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Shun (00:42.844)
Hey, I'm Sean.

Shannon (00:44.709)
Hi, and I'm Shannon.

Shun (00:46.704)
And we're the host of wifey and baby mama. Happy Thursday family. Welcome back. Welcome back to another week of Wifey and baby mama we have with you another we have for you tonight. I'm sorry another exciting new episode and of course another exciting guest Joining us tonight is a close friend of mine. Mrs The nitra mccade and y'all in for a treat. So I want you to know

Shannon (01:14.592)
Thank you.

Shun (01:16.308)
That we've tried to keep this list we wife and baby mama tried to keep you keep your guest list hot tonight I'm sorry. Yeah, I can't find my words It's a lot of craziness going on in the world from Russia and the mass shootings all the way to Baltimore and the collapsing of The bridge we here at wifey and baby mama are sending out love and light continuously to everyone affected. Yes Personally and anyone human connected is also heartbreaking. So hopefully

Shannon (01:35.292)
Yes, we are.

Shun (01:42.62)
You're tuning in tonight and something we say here can take your mind off it for a while or maybe even make you smile God knows we can use a little more joy and with us Yes to walk a step by step and maybe have pulled a smile or two out of you is like I said Mrs. Denitra mccade and when I say one and only this is the fireball y'all she's a mess, but you know She she's my friend. She's my girl. So

Shannon (01:52.005)
You can laugh.

Shannon (02:05.024)
I'm going to go ahead and close the video.

Shun (02:08.292)
I'm a little wild myself and a little feisty, so we connected instantly. So I was lucky enough to meet her through an organization her son is a part of, who's also my buddy. And tonight's topic title, Call Me Dad is a perfect title for her and her family dynamic. So we invited her on and she graciously accepted. So Denetra, why don't you introduce yourself to the audience?

Shannon (02:08.384)
Yeah.

Dee Dee (02:31.289)
My name is Denitra, better known as Deedee. I have three children, a 24 year old, 25, and an eight year old. And my eight year old I take care of due to sickle cell. And he lost his father three years ago in 2020.

Shannon (02:50.72)
I like to hear that.

Shun (02:51.108)
I'm sorry to hear that. Yeah, that's just that I'm so sorry to hear that. But since then, Didi, you know, you've, you know, found a significant other and you and Kaden have been able to pick up and move on, which is not always so easy to do. And especially with him having sick as hell, you know, he's constantly, you know, getting medical treatment. But I noticed how much you as a mom, keep a smile on his face. I noticed how much you do with him and not just with him, with other kids in the community. Yeah. Including my own son.

And in the midst of that, I noticed that you had someone holding you up in the background. So I've warned y'all to hang on for this ride. Now I don't know what's gonna come out, but you know, step by step, we gonna navigate y'all. And we gonna discuss the importance of her significant other, you know, of him calling him dad, of the importance of calling him dad in a blended family. And seriously, Didi, we thank you for joining us tonight. I, like I said, I know that you have a lot going on for your son. I know that you keep him engaged and I know that's a hard job.

Shannon (03:27.893)
Yeah.

Shun (03:47.508)
but we're going to get into the manner in which children address step parents or the special someone in their parents' lives, whether it's step, whatever the term is that we choose to use. Do people naturally allow their children to choose whatever's comfortable or we are here forcing it? And Deedee, since you're our guest, we're gonna let you kick it off with the first question of the night by telling us how your son and significant other get along. What does he call him? And how comfortable are you with the way he addresses him?

How do you guys navigate it step by step every day?

Dee Dee (04:20.465)
Well, they get along very well. It first started out, he always called him Papa. So then once he lost his father, he had asked him, was it okay to call him Dad? And he told him, yes, it was. So he tried the word Dad a couple of times, but then he switched back to Papa. So I think he just got comfortable with Papa, and Papa was comfortable with it just as well. So he did ask him.

Shun (04:27.092)
You

Shannon (04:32.672)
you

Shun (04:40.448)
I'm going to go to bed.

Shun (04:47.025)
Okay.

Dee Dee (04:48.901)
I didn't force it, he wanted to ask him. And I told him to ask, was it okay? And the answer was yes at the time. But like I said, Kaylin just got used to saying, Pa-pa more than that.

Shannon (04:59.968)
Mm-hmm, mm-hmm. Yeah. Yeah, I love that. I love that you let him decide, you know, to make that decision on his own. And as I've told Sean, and the listeners across, I didn't have that option with my stepdad. My mother, you know, told us, you, as I asked, I think I was five or six, I said, what do we call him? She said, you call him dad. And I was like, what?

Shun (05:02.128)
I think that is all.

Shannon (05:30.)
You know, it just rocked my world. So I love to hear that, you know, you were able to ask him what he felt comfortable with.

Shun (05:39.176)
Yeah, and I think that's really cool. And I love how your partner accepted it and was like, Hey, it's whatever. You know, I love that. And I love how he makes your son feel welcome, you know, but I also want to ask, does he have children, what's their age range and what's your relationship with them?

Shannon (05:45.877)
Mm-hmm.

Dee Dee (05:57.049)
He do, he have a 31 year old. Yes, one is 31 and one is 40. And so, like I said, we've been dating for 20 something years. And so it's so funny when they introduced me, sometimes I'm stepmom or, you know, my dad lady. But when I'm out in public, they'll be like, oh, this is my stepmom. I'm like, stop saying that. I'm so young and they young, so I'm like, stop saying that.

Shun (05:57.456)
Are they older?

Shun (06:03.035)
Okay.

Shannon (06:13.952)
I'm going to go ahead and close the video.

Shannon (06:21.979)
I

Dee Dee (06:26.181)
They like, no, you're my stepmom. So they call me stepmom.

Shannon (06:26.944)
Mm-hmm.

Shun (06:30.624)
That's amazing. My two daughters, who are not biologically my husbands, they've been around him so long. So when we get back together, they naturally called him dad because he is the oldest daughter father. And then he, even from when he was awake, took care of the second daughter too. He made sure his friends or family, they sent Jamila something, they sent it to Jania. But now my youngest was eight when he and I reconnected. And I recall once we sat down and we went through it step-by-step of us getting back together and what that looked like.

Shannon (06:32.477)
Yeah.

Shun (06:59.464)
the family moving back to Buffalo, just in general, how it felt to them. We hashed it out and I thought everything was cool. And just like, I'm your baby. My eight year old came to me two days later and she's like, mom, can I talk to him private? I'm like, sure. Jimmy's visiting us in Alabama and she goes, mama, he's gonna be a part of our family, that's what you said? I said, yeah. And I'm like, oh boy, here we go. I'm thinking she's been, I don't want him. I got my own dad.

But she simply said just like you said Shannon, she said her eight-year-old mind. Well mom, what am I calling? So after I control myself because I'm prepared for a whole nother conversation, right? So after I bring myself back around because I'm thinking she's been saying we don't want him. I got my own daddy girl I was like, um Well, call him Jimmy She was like, yes, that's disrespectful. I'm like, well call him miss again. She's like, well, he don't look old I'm like, well call him JG then I don't know

Shannon (07:29.501)
Right.

Shannon (07:41.696)
I'm sorry.

Dee Dee (07:49.245)
You're it.

Shannon (07:56.056)
Hehehehe.

Shun (07:58.772)
She's like, that's weird, mom. So I finally asked guys like, well, what do you want to call him? And she said, can I call him dad? Now I want to cry because I'm like, oh my God, you know, I knew in that moment he won her over just like he do everybody he meets because my husband ain't ever met a stranger. But I was worried about how he would accept it, you know? And so I got him, I sat him down and like, let's run it by him, J. Brown. And if it's okay, it's okay. Of course.

Shannon (08:04.879)
Mm-hmm.

Shannon (08:14.573)
Right.

Shun (08:26.544)
You know he was cool with it because Jimmy loved any child. I mean children honey, he'd rather deal with children than adults to be honest with you. So it was totally her choice. It was totally her choice and I love that. I'm hearing that since then except in your case and you know, and I hate that for you because I think it should always be a choice, you know.

Shannon (08:29.852)
Yeah.

Shannon (08:41.18)
Right. Yeah.

It should. And the way parents are today, you know, they're so different than, you know, how my mom was, because we're talking way back in the 70s, you know. It's good to see the progression, you know, in the later generations, how people raise children. Not all of is good, you know, all this we don't believe in whooping and saying.

Shun (08:54.174)
Mm-hmm.

Shun (09:06.752)
I was just about to say now because I know a person just a couple of years older than me in the same situation. She married this guy and her kids were very close to their biological father, very close to him, but she was dumb with the biological father. They had a really bad falling out and divorce. So when she gets with her new someone, surprisingly the son took to the someone, the daughter did not because she was so close to her dad. Shannon, we can tell that story, right? Daddy's girl.

Shannon (09:15.299)
Oh.

Shannon (09:23.232)
and...

Shannon (09:30.712)
Okay. Yeah.

Shun (09:34.632)
So she didn't want to call the significant other daddy and they literally Eventually ex her out of the family like she doesn't live with them anymore But the wife was like if you're not gonna call him dad We're not gonna take care of you cuz your father ain't this he ain't that and it literally turned that little girl's life around And now that little girl is out in the streets like and I believe that's a big factor in that That you exed her out of the family because she didn't want to call him dad and I think that's so wrong

Shannon (09:38.447)
Uh-huh.

Shannon (09:43.808)
Wow.

Shannon (09:50.972)
Yeah.

Shannon (09:59.243)
Mm-hmm.

Shun (10:04.592)
Again Shannon that we're talking a few years ago. We're not talking the 70s So I still think it's people that hold that mindset and I still think that's just so wrong because you're introducing this person to this baby space You know what I'm saying? I think that we should equally come together and be comfortable I don't think anything should be forced at any level on the guy to accept the kids or The kids to call him dead and when I say except I don't mean take care of or whatever but

Shannon (10:05.056)
Wow.

Okay.

Shannon (10:12.631)
Mm-hmm.

Shannon (10:18.376)
That's right. Yeah.

Shannon (10:25.44)
Mm-hmm.

Shannon (10:32.932)
Yeah, yeah.

Shun (10:33.464)
If they don't want to go give the kid their last name Then I don't think that's grounds for divorce. You know what I mean or separation Because some people believe solely and fully in bloodlines, too. You know what I mean? And my grandmother was big on that my grandmother was livid That my father allowed my mom to name all of his kids friar Because she's like you ain't they daddy

Shannon (10:36.849)
Mm-hmm.

Shannon (10:40.592)
Right, right.

Shannon (10:47.136)
Mm-hmm. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah right

Shun (10:59.708)
But my father was like if she wants to keep him uniform Shannon for what we discussed on a previous episode If you want to keep them uniform for school and that you know what I mean? So my father didn't look at it either way, but my grandmother wasn't having it baby Okay, she was she was she set her off her but mama do what she wanted so mama still won But I get it. So those were the grounds for divorce if a man says no don't give the kid my last name But it also should be the same extension to that child not to have to call him dad

Shannon (11:05.792)
Hmm.

Shannon (11:12.328)
Yeah.

Shannon (11:16.206)
Uh huh.

Shannon (11:21.62)
Mm-hmm.

Shannon (11:26.472)
Right.

Shannon (11:30.896)
Yeah, I agree. And when the biological father is in the picture, you know, that can create a little bit of stress on a child as well, like, you know, for me, because I was so close to my dad and my stepfather was great. I mean, he wasn't, he was a great guy, but I felt disloyal, you know, if I called him dad, you know, it weighed heavy, heavy on me.

Shun (11:43.84)
Absolutely.

Shun (11:47.913)
Mm-hmm.

Shun (11:56.112)
Right, I get it

Shannon (12:00.829)
So even as a child.

Shun (12:03.848)
And I can understand it. Now, Dee Dee, with your situation, when your son's father, you said he passed three years ago, correct?

Shannon (12:06.144)
Mm-hmm.

Dee Dee (12:06.748)
Yes.

Dee Dee (12:13.553)
Correct.

Shun (12:14.888)
Was your significant other, did you notice the importance of him being there? Do you think it would have been totally different if he didn't have another male figure to depend on?

Dee Dee (12:26.653)
Well, my husband was, yes, cause my husband was, Kaden was with his dad all the way until, he stayed home with them everything for the whole five years. My husband was retired. So Kaden never went to daycare. So he was a daddy's boy.

Shun (12:26.728)
Do you think that helped him throw it?

Shun (12:36.58)
Mm-hmm. OK.

Shun (12:42.133)
Oh, okay.

Dee Dee (12:43.321)
He went from daddy straight to school.

Shun (12:46.469)
Okay.

Shannon (12:47.241)
Okay.

Dee Dee (12:47.761)
So yeah, so he always had his dad in his life until, you know.

Shannon (12:51.828)
Hmm.

Shun (12:52.18)
But I'm saying, tell him transition. But I'm saying until that, I mean, once that happened was your significant other, did he play a major part in keeping Kate in the flow? Or you know what I'm saying? Would have been different, you'd think, if you didn't have a male around to kind of just guide him through that hard time. Do you think he?

Shannon (12:55.506)
Mm-hmm.

Dee Dee (13:09.337)
It might have been different, but he was in Kayden life since birth too.

Shannon (13:14.78)
Yeah, yeah, okay.

Dee Dee (13:16.145)
Mm-hmm. So what it's like living in Florida? Yes, yes, because he would visit here and when he would visit here with my mother, he always came by to see Kaylin just as well. So that's where the Papa came in from day one is when he was little, Papa would still come visit him in Buffalo while we were living in Florida, but my mom would bring him here.

Shun (13:16.536)
Okay So you think it was easier having him there? Okay

Shun (13:31.249)
Okay.

Shannon (13:33.312)
Mmm.

Dee Dee (13:41.917)
So Papa always came to play football or play catch, or if he needed something, bring it to him.

Shun (13:49.68)
That's amazing. You really don't find standup men like that anymore. Especially, you know, with the biological father, even before he was alive. And so he's like, oh, let him do it. So what I'm hearing is you guys had a good dynamic. You know what I'm saying? And that's what we love to hear. You don't have to be hunky dory. Don't have to be peaches and cream. But for the children's sake, everyone involved should be cordial. And I think that's great. I think that's amazing.

Shannon (13:52.54)
No, you don't.

Shannon (14:04.457)
Mm-hmm.

Right.

Shannon (14:11.88)
Yeah.

Shun (14:15.024)
And I also love the way he deals with how your son interacts with him. And I love the way he interacts with your son. I love the way your son accepts him, I guess I should say, even though he did have a closer relationship with his father. And Shannon, even though you were forced to call your stepfather dad, it didn't change you having a good relationship with your stepdad, right? Did it change the way you loved him?

Shannon (14:25.94)
Mm-hmm.

Dee Dee (14:29.605)
Yes.

Shannon (14:39.068)
No, not at all. Well, I mean, probably initially there was a little resentment. But as I, you know, aged and it became normal, those feelings that I initially had went away. But I still was protective of my dad, meaning when we would go to Charlotte and visit.

Shun (14:41.15)
Okay.

Shannon (15:04.84)
I made sure not to call my stepdad dad in front of my father. You know, I did not want to do that.

Shun (15:09.144)
in front of oh You know, that's so funny It's so funny with the girls. I think with the girls I think that's a funny thing and you know, we like to flip stuff here on baby mom We like to flip it and rub it down. So we don't I'm gonna flip this right so My nice my ex-husband was remarried later a little a few years later I think maybe a year later after I married my husband, right? So we moved here and he was dating this lady, but then he got married to her now J. Brian

Dee Dee (15:14.439)
Mm-hmm.

Shannon (15:21.625)
I'm going to go ahead and close the video.

Shun (15:37.656)
Instantly wanted to call Jimmy dad because I think Jimmy made her feel that way, right? His dad remarries Well, guess what? We'll just say she wasn't as inviting step-by-step as it was Making a bond with my girl. So they've been together for a while now And you know what she calls her by her first name and to me that speaks volumes, you know kids show love where they feel love

Shannon (15:43.098)
Yeah.

Shannon (15:54.824)
Mm-hmm.

Shannon (16:00.692)
And...

Shun (16:03.94)
And I'm so glad her dad didn't force that on her either. And he allows it, you know, but he did say, Shannon, he did ask her, why do you call him dad and call her, you know, by her first name? And she says, she doesn't make me feel like a mom.

And she feels like my mom is a great mom to me. You know, she's a great provider. So no one else is going to share that title with her that doesn't treat me that way. On the other hand, Jimmy was a great dad to her along with her father. So I think she felt like he deserves the respect to share the title. Because he takes me to school, he buys me lunch. You know what I'm saying? He buys me freaking coffee in the morning, frozen lemonades from Tim Horton every morning. That's stupid. I don't know why you do that. That's a little kid, but anyways.

Shannon (16:41.645)
Mm-hmm.

Shun (16:47.432)
Whatever she want every morning. He got her at Tim Hortons. So he makes her feel like She's just she's his daughter and I think there's a division with the wife Like she'll she says when they visit for instance one thing She made by the daughter says I want seafood the lady's biological daughter and my daughter will say I don't eat seafood and she'll say oh well like Right, right it was almost a couple of roll. It was almost a couple of roll-down trips, but I'm saved now, but yeah, so

Dee Dee (16:47.8)
I'm sorry.

Shannon (16:48.576)
I'm going to go ahead and close the video.

Dee Dee (17:09.187)
Mm-mm.

Shannon (17:09.529)
Oh, okay. Yeah, yeah.

Shun (17:17.872)
We um We have to invite that we have to usher that spirit in you know what I mean? You have to usher that filling in and jimmy he didn't try to buy her love This is just naturally who he is. So I saw a post on facebook that Sweet and kind people can no evil people can pretend to be sweet and kind

Shannon (17:23.054)
Right, right, yeah.

Shun (17:40.968)
I don't know how it goes. I may be saying it wrong Lord bless my mind or sweet and sweet and innocent people can pretend to be Mean right but mean people can't pretend to be sweet and kind. So if you see a mean person then that's who they are So I think I think that's true when you see a mean person because I could be as sweet as I want to be But if you make me mad, it's like okay, you know, you make me mad in that moment But you're not gonna meet a mad me or being me because that's not who I am. You get what I'm saying

Shannon (17:43.808)
Hehehehe

Shannon (17:50.278)
Uh huh.

Shannon (17:55.508)
That's who they are.

Shannon (18:09.17)
Right. Mm-hmm.

Shun (18:09.588)
So if you meet a mean somebody that's who they are because you see you're gonna show people your good side So if you meet somebody and they the devil then that's just who they are And I think I'm not gonna lady the devil now. Don't get me wrong now. I don't know the lady I don't know her I met her one time in this good life, and she was cordial with me but um my baby she don't she don't she don't deal and She said her father asked her he explained he never asked her again, and I really appreciate they appreciate that about him You know

Shannon (18:14.144)
Right. Mm-hmm.

Shannon (18:22.975)
Yeah.

Uh huh.

Shannon (18:37.6)
Right, right.

Shun (18:37.632)
She gave you an honest answer. She doesn't make me feel like a mom. So yeah, I think that all should be an inviting spirit.

Shannon (18:44.936)
Yeah, and another difference too might be, when you're living with that parent, where like, for example, if your daughter was living there versus living with you, it might be a lot more, I don't know, sad or maybe a little bit more uncomfortable, but because of the separation, I think that's probably what makes it a little easier.

Shun (18:53.161)
Mm-hmm.

Shannon (19:15.364)
Um, like Didi, when you're, um, you said your, your son was with his biological father. Um, did he live there? What's he living with you?

Dee Dee (19:30.445)
No, that was my husband. We were living together.

Shannon (19:34.592)
Oh, oh, okay. Okay. So he was there. Okay. I'm sorry. I misunderstood. Okay.

Dee Dee (19:41.57)
Yeah, he was always there. It was Papa who wasn't, you know, always there, right?

Shannon (19:45.16)
who wasn't. Okay, okay, okay. So then yeah, so that makes it a lot, I guess, like Sean, your situation where, unlike, yeah, the same way I did with my stepdad. So.

Shun (19:54.464)
She lives here with my husband. Mm-hmm. And she just.

Shun (20:02.761)
Okay, so let me say this, Dee Dee. Does Kayden have siblings on the other side?

Dee Dee (20:11.125)
Yes, he does. Yes.

Shun (20:11.436)
His father said and do they get along with him? Okay. Okay, so Everything. Oh wait, man. I'm sorry. I spoke too soon She said no Okay, I'm sorry

Dee Dee (20:16.243)
No.

Shannon (20:19.528)
You said no

Shannon (20:26.036)
Oh, that's not funny. I'm sorry.

Shun (20:29.426)
No, it was a pun it was just like I'm like, oh they get along she's like no So I'm not laughing at the fact that they don't get along TV crazy So how does that dynamic work? Is it because he's so much younger than them?

Dee Dee (20:29.692)
I know okay

Shannon (20:33.315)
No. Right, right, right. I know.

Dee Dee (20:38.578)
that.

Dee Dee (20:42.969)
Uh-huh, it does it. They don't call, check on him at any...

Shun (20:47.552)
Wow.

Shannon (20:47.954)
Oh.

Dee Dee (20:49.277)
Mm-hmm.

Shun (20:52.408)
I think that's unfortunate because we, well, of course this podcast, it's based on blended families. That's what, you know, that's what our bases are. That's what, that's what our foundation is. Although we discussed love, relationships, you know, religion, all, all types of other things, but it's based on that. And I think that's so important because once the father or mom is gone, this will always be your sibling. Always.

Shannon (20:52.948)
Yeah.

Shannon (21:06.848)
Mm-hmm.

Shannon (21:13.416)
Right. That's right. Mm-hmm. Yeah.

Shun (21:18.696)
Wow I'm sorry to hear that. Well, I want to thank you for sharing with us Dede We're gonna move on to our next segment But is there anything else you guys want to say toward the toward the dialogue before we wrap it up?

Shun (21:34.445)
No. Alright.

Shannon (21:35.456)
Hehehe

Dee Dee (21:35.713)
No. Well, I remember, I'm going to tell you this story. I remember growing up, my mom got married. And when she got married, I didn't like her husband. So I wouldn't call him stepdad or anything. I just call his so funny because his name was Jimmy too. His name was James, but we called him Jimmy. And I didn't like him. But the funniest thing was when they went with going through a divorce, he became my best friend.

Shun (21:38.385)
Okay.

Shun (21:45.344)
I'm sorry.

Shannon (21:52.064)
I'm going to go ahead and close the video.

Shun (21:54.617)
I'm sorry.

Shun (22:01.865)
Wow.

Shannon (22:02.329)
Oh, how did that happen?

Dee Dee (22:03.077)
Well, as long as they were married, I do not know how that happened. But I had my second child and I could call him and be like, he needs some sneakers. He bought him his first pair of sneakers and my son tried to walk. But as long as my mother was married to him, me and that man did not get along.

Shun (22:24.8)
That's funny. Shana, remember we had a guest a few weeks back who said that, that she and the stepdad did not get along until her and the mom, he and the mom divorced. I remember she's like, when I see him now, I'll be like, I saw your boo thing. And she says, oh, that's more of your friend now. So the daughter contained a relationship with the husband or the guy and the mom did it. That's really funny. That's funny. So yeah, we've heard it before and not uncommon. So again though, your mom didn't force that on.

Shannon (22:34.484)
Yeah.

Dee Dee (22:34.739)
Mm-hmm.

Yeah.

Shannon (22:45.888)
That is, that is.

Dee Dee (22:46.685)
But yeah.

Shun (22:51.956)
And that's just what we'd love to hear. And that's basically what we're trying to put in the asmophere with this episode, Call Him Dad. It should be a natural thing. So we'll wrap up tonight's topic in hopes that we've given you enough scenarios, audience, on the title, Call Him Dad. And hopefully, one will fit your individual situation. And if not, you know what? Start your own. As we always say here on Wife and Baby Mama, blended families do not have a loophole.

You have to find out what works best for you and your dynamic and pray that God guides you step by step through the good and the bad.

All right, baby mama, we'll move on.

Shannon (23:32.904)
Bye.

Shun (23:36.844)
All right, so on to our segment we call Audience Invites. The title of last week's song was Dance With My Father by Luther Vandross. The topic was Power of Steps. Now, if you're feeling that song or any tunes we dropped this season, this is your official invite to hit us up. You are officially invited to email us at wife That's if you wanna share any song titles with us, share how you feel about this segment.

Or if you want to share any titles you would like us to break down. Season three has just a few more episodes, so get it to us quick. And that's wifeyandbabymama at gmail.

Shannon (24:18.024)
Right. Get us up.

Shannon (24:22.24)
Okay, onto our final segment of the night, the one we like to call, The Fictional Family I Am Feeling. And, the fictional family I am feeling tonight comes from the movie, Daddy's Home, with Will Ferrell as Brad and Mark Wahlberg as Dusty. You guys have seen that movie.

Shun (24:41.724)
I'm sorry.

Shun (24:48.788)
I love that movie. It is.

Shannon (24:50.773)
Ha ha!

It's hilarious. It's so funny. I like both, you know, Daddy's Home, the original and Daddy's Home, too. But this one I'm taking from the first one. And it's a quick scene tonight I'm going to talk about. So Brad, played by Will Ferrell, is the stepdad. Mark Wahlberg is Dusty, who is the biological father that used to be married to Sarah, who is now.

Shun (25:02.397)
Yes.

Shannon (25:22.848)
Brad's wife and Sarah and Dusty have two children, Megan and Dylan and a little girl and little boy, roughly around, I don't know, say nine and 10 years old, if I had to guess, I'm not that, yeah, I'm not very good at guessing their ages. But this particular scene, Brad had been trying, to win the kids over, the way,

Shun (25:38.592)
Mm, about that, mm-hmm.

Shun (25:43.548)
Hehehehehehe

Shannon (25:53.084)
stepfathers do trying to be the you know the guy that they like even because their father is so awesome he's so cool in their eyes even though you learn later on that he is the oh yeah I'm fine and then you learn later on that he's pretty much you know he's so he's a sorry father and so Brad really picks up a lot of the slack that Dusty you know

Shun (26:02.128)
And fine.

Shun (26:12.818)
I'm sorry.

Shun (26:16.312)
Uh huh.

Shannon (26:22.708)
caught up in himself to be concerned with. Well, in this particular scene, the little girl comes to Brad and she says to him, she says, hey Brad, and I wanna ask you something, but you have to promise not to cry, cause he's a crier. Brad cries cause he's a very sensitive guy. And he says, of course, of course, sweetie, I promise I won't cry. You know, what is it?

Shun (26:40.66)
Hehehehe

Shannon (26:49.752)
And she says to him, well, at school, they told us about this thing. You know, this thing is called a daddy daughter dance. And he gets quiet and his, his wife, Sarah's there and she gets quiet and they kind of look at each other, like waiting to see what's going to happen. And little Megan says to Brad, so, um, do you want to go with me? What does Brad do? He immediately busts out crying.

He's just a boo-hooing and boo-hooing. And she says to him, Brad, you said you wouldn't cry. And then he says, I'm not. I'm not. He says, I'm not crying. But of course, yes, Megan, I'll go. Of course, I'll go in the middle of crying. And then her little brother walks in and says, wait a minute. I thought big people weren't supposed to cry. And his mother, their mother says, you know, I think it's.

It's okay, you know, it's okay for a real man to show his emotions. And the little girl says, you know, well, I think it's sweet that he's crying like a little bee and I'm not going to say the word.

Dee Dee (28:04.762)
Yeah.

Shannon (28:05.976)
And then so Brad starts crying even more. So of course his wife, Sarah says, okay, that's a bit much. So she's agreeing with her daughter at this point. But then at the end, Brad says, we're finally becoming a family. So I like that, he was so moved by his stepdaughter asking him instead of Dusty who's, yeah.

Shun (28:28.832)
versus calling him real dad. Yeah, recognizing that he's the person that deserves to be there. Because we all know it's not about the biological donor. It's about the person who's putting in the time, making the child feel loved. I think that's a great scene.

Shannon (28:34.995)
Exactly.

Dee Dee (28:35.357)
Mm-hmm.

Shannon (28:38.76)
That's right.

Shannon (28:43.096)
Exactly. So that is the fictional family I am filling tonight. Daddy's home.

Dee Dee (28:50.691)
Mm-hmm.

Shun (28:51.664)
Awesome awesome girlfriend great family cd. Thank you so much again for joining us

Shannon (28:58.972)
Yes, thank you, Didi.

Dee Dee (28:59.445)
No problem. Thank you for having me anytime.

Shannon (29:05.758)
That's great. All right. And to all our listeners around the globe, we thank you all for tuning in. We haven't picked up any new countries, but we have picked up new cities in the United States. So we're well over half of the US now. Finally, I've been hands in needle saying, come on.

Shun (29:23.452)
Let's go. Come on us. Come on and step up Yeah, because france was on the hills baby. They was on their heels. They had they had to step it up I mean that can't that you can't get beat on your own territory us. So thank y'all for showing up

Shannon (29:30.472)
I don't know.

Yes. Yes, yes, yes. And, and we've also picked up another city in Brazil. So we're now in three cities in Brazil. So to all of our listeners, welcome, welcome. We appreciate you tuning in every Thursday and we look forward to joining you all again next Thursday.

Dee Dee (29:45.021)
Hmm.

Shun (29:45.28)
Okay.

Shun (29:59.3)
Each and every one of you, seriously thank you. We love you. Till next week.