did you get from it?

Shun (20:27.48)
Ha

Shannon (20:37.083)
break up, any type of whatever, there should be some learning from it and not blaming and finger pointing. And that's the problem in most relationships when they fall apart, everyone's always pointing the finger at the other person like they ain't had nothing to do. When everyone knows the cliche saying it takes two to tangle. So can't just keep pointing the finger at the other person unless, you know, the extreme circumstances of.

Shun (20:45.356)
Yep, absolutely.

Shannon (21:05.423)
you know, violence and stuff like that. when it's just, we didn't get along, we couldn't see eye to eye, we couldn't blah, blah. What did you learn from it? And if you say nothing, if you say, I just picked the wrong people, then okay. Then you'll keep picking the wrong people.

Shun (21:15.938)
That's right.

Shun (21:21.928)
I'm sorry something is something that that's right because it's something to learn in every relationship whether it stays or goes and I remember watching this one show and they referred to it they were breaking up and it was a mutual breakup because they were from nagging to nothing and it was done and I remember her saying You know, this is not just on you. It took two of us to rabble Rabble this thing up to make a mess. We're both gonna have to unravel together

Shannon (21:41.894)
Mm-hmm, that's right. Yeah, yeah, right.

Shun (21:48.29)
And I'm like, I love that, know, maturity. So that's what we have to make sure we end up on, you know, we can act. And if you love someone, you should try, you know, don't be like Shannon, don't run. If you love them, but like, but, but also like you said, Shannon, don't give them 10, 20 years either, but give it a decent amount of time. And I'm going to tell you only, know, from each, how you gauge it from each individual situation, how long that looks for you to me, Shannon, I'm gonna tell you got to

Shannon (21:57.179)
Mm-hmm.

Shannon (22:05.058)
Right.

Shun (22:16.622)
Smooth six months at 48. Okay, so I thank God I'm out of the dating game because I don't like playing with you but yeah, so Get out before it gets you know Have you looking at like I know this fraction of a Negro and got me out here acting a fool You know, like I ain't the one, know, don't don't let it get to that now, baby mama I don't live the thug life, you know, I know it's a lot We don't have it coming when it comes to relationships like me and my three baby daddies. Okay, but

Shannon (22:19.371)
Yes

Shannon (22:31.408)
Mm.

Right, right.

Shannon (22:43.738)
you

Shun (22:44.352)
It's good to know that you've at least been here and you can share this view with me because a lot of stuff you like I don't know I can't I don't know about that. So this is just good to hear that, you know to hear that So that means like we mostly all go through this guys women and men is it's no it's no okay It's for women. It's for men. This is something we all go through guys So I'm glad to know Shannon. You can feel my pain tonight. Okay

Shannon (22:48.899)
Yeah, right, right. Yeah, yeah.

Shannon (22:58.393)
Yeah, yeah.

Shannon (23:05.285)
Right.

Shannon (23:09.155)
Mm-hmm, yeah. And just so, you know, so our young girls know and our, even if not so young girls know, your self-worth, knowing your self-worth doesn't necessarily mean you have to be treated badly or you need to run at every situation. You know, sometimes you're thinking you're recognizing your self-worth when you're running away from.

situations like me or you misunderstanding your self-worth when you're sticking in situations. So it's a balance. You have to recognize what that balance is and constantly running and not putting the time in. You're truly not thinking that you're good enough, honestly, if you honestly look at it.

That was a huge problem for me and I didn't see it going through it. I figured I need to run. I need to get up out of here instead of saying, wait a minute. You're, you're worthy enough to have someone put in some work with you the same way you're you need to put in some work.

Shun (24:26.413)
Absolutely.

Absolutely and and on my behalf of that is Don't overstay I mean it doesn't take long to figure out when someone truly doesn't care about you if you're crying your heart out if you're Bleeding and they are looking at you like if they could care less they make zero attempts to change You need to move on because I'm gonna tell you something. I recognize that and I moved on but I've also in this relationship Recognized we were just coming from two different places and here I am. So again gauge it

Shannon (24:35.545)
Yes. Yeah.

That's right.

Shun (24:58.774)
As carefully as you need to but if your children are watching we need you to make sure you gauge that thing correctly Because you could damage them if they watch you that was another deciding factor for me in a lot of If they watch you take too much, don't let them think that's okay But also don't run and let them think it's okay. So gauge it however you need to but it's always good to Be particular when you have children watching you about the moves you make because it's not just about you All right

Shannon (25:04.051)
yeah.

Shannon (25:09.711)
That's right.

Shannon (25:14.146)
Right.

Shannon (25:18.373)
Mm-hmm.

Shannon (25:23.611)
That's right. Yeah.

Shun (25:27.798)
Got anything else you want to add before we wrap up?

Shannon (25:30.683)
No, I'm good, wrap it up.

Shun (25:34.006)
Alright family, well I'm gonna wrap up with a message I saw a friend of mine post on social media about a week ago. It said something along the lines of ships are meant to take you places. Friendships, know, partnerships, relationships. So if you're in a ship, that isn't taking you anywhere, get off. Ladies and gentlemen, this applies to us all. If you have someone who is constantly bringing up the same issues, asking you to do certain things or spend time with them, and again,

This may be a different, know, it may be I want you to wash dishes on Tuesday That would make me love you or I need you to get up on Saturdays at 9 and don't wake me up at 7 I don't know but if they're constantly bringing you whatever and it's really bothering them, you know Take heed and if you're receiving it as here we go again You might want to prepare to be without that person because after a while they're going to figure out they're the prize, you know

Shannon (26:16.315)
That's it.

Shannon (26:22.01)
Yeah.

Shun (26:31.436)
And I no longer have a desire to ask another grown person how to treat me. I know the way I should be treated. And that nagging to nothing, I'm sorry, that nagging will turn to nothing. And so are their feelings for you. And that's word.

Shannon (26:32.057)
rain.

Shannon (26:48.335)
Believe it. All right. All right. On to the segment. Sweet Little Lies, what we got?

Shun (26:48.669)
I believe it.

Shun (27:02.35)
Sweet little I.

All right tonight sweet little I come from a wife who turned to her brother-in-law About the things her man wasn't doing remember Joe. He gave me a bite that's what I thought about when I read this He gave me advice for years on ways to get his brother's attention and make him be a little more romantic Years, did you hear me say years, but none of it worked He felt so sorry for me on our anniversary three years ago that he took me out

Shannon (27:14.629)
Hmm. Yeah.

Shannon (27:26.673)
Mmm. Mmm.

Shun (27:33.804)
because his brother not only forgot, but went out of town with his friends. He called and asked me to pick my favorite thing to do and get dressed and I did. And he took me out and I had the time of my life. We've been dating for two years now and my husband doesn't know because he doesn't pay attention to me at all. As a matter of fact, last month he told me I looked happy and he was glad I finally figured it out.

I wonder when he's gonna figure it out because I'm not leaving either one it works for me All right, and I ain't touching that and so I Promise you I ain't giving that no advice. Sorry

Shannon (28:12.785)
Yeah, yeah. Lord, yeah. You know.

Shannon (28:23.345)
I don't know. Yeah, I can't touch that one. There's so much so much I could say

Shun (28:25.358)
That's what I say I I don't know But since this is not that that's why I didn't go into it because if I started talking we got another 30 minutes to go on this She wanted to get it off her chest Yes, ma'am. So she wants to get it off her chest. I read it. So hopefully girlfriend You can find what you're looking for in this revelation, but god bless y'all got anything else Shannon

Shannon (28:31.409)
Yeah, yeah, I know I know yeah, that could be a whole nother whole nother show

Yes, all right. Yeah, thank you.

Shannon (28:49.425)
Yeah, God bless you. I got nothing. I mean, I got a lot, but hey. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Shun (28:53.482)
All right. Well, if you have a sweet little lie, yeah, no, I said that ain't this one.

Shannon (29:03.995)
But you were saying if they have a sweet little lie. Right.

Shun (29:08.578)
They have, yep, if they have, you have a sweet little lie that you wanna, look, I can't, girl, I got flabbergasted, didn't I? If you have a sweet little lie, you know, that don't happen often, that you wanna get off of your chest, we invite you to email us at wifeyandbabymamaatgmail.com. And again, that's wifeyandbabymamaatgmail.com. All right, baby mama, it's all you.

Shannon (29:28.301)
All right, on to our final segment of the night. This is the fictional family we feel. Forget or fire. And tonight, I'm gonna take it all the way back to one of my favorite shows that's no longer on the air, because I usually talk about stuff that's already gone, but Breaking Bad. And that family is the White Family.

Walter White as we know was played by Bryan Cranston and then his wife Skylar White, Anna Gunn, played by Anna Gunn. But Skylar White was, you know, the nag. She nag, nag, nagged and you know, she was a character you just love to hate and you didn't understand why until a lot of things started coming out and you know her husband was a meth dealer.

one of the biggest meth dealers and he was also cheating and all these things. And then there's one particular episode. Yeah, of course. Yeah. And so one particular episode where after all the stuff had come out and she had put up with a lot, watching the show, people really did not like her. They're like, my gosh, she's such a nag. They had had, I guess, a reconciliation.

Shun (30:31.598)
Shruggedil is usually dude.

Shannon (30:53.617)
or so he thought. And so he's making dinner, you know, getting stuff ready because they had children. And she comes in the kitchen and he's talking, he's, you know, feeling good because they'd had, I guess, a great conversation that morning. And he's like, I'm so glad we talked and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And he's like, you know, here's the salad.

And she picks it up and she takes it and she says, I just want you to let me let you know I slept with Ted, which was, you know, pretty much something I had. I had an affair. You think you out here doing all these things and I'm just going to sit here and do nothing. Well, it's tit for tat, you know, and she turned around and walked away and sat down with the kids like, OK, here's your salad. Let's sit down and eat. And he's standing there dumbfounded.

Shun (31:38.817)
Mm-hmm.

Shannon (31:50.073)
So you don't want your nagging. If your nagging gets to that, you don't want that. You either want to fix it or you want to walk away, in my opinion. So this fictional family, the white family from Breaking Bad, I think in this case, I have to...

Shun (31:54.57)
Mm-hmm.

Shannon (32:13.169)
This is tough one. I thought I knew what I was gonna say. I thought I was gonna actually fire them but Yeah, do you hear any hit I Might just have to forget them because I don't want to fill them because I don't like the I don't like the situation I don't I don't want you to get you you're nagging the yeah to get to a tit-for-tat So I don't want to say let's just forget them What do you what do you think? Okay?

Shun (32:16.653)
Hahaha

until you hear it out loud right in your head.

Shun (32:32.823)
tip attack, right.

Shun (32:40.11)
would have to agree. I would have to agree because you don't want to fill them because you don't want young people out here to think you can don't. That's not how you do it. Leave, know, leave. That's how you leave. That's how you end that. And I don't want to fire them because being women and being in that situation, you know, I get it. You know, it's sometimes we make the wrong choice, you know, and maybe I don't want to leave my marriage. Maybe it's too much at stake and maybe we have kids and I want to take their father. So I think forgetting them would be the best thing to do. I agree with you tonight.

Shannon (32:45.37)
Yeah.

Right, right.

Shannon (33:03.555)
Right, right.

All right. That is it. So that wraps up our episode tonight and hopefully you all will go watch some old episodes of Breaking Bad. That was such a good show. But until next week, we definitely look forward to talking to you all and having you listen to us.

Shun (33:27.054)
was a great show.

Shannon (33:35.991)
every every Thursday and until next week we look forward to it and love you all.

Shun (33:44.29)
Bye.